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Date: January 21, 2023
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Probably being downvoted because if it's as easy as emptying a bag to take the water in, why can't brother and SILs bag be emptied? I agree OP should just let this go for now and maybe speak about it later but why does she have to go through the inconvenience just to hold something that isn't even hers?
Excellent advice! Thank you! I wasn’t focusing on who’s wrong vs who’s right, my wife has a point in being upset, my mom just didn’t know, I’m just trying to figure out what the best response would have been. Instead I just froze, treated my mom with niceness since she was acting out kindness.
My wife and I have argued about it, I told her I didn’t have time to react or respond and I ask her what she thinks I should have done. She didn’t give me an answer, so I came to Reddit to get an opinion.
First thing is not to be alone with him in the future . If, for any reason , under any circumstances , he starts talking about his wife , shut that shit down . If his wife starts talking shit about him , shut that down as well . Give him a call when you know his wife is around and tell him that better never happen again . If he gets cocky just tell the business in front of everyone in the family .
You have to teach your partner what makes you feel loved. This is where “love languages” come in to play. You need to talk to him about it, just make sure to keep it nice and conversational.
But, but Fez
It is selfish if you go there with anger and hate and ruin your sisters day
You’re also punishing your sister, her boyfriend, your boyfriend and depriving yourself of an opportunity
She cheated. She's feeling out your response and making up ways to spin this.
Sit her down and ask for every single detail. Ask to see her phone. Go through everything you can find. Be prepared for more minimizing lies and excuses.
The question becomes this: who exactly did she cheat with? A random? A coworker or business partner? An old flame? Then, it's a matter of whether it was the first time, and is she going to see that person again.
You'll get a thousand sympathetic replies here but in my opinion there's only one answer, despite whatever he says, he's not turned on by you. Men are visual and spoiled by instant access to live! porn featuring women with perfect bodies. I might be wrong.
Oh boy.
Let us know how it goes. ???
She cheated, and she broke trust. He may not ever have trust for her again, and she has to do everything in her power to get his trust back so if she is indicating that she is angry that he still checking on her that shows she’s not remorseful, so therefore this relationship will not continue
If she is going to ignore you here she will do so many times in the future as well.
Great point.
Definitely not a ploy, I can tell you that.
You're wasting your time (and hers). Move on from her and look for someone who shares your values instead of having a fundamental incompatibility.
Bro she kept in contact with him in case she ever wanted to get with him again she purposely left that door open that's why she got so defensive plus i guarantee she still has feelings for him also if she was truly remorseful, she would have no contact with him at all. The wife you know doesn't exist her being a liar and a manipulator wis who she truly is please leave and divorce
There's no going back from this. Even if you find a way to forgive, you'll never forget. She will always be the one who cheated. Every argument or low point in the future will bring it all up again. And then there's your dignity and self respect. Move on with head held high.
A man who said that to me would never touch me again.
I think so too. You can’t help people who refuse to help themselves.
This could be revealing a medical condition that is so life-threatening that he needs to see a doctor YESTERDAY. He could be a ticking time-bomb.
I hate that I walked myself into this lmao. It’s called being a dik.
Also make sure to get tested in three months – not everything shows up immediately.
That said – it sounds like maybe you don’t want to break up? Only you can know what you want to do, but it’s okay (this sub will downvote me to hell, but it IS okay) to give someone a second chance if you love them. You’re risking your heart and maybe your health, but only you know what you can live! with. Plenty of people do forgive cheating. Plenty of people break up over it. Only you can make the decision based on your feelings about what you want to do. I’m assuming you came to this sub to help you get the courage to break up since you can’t really have expected any other advice here, but you don’t have to follow that advice if you really don’t want to. It’s your call.
I would read into the different types of mortgages. There are pros and cons to first time home buyer mortgage and also buying single vs married; not saying it is bad, I would explore all mortgage options and see what works best for you, if YOU want to buy a house. I believe if you do first time home buyer you’re not allowed to rent it out for profit for some time or something and only to be used as primary residency, I would check into that. It sounds like he’s presenting this whole situation that will best suite his wants and needs financially. Do you want to own a house? There are pros to not being on the deed (if you break up you’re not stuck with the house but also you won’t be able to receive any equity on profits if you sell). Not saying you will, but he sounds like he’s direct and wants to control the outcome to his favor; not saying this will but may lead to issues down the road since you legally have no say in the property as you will just be a tenant. Your name will legally not be on the mortgage OR the deed, everything will in his name and he will take the equity and credit benefit, you would be a glorified tenant in the eyes of the law. The way he presented this IMO he sounds controlling and wants this all to work out to his benefit and pushing you down a path that he wants you to in regards to buying for his benefit. But at the end of the day, is this what you want to do? Is something such as home buying and even marriage important to you? (I mention marriage since he says he wants you to buy a property single to benefit from first time home buyer). IMO, my gut doesn’t sound like this is a good idea either, it sounds sketchy and he’s not taking in all the factors of what home buying and renting is. Home buying in general is A LOT. Renting out to tenants can be hot work and also take in the cost of how much you’ll be purchasing and take away from renting. I would reach out to a realtor and speak with them to maybe gauge their input, but as someone who went through home buying and selling as a single person (I bought under a conventional loan and when I sold my realtor explained the differences between them all when I was selling), it’s not sunshine and rainbows as your boyfriend makes it seem to be unless he has a bunch of cash on hand. Long story short, no, you will not be signing anything on the deed or mortgage, how much you would owe would be between you and your boyfriend (but based on reading it again I highly advise against this idea).
A troll’s shitpost.
Eww
Yeah, from your comments it sounds like she was essentially feeling like your parent instead of your SO. And with an age gap like that, it’s quite ironic. For you to actively say “she asked me to change these things and I didn’t change them, now I’m completely blindsided by this breakup” is kind of silly. You just gave her reason. She communicated her needs, you failed to meet them. There was no blindsiding.
I mean, crate training is beneficial, but this just sucks 🙁 poor girl