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Date: November 23, 2022
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I've never heard of anyone lasting that long in bed ? this isn't something to brag about from his perspective.
I would highlight how it makes you feel inadequate and unattractive. If at that point he won't listen then I would begin to question how much he really cares about you ?
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I’m sorry that you’re having to deal with this. As a guy I can concur that sex is very important for us. I wouldn’t agree that it justifies being a baby about it but it is important. The way your comment is laid out it does sound like a manipulation and it is not acceptable. He sex should be agreed upon by both people and if one person isn’t feeling it than there shouldn’t be sex.
With that said, it sounds like his need is downplayed and not taken seriously. I think that if you are responding to him in ways that invalidate his feelings than I think that is pretty unfair. In all honesty this might be his final attempt to have his feelings regarding sex to be heard and sadly for both of you he’s going about it in a childish way.
I think that showing some compassion towards him would go a long way, even if you say you’re not feeling it at the moment. There are few things that guys want from their girlfriend or wife and that is simply kindness, compassion, and sex. I believe that list is different for women but I am sure there are a handful of things that you expect from him in which if he stopped doing you would get upset, no?
As a guy there are a lot of things that we do for you ladies that we don’t do for ourselves and that is to make you happy and so we do it. Sex is just a different beast and so some exceptions need to be made for it, however, we do want it probably more than anything. Guys go to work doing incredibly dirty jobs so that we can make some money to support our wives and children so that we can have sex. Most things that men do are to get sex and if our work doesn’t get us sex than we will likely stop putting in the work.
While you have every right to say no to sex, even indefinitely if you want, I wouldn’t consider this a trivial issue if you want to keep your relationship going. I would consider showing him some compassion for his needs and aiming to solve the issue as to why you don’t want to have sex. Maybe it’s his performance in bed, maybe it’s he’s not serving your needs emotionally but regardless you need to think about what it is and try to solve it with him. If your needs are different after that than both of you may consider seeing other people but I don’t think that is the case here.
Sorry for the long response but understanding the guys perspective will serve your relationship(s) in the long run. Don’t be afraid to say what it is you need, just be kind about how you say it if you want him to want to satisfy your needs. Good luck
We’re you two together long before this official dating timeline began? Because it’s freaking weird that you’re already discussing marriage. Just remember child, you lose ‘em the way you get ‘em.
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None of your actions you describe are abusive. Her’s though…
I understand that her behaviour is being driven by her mental health (OCD and ED), but she is definitely being verbally and mentally abusive to YOU.
I’m really glad she asked you to post here because this might be a moment that changes both your lives. But it seems like the combination of being raised in an abusive household and mental health issues that causes her to feel like she needs to have control are playing out in a harmful way towards you.
She needs to see a therapist. You need to see a therapist and you would both benefit from a couples therapist. But nothing you did here was wrong.
The truth is the only reason the food was “wasted” was because of her ED – anyone else would just eat it, but SHE needs the food done in a specific way (control). Not to mention she was asleep and you tried to do her a favour, both of you need to answer this honestly: if you had woken her up (instead of doing what she’s now beating you for) would she have berated you for waking her and not just dealing with the food yourself? Because I’m guessing she’d be yelling at you and calling you abusive no mater what you did.
It seems to me that your wife isn’t trying to be abusive (it’s possible but…) and that it’s probably just her mental health + her upbringing – when you grow up in a fucked up family it takes a LONG time to undo the habits and learn what is and isn’t normal. You are both pretty young, so I’m guessing she hasn’t had a huge amount of experience in a “normal” family and if she isn’t in therapy (or is only telling the therapist her skewed perspective) then she’s not getting enough help correcting that upbringing.
She could be intentionally abusive, but then I doubt she’d send you here where her behaviour would get named.
I really appreciate your response. Breaking up with someone is very very hot – especially when you have been together with someone for as long as I have. I think your right though – it might just be time for a different season. I still love him and care about him….I wish there was a way I could move on with my life without it hurting him
I have gotten good at hiding gifts from my wife, I keep them at my office. Wait and see how things turn out and then decide whether to be upset or not
Nah he just got tired of fighting with her so caved.
Smile and say thank you.
Took the words out of my mouth. Frankly this probably should have been a pre-wedding conversation. I know it would've been a hill worth dying on for me.
We just have a different opinion on how to move forward
Yes, but his opinion is colored by the abusive situation he grew up with and frankly it can't be trusted now.
Your kids should never be left alone with her and she is clearly unwell, and your husband's advice of “letting it go” is a non-starter because it's not like anything has changed and she's gonna stop being belligerent and angry at them.
You will need to be understanding of him while also firm that she needs to go; your children deserve to live in a home where they aren't walking on eggshells over grandma losing her shit about some damn box mix.
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Jesus Christ I hope no spouse of yours ever gets sick.
Thank you. Should I be calling the cops now? We haven’t had contact
It's fine
If you want more than what she's willing to give you, break up and move on.
Be clear. Be direct. Be honest. Above all, be polite. You are both very young and in a few years you may get back together. Or another girl you ask out may ask her what she thought about you. Wouldn't be doing yourself any favors by being hurtful.
