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Thanks! I agree 100%. Time to do some reflecting and stop being a doormat.
So all this happened before you were dating yet you feel like she betrayed you?
STOP sending nudes. It’s not building your confidence, it’s creating anxiety. (And he’s full of sh*t, these are for him and his spank bank.) If you’re going keep sending them, accept the inherent risk. He may be a totally good guy and someone could still access them from his phone, email, cloud. The risk is there the moment you take them. FFS at least crop out your face.
If there is a will, then there is the way.
She’s gaslighting you into believing you’re wrong. You went out of your way to do what you thought would be a nice gesture. A typical person can be upset while recognizing that it was a kind thing to do. A typical person (especially one with mental illness like myself) has to be at the top of their game when it comes to communicating. She’s acting helpless, codependent, and possibly you caused all of that, and it’s not fair that we always have to be our best selves and be the bigger person and do the therapy and read the books – but it is what it is. Eating disorder or not – you either eat the dinner as prepared or you don’t eat. Which could trigger her. Which is why she needs to be the one to say “I’m going to make the meals. I appreciate what you were trying to do, but because I’m the picky eater, I’d prefer I’d you woke me up to cook.” And then she has to stick to it. Neither of you can be angry about situations you create. Why did she need you to do her adaptive stuff on her computer? She’s finishing undergrad – she couldn’t figure it out? It’s one thing to ask for help – but to demand you do the entire thing is something else entirely. This is a very strained relationship. She’s messed up – as am I. It’s not a judgment, it’s what is. And being not messed up is on us. Not our partners. She needs therapy. She’s in school and should be able to get a free one through the university. Also in the uk don’t you have universal healthcare? Correct me if I’m wrong. She can do most doctor visits on her laptop. Dentist, and friends – that’s on her to do. She has to say “in six weeks I need $55 to get my teeth cleaned. If they find anything wrong I will bring the bill home to discuss what we can and can’t afford right now.” I had to wait over a decade to get my teeth fixed – but keeping up on them being clean is my responsibility. I have so much in common with your wife it’s difficult to see who i used to be. But there is hope for change. If she desires it. If she sees nothing wrong with her actions – you need to set healthy boundaries. If that means a separation – that’s what it means. It doesn’t get better once college is over. If she sees nothing wrong but you, she will continue to guilt you into being her constant caretaker. Next it will be she’s too stressed to work. Too stressed to be kind to your children. To stressed to get out of bed. Nothing but demands and screaming matches. It just keeps getting worse until something shocks her into changing. For me it was the fear of losing my partner. I’ve always been in therapy but I didn’t take it very seriously. I grew up with abusive parents. I have a slew of mental health issues. I struggle with an ED and require my food to be very precise. So all of this comes from a place of being in wife’s shoes.
She is wrong here. You can acknowledge your part in it (not knowing how she prefers spaghetti?) and work on the food together. Make sure the plan for what you are eating, your budget, supplies in the house for what – all of it – to prevent this argument in the future.
But besides that she needs therapy and you need MC. Full stop. It’s an unhealthy dynamic. No matter who is wrong – you both need to be working to be better for each other. If one isn’t working, the other needs to set the boundaries and be ready to act on them. We can only control ourselves.
The red flag for me is the casual mention and then the question “am I being gaslit?” Followed by no explanation or followups in the comments. When I was being abused and questioning it I was desperate to explain what had happened because surely I wasn’t the type of person who would let myself be abused. I believed him until I started thinking about how he won’t say how the videos exist- either he’s got cameras set up all over his house constantly recording, or he knew to set one up in advance, or he whipped out and filmed someone being abusive and they just kept going, which all suggest being waaay out of Reddit’s paygrade.
it’s really easy to compare yourself to others, especially friends, and feel like you are lacking in some way. i doubt there is any significant issue in that department, he probably just feels “not as cool” as his friends. he’ll probably get over that eventually but if it’s a recurring topic that might be cause for concern
That was an attempted, and failed, ad hominem. You didn't give a decent response or rebuttal
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Then you just need to force the conversation. You may be at a point where you need to split up if you are thinking of straying. Just don't do it its a shitty thing to do to somebody who you say you love.
