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Eva, 25 y.o.
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Date: December 23, 2022
Eva, 25 y.o.
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He’s negging you
He’s negging you
Bro~
No way. No way would I ever give my son up for adoption.
Mourn the lack of the supportive, loving parents you deserved, and stop trying to make it work with someone who has no interest in doing better. Check out r/raisedbynarcissists for more specific resources and advice on how to maintain relationship boundaries with parents with cluster B personality disorders.
He’s gonna catch on soon to the fact you’re playing games to get his attention. You can’t play mind games and emotionally drain a man and expect him to stick around, especially so early on. As you said, that is toxic. I saw you wrote you cannot afford therapy. You are not ready to be in a relationship.
Also, don’t date guys you like more than they like you. If you already know that then it’s doomed. Men like to chase and women like to be chased. It’s a two way street but you either get it or you don’t.
Men like to know a woman wants them to herself, but don’t like overly jealous women. You choose your battles and have to understand there’s a difference between healthy jealousy and insecurity. Once it hits insecurity a man will think you’re overbearing and run for the hills.
Take time and work on yourself. You seem self-aware but unable to stop this out of pocket behavior. This leads me back to the fact you’re not ready for a real relationship. It’s not fair to trap what is likely a nice man into something in which you verbally accuse him and play petty mind games with him. If he respects himself he will leave. If he’s insecure himself, he will stay and let you walk all over him. Be the better person and either get your act together or move on. Heal and try to give it another chance or find a new partner when you’re more mature. It sounds like it’s already ending…so thank gosh for that.
You have to get over these things yourself and grow up a bit. We have all been hurt in life. Doesn’t give us an excuse to run all over people.
Good luck to you. I mean it. But if you want a successful long term relationship, I’d start journaling and reading some self-help books. Don’t date again until you’re through this.
She’s probably ashamed and embarrassed that she came to you like that, and that you didn’t reciprocate at that time. She probably feels rejected. You might want to go to her and just say, hey, can we talk about that? I think we could have a fair shot at a better relationship if we get everything out on the table. Just see what she says.
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Sorry you’re in this shituation.
what you want your future to be
And it doesn’t benefit the children to grow up in a home with unhappy, lonely parents. Kids pick up on this kind of thing, and having this kind of relationship as their primary example of what love should look like does a lot more harm than good in the long run.
Do it to her next time and see how she reacts.
But yeah she sounds like a bitch
I did some research and the country that I am visiting is under the visa wavier program, but the visa is only valid for 3 months
It is very interesting about the Snapchat name, though …. something is fishy.
Glad you are all clear with your health. Good luck navigating this situation.
I also like to be surprised with romantic gestures. Yanking me out of work on a busy day is not romantic – it is extremely stressful and shows little thought towards my feelings.
A romantic surprise is like, “I got you these flowers!” Or “I got us a bottle of champagne to enjoy tonight after your long day”.
That’s like saying just because someone enjoys spicy food that they’d surely love to eat a ghost pepper. When most people who like spicy food are thinking like, naked salsa and spicy margaritas.
That's not true, some people have a limit of stuff they can experience before they break down, you'll never know who this applies to or where that limit is.. conversely having a stable supportive upbringing can also foster resilience. You are allowed to like who you like but you're reasoning has not basis in truth.
Trauma can also make people react to further trauma in disordered ways. Your friends also wrong in exactly the opposite way to you.
Your options are literally either break up or parent a child you don’t want with a woman who it sounds like you’re implying will not be a good parent herself.
You can’t make her get an abortion. So you literally have two options: stay and be a parent or leave.
Sounds like fun, where is the issue?
If he is someone with persistent mental health issues then his dusty ass has NO BUSINESS raising a child unless he’s doing everything in his power to deal with his issues. This means meds, therapy, support groups, meditation, exercise, anger management, whatever it takes. I say this as a parent with lifelong anxiety, depression and ADHD. Even if he is not being directly harmful to your son now, his atrocious emotional management skills and volatility means that he is not an emotionally safe person for your son to depend on. And that’s not something any child should have to grow up with.
Your husband is a miserable human being and he’s doing nothing to change that reality. He wants you to extend him endless patience and compassion while he stays stuck in the same emotional rut for the rest of his life and buried you in it alongside hun. Truly, the best thing you can do for your son is leave, so that he doesn’t grow up thinking that this is how a man should be allowed to treat his family.
So he killed one bird? And he did so accidentally?
