You admit in comments you're still having the affair and aren't even sure you're willing to end the affair.
The affair means more to you than your marriage.
Tell your husband so he can file for divorce. Telling him is the only appropriate action to take. But, let's be honest, you absolutely don't deserve forgiveness. Nor do you even care what your poor husband wants.
Co worker, just mindless banter. Deleted because my girl still wouldn’t approve of.
You admit in comments you're still having the affair and aren't even sure you're willing to end the affair.
The affair means more to you than your marriage.
Tell your husband so he can file for divorce. Telling him is the only appropriate action to take. But, let's be honest, you absolutely don't deserve forgiveness. Nor do you even care what your poor husband wants.