Op, you need to take a step back and look at your relationship. You're very quick to defend red flags that look like the beginning of emotional manipulation which eventually leads to emotional abuse. The slowly changing rules are huge, how other tiny things has he said something about or encouraged to change.
You are being controlling, though? Don't date her if you don't like how she dresses/posts about her clothing, just like any other thing a person does that a partner may not like.
How considerate of him, has he asked you if you’d like to move there with him? Or has he asked if you would even want to move there? Or how you feel about it at all?
Yeah I thought that was weird.. living in a halfway house is part of the process of coming back as a citizen? That doesn’t make any sense.
That could tie into what’s going on. Could be cheating and using, which is why he doesn’t even want to take the plane ticket to visit OP. Idk there was a lot going on in this post.
OP I think you need to move on. Your last paragraph is so sad. You shouldn’t drive yourself crazy and feel like you’re losing yourself for a relationship. You, and your son, shouldn’t deal with this.
I know that the majority of men have commitment issues. In case of a divorce he´s going to lose out on a lot, that is an unconscious fear of his. And marriage itself is putting him on the same level as his parents and he probably doesn´t see himself being there. He is still feeling childish, as do most men.
I wouldn´t say he will never be mature enough to marry you. 26 is still a young age for a male, even if he has stable work and good mental health overall. If you see a great person in him I would be patient a bit more. There WILL be a time in his life when he matured enough by himself. Question is if you want to wait that long… I wish you all the best and overall you sound like a strong couple.
Well of he forgot then he doesn't get to go and you go instead!
Op, you need to take a step back and look at your relationship. You're very quick to defend red flags that look like the beginning of emotional manipulation which eventually leads to emotional abuse. The slowly changing rules are huge, how other tiny things has he said something about or encouraged to change.
You are being controlling, though? Don't date her if you don't like how she dresses/posts about her clothing, just like any other thing a person does that a partner may not like.
it's a video game. Calm down. Alex is the easiest marriage option and you get bonuses for having a spouse. That's probably the reasoning.
What the actual fuck. You bought laundry baskets and he THROWS A TEMPER TANTRUM?! That’s just not normal, sis!
How considerate of him, has he asked you if you’d like to move there with him? Or has he asked if you would even want to move there? Or how you feel about it at all?
I am too involved in this relationship and i love her too much to leave her , but she is pushing me away
Troll alert.
it's not a shitpost! Just another guy mentioning the explicit history of the girl he's seeing is offputting.
You'd be having sex every other hour. I got too much to do than lay around.
F him.
F your dad. No offense.
Someone cheats n hurts my girl (when she’s old), they dead to me.
You can buy Dial antibacterial soap bars at literally any grocery store.
Ya the only reasonable advice would be leave this man asap but I don't think she wants to hear it
Yeah I thought that was weird.. living in a halfway house is part of the process of coming back as a citizen? That doesn’t make any sense.
That could tie into what’s going on. Could be cheating and using, which is why he doesn’t even want to take the plane ticket to visit OP. Idk there was a lot going on in this post.
OP I think you need to move on. Your last paragraph is so sad. You shouldn’t drive yourself crazy and feel like you’re losing yourself for a relationship. You, and your son, shouldn’t deal with this.
I know that the majority of men have commitment issues. In case of a divorce he´s going to lose out on a lot, that is an unconscious fear of his. And marriage itself is putting him on the same level as his parents and he probably doesn´t see himself being there. He is still feeling childish, as do most men.
I wouldn´t say he will never be mature enough to marry you. 26 is still a young age for a male, even if he has stable work and good mental health overall. If you see a great person in him I would be patient a bit more. There WILL be a time in his life when he matured enough by himself. Question is if you want to wait that long… I wish you all the best and overall you sound like a strong couple.