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You need to get away. He will do this again and it will only get worse. You really consider contacting the domestic abuse hotline. They can help with housing if you have no place else to go. Anywhere they place you is better than staying somewhere that you’ll continue to be abused.
You can still connect with people in ways that are not romantic or sexually charged. Humans crave connection, even if it’s something as simple as liking the same band or ketchup vs ranch with your fries.
My point is that your post seems needlessly sexually charged. Sometimes people just want to get a little dressed up and go out with their friends to have a good time. And there is nothing wrong with that.
I know people say go to marriage counselling often but I think couples counselling could be a great help here. And it might turn out that to guys are not compatible. And maybe it can help you find a compromise between. Maybe she can learn downhill skiing and you can do that with her. And the next day she can have a spa day or day reading in front of the fire whilst you go cross country skiing.
But definitely no children. Make sure your protection is safe. It always surprises me the people who babytrap. She may want to force you to the next stage. But hopefully she is nothing like that.
If you don't want to continue a friendship with them, keep them uninvited.
If you do want to keep the friendship then you'll need to get over the wedding thing and probably just talk to them about it, and invite them to your party.
Neither is right or wrong, it just depends on how you feel
Would it be evidence though? Unless she's kicking and screaming in that video, which a lot of rape victims are too terrified to do, anyone could basically say that it was consensual. I mean, it would prove that something sexual indeed happened, but that's about it.
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Not only did you go see your family once after they ruined your wedding, BUT YOU WENT AGAIN AFTER YOU KNEW YOUR WIFE’S BOUNDARIES. She will not come back. You ruined your chances. Buy her out and let her be. You betrayed her over and over again.
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Put the budget (now and if you got a house) on paper. Set it out in detail. Set out what is mandatory (loan payments or rent, bills, a fund for emergencies- noting what you pay if you rent vs what you would pay for if you own) basic necessities etc.
Then set out fun money for eating out and travel.
Look at the current interest rates and predictions if what inflation might do to payment’s.
Then sit together and really go though it. What she will have to contribute and give up.
It might help dampen the full blown house and wedding fantasy and maybe help set more realistic expectations of a larger apartment and (if that’s the path) a smaller engagement or wedding etc.
So you lied – it’s written by a dude, it’s a spiritual teaching, blah blah. Nope, you’re likely a teenager trying to sound profound to someone so you can score and you’re using us as Guinea pigs. As the overwhelming majority has pointed out – it’s total drivel that makes me want to vomit violently and I wish I’d never read it
So let me get this straight: someone who cares for your children almost dies in an accident, your husband offered to drive her home before that and she declines, he shows emotion (how dare he?) and you think he’s cheating? He is likely experiencing “survivor’s guilt” and is literally upset over someone he knows nearly dying. How can you be so cold and cruel?
You’re fine, plenty of people have relationships, break up, then find “the one” later on, at 26 you definitely have lots of time – if you want numbers, in the US, the median age of first marriage for women is ~29 and for men is ~31. And anecdotally speaking I myself didn’t meet my wife until she was ~26.
“I love, I care for you, I don't want you to feel like you owe me, but love for me means also intimacy. I want you, in every way, insert love declaration here”
ONLY IF TRUE, explain that you feel hurt/unwanted/undesirable by the lack of interest, DO NOT PUSH
And, imo, preparare yourself, for living together usually doesn't resolve this issue.
Also, forgive me for the question, but do you mean intercourse or also no sex at all? As in, non penetrative sex?
I received that complaint in my prev relationship. It's not that I was against initiating, it's just that I didn't have the opportunity because I'm not in the mood yet, but he's already asking. Like I'd be fine initiating every other day, but he already does it every day and I cannot get in the mood that fast. Maybe the problem is that y'all sex drive is different or maybe she thinks it's a man's job, who knows. You should ask her.
Yeah I’m a very novice chess player (like, I know the basic moves but none of the strategy) and last summer I played against a kid who is an experienced player, whole family of chess nerds, that sort of thing. Multiple times throughout the game he stumbled because I was making what he understood to be completely nonsensical moves.
but man look what this woman did to you, theres nothing that resembles a family when you stay with her, ''Proverbs 19:14, NLT: Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the LORD can give an understanding wife.'' this is not the wife god have reserved for you man, you need to get out her ASAP.
Promises only mean something when they come from someone who keeps their word. The fact that he’s cheated and lied so much, shows he does NOT keep his word, so you’d be a fool to believe his promises.
I did wait till they broke up before making it official, however I do put the pressure for him to break it off. We only start to hook up AFTER they broke up
I like my family well enough. They can be rude tho, they want to throw an unrelated party on my wedding weekend and invite alot of the same people. they may even do it 3 hrs away apparently… my dad went out of town when i proposed and he knew i was going to beforehand
I dont really know susan. My mom was helping him be a good person so now he isnt as much and susan is like he is now. so worse than before but nor like horrible as far as i can tell. she tried to help me and emily with something a few weeks back by reaching out to her contacts
my dad disliked a few things she did as a result of mental health and covid etc. but also the distancing people and being negative
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That’s a classic abuse tactic. If I were you, I’d look for an agency in your area that helps women with domestic violence. They’ll be experts on abuse and can help you understand what he’s doing and why. Often a place like that offers some free counseling.