Looking at your past comments that you’ve deleted, you’re toxic. If you don’t like your husband, let him go. You’re an abusive person and you need a therapist asap. You’re slowly breaking your husband, poor guy. He deserves better
Her insecurities aren’t your problem. All you can do is tell her that you you don’t think she’s ugly or fat, that you love her how she is now, and that’s it. If she doesn’t trust you, that’s a her problem. And not a good sign for your marriage.
I am nervous that this might be our future too. Im not signing up for that ?
It's not healthy to break up as a manipulation tactic. And you know the relationship is toxic. Get out and get separation. Then, take your time getting into a new relationship.
Fuck's wrong with you?
Might also be in the realm of sucking
Time to be single again
She’s still being a dim bulb about the fight. “He would have chickened out” is not the point. If you were the one who got up and got in the other asshole’s face, you’re the one the bouncer would have pitched out on the sidewalk on your ass. You start getting physical, you are instantly The Identified Problem, whereupon you, not they, start collecting consequences. A measured response is nearly always better than flying off the handle, and her expectations are asinine.
You want your 22 year old boyfriend to get a vasectomy? What?
You couldn't pick ANYONE else besides your son's friend? Wtf?
I think we need someone to help navigate us through the waters we are in. Having a kid has changed our lives so much. Financially, socially, romantically. We’ve both said hurtful things to one another and communication has broken down. We are both great parents and are good with each other around our kid (mostly), but how we interact feels quite hollow. These things feel like they aren’t getting better with time.
I also think my partner is depressed but I can’t get him to speak to a medical professional about it. I guess I’ve been hoping that couples therapy might help him open up about this in a supportive environment.
Those are things that people have to talk about before hand and that’s not how you choke someone. You shouldn’t have any lasting sensations/injuries from it.
First she gets a new job, goes NC with the AP, open device, open password open location
Next you both get STD tested
Move into Acceptance ? You won't, and you shouldn't, as the choice she made to cheat was unacceptable. She is ready to rug sweep and move on, that won't work for you.
You can forgive, but you will never forget. First you need to know what you are forgiving, the 3 weeks from flirt to sex sounds fishy, and the crying sounds unlikely.
He says it was because he was exposed to porn at a young age and it really fucked him up for a while and he just wanted to try it because that’s what he saw on the internet, he doesn’t watch porn anymore and I know for a fact that is true because we are always together.
A lot of molesters have been victims of molestations in their youth themselves
Old sport
What is in the stories? Is it him sexualizing himself or is it something more innocuous? If it's innocuous, do you know who this guy is to her? Might be worth figuring all that out before you fly off the deep end – a bunch of serious reactions to sexualized photos is one thing, but that kind of reaction to dog photos is another. I'd be hesitant to think there's anything sketchy if she not only trusted you with her phone passcode but trusted you to be alone with the phone on purpose – most cheaters are smarter than that.
Honestly, if you'd throw this away this happily because of an emoji and not even actually words without even discussing it with her, it's not worth keeping. You're super early on, so it's not like the investment is much of a loss. In the future, it's really best if you don't date anyone whose phone you want to look through this bad with no provocation – trust your partner or don't date them.
Edited my original comment to clear this point
Getting weird over spotify playlists? Uhhhhh… girl…. Hmm. Well you know your relationship better than I, some internet stranger, do. But I mean for me, I have a secure attachment style. And I wouldn't bat an eye at someone sharing gym playlists or music with my s/o. And if it were an AITA, you're definitely not. Not even remotely.
PS. If you wanna chat more privately and vent or anything, feel free to PM.
Do you know the things your girlfriend is telling you to be true? It sounds like she didn't show up and didn't communicate, which would get most people fired, especially after taking time off after starting a job a few weeks ago.
So if you were to go on a boys' trip to Vegas, would you cheat on your partner? I'm sure you'll say “I wouldn't go,” but in a hypothetical scenario where you did for whatever reason, would you cheat?
If I'm seeing someone, I'm going on dates with them. Romantic intentions. If I'm hooking up with someone, I'm just having sex with them. I know this sub loves calling people liars, but this is just kind of basic.
You're going to have to grow a spine and just tell this guy he's being inappropriate, pushy and that you don't feel the same as he does. It's always tragic when someone blows up a friendship like this. But clearly this guy isn't your friend, has probably been envisioning you naked the whole time and on top of that is super controlling. You're going to have to put a stop to it.
It’s gross regardless, but it definitely originated in misogyny – women who do it are playing into the patriarchy’s idea of objectifying the people they want to date. Women can absolutely be sexist, and often are, but it’s useful to acknowledge the fact that objectification has long been a man’s game at the expense of women.
Mix of 2 and 5, I’d almost guarantee it.