The Portuguese lady and Colin Firth who couldn't communicate and know nothing about each other, and he only fell in love with her when she got very hot to jump in the pond? I don't think I'd consider that one healthy! (I love the movie btw)
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It makes everything out in the open and agreed to so people aren't confused. My partner and I have contracts. It makes us both feel secure knowing we're both protected. We've both had insane exes and we are making sure if something happens (had family change personalities due to trauma) that we are protected.
Better than most couples coming here asking questions because they can't have basic conversations with each other on topics. With a straightforward contract everyone knows what's going on and what's expected.
You are in a relationship with a narcissist so be careful!
It took him 4 months to make feel hurt a strong and confident person as you! Imagine how much you'll be deceived and hurt in the future?
Gradually he'll destroy your self worth because he's empty inside and needs to break you in order to feel good about himself.
You are confused because you were manipulated!
Of course it's disrespectful, of course it's laying! Nothing to be confused about, you are not crazy!
“Ignorance is bliss” – guess what, it isn't anymore! Already he started breaking you as person and making you question your sanity.
How? Gaslighting, projection, triangulation..
You are in “lovebombing” stage and easily manipulated to doubt yourself while feeling hurt! Love shouldn't hurt! You should feel loved and respected but with him you'll feel miserable and confused…
Do you really think that he's “paranoid”?
He's not paranoid, he's insecure! He's jealous! He's possessive! He thinks that you are his property. Don't be confused and think that his insecurities are love! That's not love! His “paranoia” is not love, it's craziness! Don't brush it off!
His words and his actions are not the same! Don't be fooled!
Tell him for the fun that you slept with some guy from the group and you'll see how he'll make you feel bad for still seeing him, he'll accuse you of sleeping with him, he'll guilt trip you, call you names.. until you stop being friends with that guy. His ego would be hurt and he'll be unreasonable until you do what he wants you to do! You'll think that he's doing that because he loves but that isn't love! That's isolation and control of you, breaking you down step by step.
He's not paranoid, but he's sick! He's a cheater and trying to prove that you are a cheater too! (projection). Trust me he'll find something from your past on social media and make you feel guilty about it!
Ignorance is bliss but be smart!!!!
If he says that his ex is crazy then know that one day you'll be crazy too!
You'll forgive him for hurting you but add r/narcissisticabuse sub if you ever need to check your sanity.
Also, he's not sorry for hurting you! He doesn't care because you told him that you didn't want to know!
Someone that truly loves and respect you would feel sorry for hurting you! There would be no excuses! Also, they wouldn't hurt you in the first place!
His gaslighting, acting innocent, making you doubt your sanity, repeating what you said is calculated. He's avoiding the responsibility for hurting you! At the same time, he's blaming you for being hurt by him! You are somehow accepting the responsibility for being hurt by him, it's your fault because you feel hurt! You are responsible for hurting yourself! You are thinking that someone who say “I love you” wouldn't hurt you.. but he did!
He didn't do anything wrong because you didn't wanna know! He didn't lie when you asked him about the girl that acted interested in him, he didn't talk about you sleeping with someone from the group, he didn't act crazy (paranoid).. no, it's all your fault!
well maybe update your OP with that info then
This is what I would do as well.
You’re a mess so yeah.
Ooof, your comment just really upsets me. You need to develop some relationship confidence. I realize you’re young and you probably will in your own time, but it really can’t come quick enough.
1) if he says he doesn’t have the money, say he does have the money because you watch him spend some of it on other projects/people. Some of that money needs to go to following through with his commitments. Not every cent he makes obviously, but if he says he’s going to take you on a boba date then the next $5 he has needs to go to that, not buying car parts.
2) he also needs to rub his two brain cells together and think wow, OP has driven to me the last two times, it’s probably time I get off my ass and come to her.