OP is conveniently not answering this comment to point out that he actually met his girlfriend through his friend as his hook-up buddy. No one ever lied to OP about their past together. He’s not entitled to the explicit details of their hookups. He lied to himself by assuming they hooked up and shared a bed for over a month but only kissed because they didn’t have PiV sex.
My friend said at least I caught it before she cheated, but having the intent is just as bad in my opinion. But who knows if she would have followed through.
Lol, bro dude man, being “white” has less to do with the color of skin and more to do with European and North Asian ancestry. While white skin is important to the concept, it is not at all the defining factor. Have you ever heard of “white-passing”? Lots of POC have white skin. You don't get to dictate someone's legitimate claim to an identity. Now, I'm white af, so I have no ground to determine if she is a POC, but I doubt you hold the key to that gate either.
No! It doesn't work and you two won't be ok. When she says take a break, the translation is putting you on hold while she tries out other dicks. She is already cheating, or has a guy picked out. She thinks that asking for a break will absolve her of preplanned cheating. If the guy or guys don't work out, she just falls back to puppy dog you who will be happy whether she pats you on the head, or kicks you in the nuts. Have some respect for yourself and dump her and never get back with her. Stick around and she'll eventually discard you when she finds the dick she likes better. Harsh but true words. Good luck!
You need to get away. He will do this again and it will only get worse. You really consider contacting the domestic abuse hotline. They can help with housing if you have no place else to go. Anywhere they place you is better than staying somewhere that you’ll continue to be abused.
You can still connect with people in ways that are not romantic or sexually charged. Humans crave connection, even if it’s something as simple as liking the same band or ketchup vs ranch with your fries.
My point is that your post seems needlessly sexually charged. Sometimes people just want to get a little dressed up and go out with their friends to have a good time. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.
I know people say go to marriage counselling often but I think couples counselling could be a great help here. And it might turn out that to guys are not compatible. And maybe it can help you find a compromise between. Maybe she can learn downhill skiing and you can do that with her. And the next day she can have a spa day or day reading in front of the fire whilst you go cross country skiing.
But definitely no children. Make sure your protection is safe. It always surprises me the people who babytrap. She may want to force you to the next stage. But hopefully she is nothing like that.
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If you don't want to continue a friendship with them, keep them uninvited.
If you do want to keep the friendship then you'll need to get over the wedding thing and probably just talk to them about it, and invite them to your party.
Neither is right or wrong, it just depends on how you feel
Totally fair to suggest that as a rule.
Would it be evidence though? Unless she's kicking and screaming in that video, which a lot of rape victims are too terrified to do, anyone could basically say that it was consensual. I mean, it would prove that something sexual indeed happened, but that's about it.
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Not only did you go see your family once after they ruined your wedding, BUT YOU WENT AGAIN AFTER YOU KNEW YOUR WIFE’S BOUNDARIES. She will not come back. You ruined your chances. Buy her out and let her be. You betrayed her over and over again.
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Well, marry him and start your own tradition with him being the first to pass.
Then, marry someone even older and so on…
Don't let those technicalities and moral choices stop you.
There’s something seriously wrong with your relationship dynamic if you need to hire a private investigator to go digging.
Put the budget (now and if you got a house) on paper. Set it out in detail. Set out what is mandatory (loan payments or rent, bills, a fund for emergencies- noting what you pay if you rent vs what you would pay for if you own) basic necessities etc.
Then set out fun money for eating out and travel.
Look at the current interest rates and predictions if what inflation might do to payment’s.
Then sit together and really go though it. What she will have to contribute and give up.
It might help dampen the full blown house and wedding fantasy and maybe help set more realistic expectations of a larger apartment and (if that’s the path) a smaller engagement or wedding etc.
So you lied – it’s written by a dude, it’s a spiritual teaching, blah blah. Nope, you’re likely a teenager trying to sound profound to someone so you can score and you’re using us as Guinea pigs. As the overwhelming majority has pointed out – it’s total drivel that makes me want to vomit violently and I wish I’d never read it
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I know it’s hot, I can’t explain a more hurtful pain.
She almost died! What's wrong with you?!
So let me get this straight: someone who cares for your children almost dies in an accident, your husband offered to drive her home before that and she declines, he shows emotion (how dare he?) and you think he’s cheating? He is likely experiencing “survivor’s guilt” and is literally upset over someone he knows nearly dying. How can you be so cold and cruel?
Bruh
Put your big boy pants on and talk to her about what’s going on.
