Parents should not make you choose. They should not try to relate your relationship with one parent to be equal to betraying the other. Not for nothing, but anyone that manipulates in this manner (someone manipulating by saying this action is equal to you not loving me) is no longer in my life. It attempts to skirt any foreseeable objection, discussion, or response for that matter. I would not tell her anything else about seeing your father. Don't talk about him with her, or her with him. Good luck.
I knew a couple who were together for EIGHT YEARS, lived together for five, owned a house for three, and was still surprised when she left because he wouldn't commit. I feel like buying a house is a way larger commitment than getting married, but I guess not to some people.
This needs to be top comment. Spot on.
Parents should not make you choose. They should not try to relate your relationship with one parent to be equal to betraying the other. Not for nothing, but anyone that manipulates in this manner (someone manipulating by saying this action is equal to you not loving me) is no longer in my life. It attempts to skirt any foreseeable objection, discussion, or response for that matter. I would not tell her anything else about seeing your father. Don't talk about him with her, or her with him. Good luck.
I knew a couple who were together for EIGHT YEARS, lived together for five, owned a house for three, and was still surprised when she left because he wouldn't commit. I feel like buying a house is a way larger commitment than getting married, but I guess not to some people.
40 year old single who only dated but was never in a real relationship here.
Don't stress yourself, especially if you are childfree like me.
Maybe you find someone, maybe you don't.
Maybe we are missing out, but after hours in this sub I don't think I am missing out much.
I am rather alone and happy, then be we cheater, mench'ld, groomer or something similiar.
But try dating just for the experience, but don't get yourself caught into it too much.
Let him have this. Work through it. He can go to therapy if need be.
Hes married. Do you wanna be a homewrecker? Another mistress he fucks before going home to his wife? Do you wanna lose your fucking job over this?