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okay, I think I understand a bit better now, thank you for explaining more.
something you should know is that he is taking hormones because he is not happy in his body. it isn't the kind of unhappiness that can be fixed with therapy, unfortunately. he wants to have more body hair, a beard, a deeper voice, everything that a man has, and it is excruciatingly painful for him that he does not. it's great that you respect his masculine identity, but it is not enough.
there could be a few reasons behind his stern attitude now. for one, he first came out to you three years ago right? so he could have lost some patience for explaining things. I do understand it is a big change for you as his parent, but you have had quite a while now to adjust. for another, hormones often affect mood – it's why teenagers going through puberty often have mood swings and emotional difficulties. he is basically going through puberty all over again right now.
asking him to stop taking testosterone because it makes his grandparents unhappy is really not a kind thing to have done. it suggests that you value their happiness over his, which probably feels absolutely awful for him. it also won't actually fix his mood, as it will mean his hormone levels abruptly change again!
if what you want is to fix your relationship with your son, I would advise apologising for asking him to stop his hormone therapy, and make more of an effort to do some research of your own so you don't need to ask him so many questions.
Sounds like he didn’t want you to know about his ex who was at the time 18 years old. Probably because he knew you’d think it was weird. Because it is. This is just layers and layers of grossness. He lied to your face.
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okay, I think I understand a bit better now, thank you for explaining more.
something you should know is that he is taking hormones because he is not happy in his body. it isn't the kind of unhappiness that can be fixed with therapy, unfortunately. he wants to have more body hair, a beard, a deeper voice, everything that a man has, and it is excruciatingly painful for him that he does not. it's great that you respect his masculine identity, but it is not enough.
there could be a few reasons behind his stern attitude now. for one, he first came out to you three years ago right? so he could have lost some patience for explaining things. I do understand it is a big change for you as his parent, but you have had quite a while now to adjust. for another, hormones often affect mood – it's why teenagers going through puberty often have mood swings and emotional difficulties. he is basically going through puberty all over again right now.
asking him to stop taking testosterone because it makes his grandparents unhappy is really not a kind thing to have done. it suggests that you value their happiness over his, which probably feels absolutely awful for him. it also won't actually fix his mood, as it will mean his hormone levels abruptly change again!
if what you want is to fix your relationship with your son, I would advise apologising for asking him to stop his hormone therapy, and make more of an effort to do some research of your own so you don't need to ask him so many questions.
good luck.
Sounds like he didn’t want you to know about his ex who was at the time 18 years old. Probably because he knew you’d think it was weird. Because it is. This is just layers and layers of grossness. He lied to your face.