3) Also make sure to tell him that you won’t be spending your life holding his hand through basic relationship concepts such as “keep your promises” and “return favors.” He needs to think for himself and constantly check in to make sure he’s maintaining an equal partnership.
4) What I mean by “relationship confidence” is making your feelings known. I strongly feel that if your main priority when talking about how someone’s mistreating you is “not wanting to upset them” then you’re not ready to be in a relationship. You absolutely must have the strength and confidence to explain what’s upsetting you, why and what you need your partner to do to rectify the situation. And if he won’t follow through and you know you’re not being unreasonable, then the relationship isn’t as great as you thought and neither is he. That’s when you wipe your hands clean of it.
Tell your boyfriend he needs to do better
Thank you. I appreciate the comment and I agree. I feel a bit broken over all this, but I think with time it will pass.. just very hot to deal with the disappointment
He for sure doesn't like you now so this was a great self-fulfilling prophecy.
Why are you bothering to get him to pay attention to you? If you don't think he likes you, move on.
people do it everyday
I really am and I’m trying. I try with her all the time and give her patience, it’s almost at times like she’s taking advantage. I posted this because yesterday she burnt my hair and said it was an accident and I really had to hold myself. My partner is concerned with my health and safety with the things she does purposely but he said we should talk if I need to about this and he has tried tirelessly with her. And doing the gentle parenting isn’t working – we grounded her once and she came back at 3am with the police drunk. She was 13. Her Nan picked her up while we was asleep and SS was involved after that and seen we have everything we need in order to help.
My partner told her this morning he cannot afford to pay so much but is willing to get her things on a behaviour bases. She said she will get pregnant and go on benefits. We was both shocked. Her nana picked her up and she’s gone shopping. We both aren’t sure what to do anymore.
7 years ago, A girl said I love you to me, while we were having sex. We met each other two weeks prior. I married her last year. I Rationalize a lot of things in life. I don't rationalize love.
ONE OF THOSE DRUNKEN MISHAPS
She definitely wanted this child and as far as her behavior goes she wants to control all aspects of it.
Exactly! She’s operating from a place where her actions will continue to hurt her kids and she doesn’t notice or maybe she doesn’t care. Idk what but OP is grown now and has a say about how her path with go.
Yep this is what OP needs to see.
Definitely shook her awake. She will be more careful in the future.
Bloke it really sounds like you're too immature for marriage. Take a break to grow up is my advice.
She is not the same person, are you that daft?
He thought she was loyal, truthful and someone he could trust with anything without thinking. In reality she is a cheating, disloyal, deceitful, selfish POS that only cares about herself at the end of the day.
He doesn’t care if I take care of myself, but I’m thinking maybe I need some new toys or different ones?
You are wasting your time. His actions tell you that. He’s not pursuing you. He’s not affectionate in private or public. It was a hookup which is what he does.
She’s 26, I’m 23! But thank you, I’ll try that
I would have thought my husband was joking and laughed. Do the turkey baster thing! But really, if I found out that they swapped on me earlier on, I would be pissed. They BOTH treated you like chattel when they swapped out on you.
He’s not committed to you. He’s only interested in sex with you.
I’m guessing when you have plans it usually ends up with sex once you get back to whoever’s place you’re staying at. So he doesn’t mind doing things as long as he can fuck you afterwards.
Do not give in and have unprotected sex because you have no idea if he is even monogamous with you.
He sounds like even when you were together, he only saw you as casual.
I doubt he will be any different if you get back together.
This is not normal for men at all, don't let anyone make you think it is.
Clear communication here if you want to give him another chance; tell him how it made you feel and if he disrespects that then immediately cut ties and move on
Trust yes – so what have you done to erode the trust he should have in you?
Or has he always been this bad, in which case the question is why have you not left already?
Sounds as if they were each gifting things of the kind they would love to receive?
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Sorry this sounds like the worst kind of gaslighting ass. He thinks he can get the best of both worlds and is playing you. Walk away.