I see in your comments that you posted expressing interest in an R4R post. I'm assuming the nature was romantic/sexual, in which case most people would consider that cheating or at least attempting to.
I know I fucked up, I know I'm an idiot, but it stopped at the comments on the posts
If you want to fix things, stop minimizing what you did immediately. No “but I only,” no “it was just.” Take full accountability with no caveats.
You also need to examine why you did this. If you can't answer that question, you can't promise it won't happen again. In the meantime, find a couples counselor and tell her that you're willing to do whatever it takes to earn her trust back including counseling, an open phone policy, deleting Reddit, etc. Do not make her figure out how to forgive you, be proactive and offer solutions yourself.
She regretted being caught. She doesn’t regret the sex
I see in your comments that you posted expressing interest in an R4R post. I'm assuming the nature was romantic/sexual, in which case most people would consider that cheating or at least attempting to.
I know I fucked up, I know I'm an idiot, but it stopped at the comments on the posts
If you want to fix things, stop minimizing what you did immediately. No “but I only,” no “it was just.” Take full accountability with no caveats.
You also need to examine why you did this. If you can't answer that question, you can't promise it won't happen again. In the meantime, find a couples counselor and tell her that you're willing to do whatever it takes to earn her trust back including counseling, an open phone policy, deleting Reddit, etc. Do not make her figure out how to forgive you, be proactive and offer solutions yourself.