Say something like, “I would like to have more interaction and time but I get that its not possible. I think its best we both go our own ways. I wish you well.”
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The sexual assault and then victim blaming? “Why didn’t you stop me?” Uuuuh. You freaking tried and he wouldn’t let you. What did he want you to do? I guess you could’ve kneed him in the balls but I don’t think he would be thanking you for that either. What a dick.
Nailed it
Nerd. Just ask her out.
Yay
You mean living with zero fear of marital rape or coercion? Yeah, bro, it feels awful. I feel so bad my partner doesn't demand use of my body and I don't demand use of his. Absolutely drowning in despair.
A lot of them do post 3-5 comment then never again.
Especially with the contradicting post you said to be a dream boy.
Honestly, this is the way
Also the family loves me you know I was the one that said the words in front of everyone before we laid their father to rest m was the one that gave the goodbye speech. That's another reason that the sister couldn't let it slide after consulting one one of their brothers told me immediately
“Don’t focus on the age difference” proceeds to bring up an issue almost entirely due to the age difference, lol OK.
You're not crazy op and him and his entire family will always put her above you. Do you want his mom to be your mil?? I'm sorry but all is a deal breaker for me.
Let's say you forgive her, you end up married, etc. She will spend every dime you have. She will sign your name to shit, she will sell your shit, and when everything is gone she'll file for divorce and she'll move on to the next guy while you're left with a credit score of like 7 and living over the Chinese restaurant in town. This shouldn't even be a question dude, you don't stay with someone like that.
Is she willing to turn over her phone and change jobs? Read the messages and decide if this “just happened” or if she’s hiding her involvement in pursuing something.
I feel like clapping and applauding them would work well lol. Nothing like your kid in the moment diming you out and embarrassing you like they used to at school lol. Maybe even add a little jab at their issues recently figured out.
Mom great effort! Dad you need to step the game up if you wanna stick around.
She has found the female equivalent of the red pill on her social media’s. let’s call it the pink pill. Good luck
There’s is no working out misogyny. He wants me to feel unfulfilled emotionally and sexually and I will never want that. I’m 21 and had to settle for mediocre sex at best because he thinks it should be a chore for me. He’s not a good partner.
Maybe you should go to therapy too if you think this can be worked out
It really has “I can change him vibes”. Which, no, you can't.
Or she’s Catholic. Either way, OP is on track for 18 years of child support if he doesn’t start using condoms or break up with her.
My advice would be to avoid a long-distance relationship. In my near 40 years of life, I have yet to see one survive and almost all of them involve cheating or suspicions of cheating. Even if she comes back and you want to try again, odds are your relationship will be tainted from the breach of trust.
Then how was my friend diagnosed with PTSD after she was raped?
Time to change your major. Cause youre gonna be a bad psychologist
Thank you, I know it probably sounds silly but hearing that is comforting. I should add my best friend just recently went through a breakup where she was cheated on by her long distance boyfriend so I’m sure that has come into play with my anxiety, even subconsciously. If I talk to my mom about it she would just tell me to trust my gut and that something is DEFINITELY up. So thank you.
because he bought them to cheat at the bachelor party trip. He is lying to you.
Wow, it sounds like you went thru a really tough time. Sometimes, it helps if I sit in a chair, put my feet on the ground, and just feel what's around me. Tell myself, “I'm here, I'm present. That can't hurt me anymore, it's the past.” Really feel the ground with your feet, reminding yourself that your safe. Pretend you're like a tree, the feet your roots. Feel your body, what's going on around you. Try to quiet your mind, but if a thought comes, let it, acknowledge it, and then let it move on. Like a leaf in a river. You see it, and it moves on with the current.
I know that kinda sounds a bit silly, but it really can center yourself, and your thoughts, so everything isn't so overwhelming. Also, it helps to really see your thoughts, and once something becomes tangible like that, it can be easier to manage.
As far as work tomorrow, look, if you need to take a day, if you CAN take the day, I would take it off. But you have to be productive with it. Do something to treat yourself! You did a good thing, you deserve a reward for that. Nowhere in your post do you sound proud of yourself for getting out of that drama, and you should be. All that BS, it's in the past, it's over. Block him on everything, you don't need that mess, and jump up and down for joy that you got rid of that speeding trainwreck. And feel your feet as you do that, remember, it's over. You're past it. All that BS is done, gone, and free from your life.
You're a girl. I'm replying to your post on here. Should my wife worry that we're cheating together?
That's what this question is like.
Absolutely not…
I doubt he was telling the truth with that one, for what it’s worth. And secondly: you are absolutely in the right to request that. Never let anyone convince you otherwise. He was being selfish.
Reconciliation after cheating is a fake-it-til-you-make-it deal for both partners. Both partners will be encouraged if they both put on a show of positivity and hopefulness for the other, while privately taking their strong feelings and nagging doubts to a confidant, clergy or counselor.
The remorseful one is discouraged by signs that regardless of what they were told, they've not really been forgiven. The forgiving one will be discouraged by signs that the cheater isn't grateful, relieved and delighted to be given a second chance, and isn't making the most of it. I won't venture into a chicken-and-egg argument about which of you bears more responsibility for discouraging the other.