Here is what I said to my SO at the beginning (we have been together over a decade).
Obviously this isn't verbatim: I will not “just say” the words “I love you”. If they get thrown around too easily they become meaningless. When I say “I love you” I want those words to have meaning. I didn't say I love you quickly…
As to love being “rational” or “less programmed”…
You are the person who knows you best. If you are a very rational person in all things, then that would impact on how you love. It isn't bad, it is just a question of accepting who you are.
Yes, it was put out there to hurt you. Maybe he felt you were being very harsh and he felt personally attacked? Talking to him later will allow you to find out what triggered him and work out a better way of handling this in the future.
Go to court. Come up with a reasonable visitation schedule. She will need to abide by court orders.
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Here is what I said to my SO at the beginning (we have been together over a decade).
Obviously this isn't verbatim: I will not “just say” the words “I love you”. If they get thrown around too easily they become meaningless. When I say “I love you” I want those words to have meaning. I didn't say I love you quickly…
As to love being “rational” or “less programmed”…
You are the person who knows you best. If you are a very rational person in all things, then that would impact on how you love. It isn't bad, it is just a question of accepting who you are.
Yes, it was put out there to hurt you. Maybe he felt you were being very harsh and he felt personally attacked? Talking to him later will allow you to find out what triggered him and work out a better way of handling this in the future.
I'm glad that he does chores at other times.