If you can’t have an uncomfortable conversation with her, literally about your relationship, then you shouldn’t be in one with her
I don't blame your misses but now you can start looking up songs to reminisce about this relationship .
You’re fine, plenty of people have relationships, break up, then find “the one” later on, at 26 you definitely have lots of time – if you want numbers, in the US, the median age of first marriage for women is ~29 and for men is ~31. And anecdotally speaking I myself didn’t meet my wife until she was ~26.
“I love, I care for you, I don't want you to feel like you owe me, but love for me means also intimacy. I want you, in every way, insert love declaration here”
ONLY IF TRUE, explain that you feel hurt/unwanted/undesirable by the lack of interest, DO NOT PUSH
And, imo, preparare yourself, for living together usually doesn't resolve this issue.
Also, forgive me for the question, but do you mean intercourse or also no sex at all? As in, non penetrative sex?
I received that complaint in my prev relationship. It's not that I was against initiating, it's just that I didn't have the opportunity because I'm not in the mood yet, but he's already asking. Like I'd be fine initiating every other day, but he already does it every day and I cannot get in the mood that fast. Maybe the problem is that y'all sex drive is different or maybe she thinks it's a man's job, who knows. You should ask her.
Yeah I’m a very novice chess player (like, I know the basic moves but none of the strategy) and last summer I played against a kid who is an experienced player, whole family of chess nerds, that sort of thing. Multiple times throughout the game he stumbled because I was making what he understood to be completely nonsensical moves.
There are a multitude of posts on Reddit from women expressing frustration about being approached at the gym. Leave her be.
but man look what this woman did to you, theres nothing that resembles a family when you stay with her, ''Proverbs 19:14, NLT: Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the LORD can give an understanding wife.'' this is not the wife god have reserved for you man, you need to get out her ASAP.
Promises only mean something when they come from someone who keeps their word. The fact that he’s cheated and lied so much, shows he does NOT keep his word, so you’d be a fool to believe his promises.
I did wait till they broke up before making it official, however I do put the pressure for him to break it off. We only start to hook up AFTER they broke up
I like my family well enough. They can be rude tho, they want to throw an unrelated party on my wedding weekend and invite alot of the same people. they may even do it 3 hrs away apparently… my dad went out of town when i proposed and he knew i was going to beforehand
I dont really know susan. My mom was helping him be a good person so now he isnt as much and susan is like he is now. so worse than before but nor like horrible as far as i can tell. she tried to help me and emily with something a few weeks back by reaching out to her contacts
my dad disliked a few things she did as a result of mental health and covid etc. but also the distancing people and being negative
I honestly got second hand embarrassment reading it. My friend's son thinks farting is the funniest thing ever, but he's 4… These are adults. ?
Heck, there's secrets that are best kept secret, even from family.
There's no need to disclose this type of harmless info to anyone. There's no victims, no harm or damage has been done to anyone.
Dude no… fuckin hell no ur not crazy! This situation is crazy.
Ur gf sounds like the type to have a sexual online affair with someone and say it's not cheating because she didnt physically sleep with them.
Run… dodge the bullet thats heavily in ur face my guy. The fact she doesn't think thats weird says ALLLOT
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That’s a classic abuse tactic. If I were you, I’d look for an agency in your area that helps women with domestic violence. They’ll be experts on abuse and can help you understand what he’s doing and why. Often a place like that offers some free counseling.
I know it's not. It's manipulative to say “you either unfollow or I know you have feelings for them”
OP is conveniently not answering this comment to point out that he actually met his girlfriend through his friend as his hook-up buddy. No one ever lied to OP about their past together. He’s not entitled to the explicit details of their hookups. He lied to himself by assuming they hooked up and shared a bed for over a month but only kissed because they didn’t have PiV sex.
My friend said at least I caught it before she cheated, but having the intent is just as bad in my opinion. But who knows if she would have followed through.
You are the one that made a mistake. You unknowingly slept with a married man. He knew he was married. He made a choice.
Lol, bro dude man, being “white” has less to do with the color of skin and more to do with European and North Asian ancestry. While white skin is important to the concept, it is not at all the defining factor. Have you ever heard of “white-passing”? Lots of POC have white skin. You don't get to dictate someone's legitimate claim to an identity. Now, I'm white af, so I have no ground to determine if she is a POC, but I doubt you hold the key to that gate either.
No! It doesn't work and you two won't be ok. When she says take a break, the translation is putting you on hold while she tries out other dicks. She is already cheating, or has a guy picked out. She thinks that asking for a break will absolve her of preplanned cheating. If the guy or guys don't work out, she just falls back to puppy dog you who will be happy whether she pats you on the head, or kicks you in the nuts. Have some respect for yourself and dump her and never get back with her. Stick around and she'll eventually discard you when she finds the dick she likes better. Harsh but true words. Good luck!
Thank you. I needed some insight on my own feelings. I think I need to just cut things off
andropause, normal, he should control his s body and impulses though, if not, drop him.