is there are would you just not say anything to them
You can talk to people and be friendly without being friends. Once it gets to the friend stage, your wife shouldn't be meeting them in a chance encounter at the grocery store. Ideally, she'd already be friends with them herself. At minimum, she should have at least met the them.
You say you have both established feelings. You shouldn’t suffer silently. The best thing you can do is communicate honestly. Pay attention to his reaction. It will reveal a lot about how he handles situations. Why cut him off completely without knowing where he stands?
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I[30M] was single from age 26 till a few months ago. While I was single, I mainly focused on work and sex. I had just 1 person I saw regularly just for sex. We both understood what we were doing. Then, when I met my now girlfriend[26F], I broke it off with the other girl and just stuck with my girlfriend because I don't cheat.
However, my girlfriend asked if I was sleeping with anyone before her, I said yes and told her I ended it the day we started flirting. She got so pissed and started yelling at me for pre cheating? I've never heard that term, just cheating, which occurs while being in a relationship. I told her we barely started talking, and I even cut it off when I started flirting with her because I couldn't talk to multiple girls at the same time. It's not who I am, never has been. She was yelling, crying, telling me to go back to that S***t. I told her not she was acting nuts.
This event occurred at my apartment, I went to my office to relax and started a bit of work. I hear my doorbell, I go downstairs, and it's the girl I used to hook up with. She looks confused, I'm confused. My effing girlfriend texted her from my phone to come over. I asked her why she would do that? Her response was, “I knew she would come over, see you're a cheater.” I'm completely mindblown. I told her she needs to attend therapy for whatever issues she has or past trauma that is causing these issues now. She told me I was a cheating POS. The other girl is at the restaurant down the street and told me that if I needed someone to talk to, she would be there.
I'm thinking about going because I don't know what else to do.
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UPDATE: I BROKE UP WITH CRAZY. she came over point blank and told me she didn't text the ex fwb. I flat out told her to get the f out of my place. Crazy text me 5 hours later from another number saying, “If I give you a blowjob, can I come back. I'll be the best you ever had. You can do whatever you want.” I BLOCKED THE NUMBER.
UPDATE 2: I'm getting phone calls, voice-mails from random numbers, my sister is getting calls, Crazy told her we're on a break and that I'm not answering her calls. My sister is pissed.
Nothing is wrong with what you asked. What’s wrong are the people in your house don’t respect you and this is a toxic situation and your husband doesn’t care about how you feel.
is there are would you just not say anything to them
You can talk to people and be friendly without being friends. Once it gets to the friend stage, your wife shouldn't be meeting them in a chance encounter at the grocery store. Ideally, she'd already be friends with them herself. At minimum, she should have at least met the them.
You say you have both established feelings. You shouldn’t suffer silently. The best thing you can do is communicate honestly. Pay attention to his reaction. It will reveal a lot about how he handles situations. Why cut him off completely without knowing where he stands?
Are you expecting people to feel badly for you? Break up with your boyfriend. He deserves better
If you do not get authorities involved he might and he could end up with custody. You need to work with professionals
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
I[30M] was single from age 26 till a few months ago. While I was single, I mainly focused on work and sex. I had just 1 person I saw regularly just for sex. We both understood what we were doing. Then, when I met my now girlfriend[26F], I broke it off with the other girl and just stuck with my girlfriend because I don't cheat.
However, my girlfriend asked if I was sleeping with anyone before her, I said yes and told her I ended it the day we started flirting. She got so pissed and started yelling at me for pre cheating? I've never heard that term, just cheating, which occurs while being in a relationship. I told her we barely started talking, and I even cut it off when I started flirting with her because I couldn't talk to multiple girls at the same time. It's not who I am, never has been. She was yelling, crying, telling me to go back to that S***t. I told her not she was acting nuts.
This event occurred at my apartment, I went to my office to relax and started a bit of work. I hear my doorbell, I go downstairs, and it's the girl I used to hook up with. She looks confused, I'm confused. My effing girlfriend texted her from my phone to come over. I asked her why she would do that? Her response was, “I knew she would come over, see you're a cheater.” I'm completely mindblown. I told her she needs to attend therapy for whatever issues she has or past trauma that is causing these issues now. She told me I was a cheating POS. The other girl is at the restaurant down the street and told me that if I needed someone to talk to, she would be there.
I'm thinking about going because I don't know what else to do.
Feel free to message me about advice and stuff. The comments don't show.
UPDATE: I BROKE UP WITH CRAZY. she came over point blank and told me she didn't text the ex fwb. I flat out told her to get the f out of my place. Crazy text me 5 hours later from another number saying, “If I give you a blowjob, can I come back. I'll be the best you ever had. You can do whatever you want.” I BLOCKED THE NUMBER.
UPDATE 2: I'm getting phone calls, voice-mails from random numbers, my sister is getting calls, Crazy told her we're on a break and that I'm not answering her calls. My sister is pissed.
Nothing is wrong with what you asked. What’s wrong are the people in your house don’t respect you and this is a toxic situation and your husband doesn’t care about how you feel.