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Get in touch with a lawyer now. Get a child plan in place to file with the court and a mandatory paternity test asap. They can do a a paternity tests while she is pregnant and you can base your answer if you will have child care or not. Dump her though. You forgave her once and she doesn't respect you. Now you find out something that you would have left her over.
She is baby trapping you.
I am in such a similar situation and I can’t even tell you how much I relate to how you feel?☹️
Two months ago you were making posts on reddit looking for a sexting partner LOOOL. You two are so fucking immature you have no business procreating. Gross
Personally I believe that comfortable silence is one of the hallmarks of a healthy relationship, but that might be for a more committed relationship than what you’re ready for right now. And that’s okay! Just know that communication frequency preference changes significantly from person to person, and that’s something only you and your SO can decide. If you feel like one check in a day while hanging out every other weekend is more than enough, you’ll have to find someone who feels the same way. If you feel like you’d like to fall asleep hearing each other breathe through the phone every night and that a “good morning” text should be the first thing done between a bf and a gf, tbh that sounds pretty controlling. But again, you’ll have to find someone who feels the same way.
It’s all a spectrum, man.
You are being an asshole. She has sexual trauma and you’re trying to push her when something is CLEARLY wrong. Take her to a doctor and stop trying to sleep with her for God’s sake.
I would say it is (as long as you know the starburst are from her…). But even without the food exchange, it seems she is interested. Just keep things going.
This can’t be real guys. It can’t. People can’t be this stupid!!
He doesn't want to..you are a place holder. If he wanted to he would. Stick around to long and he will dump you at 37 and start dating and having kids with a girl in her 20s.
Dont listen to his words WATCH HIS ACTIONS. Move on.
Think the issue is also that he isn't ok with it and OP doesn't seem to take it into consideration
Personally I probably wouldn't feel ok with it, at least if they are alone and if I hadn't met my (hypothetical) bf woman-friend. There's a difference hearing “he's just a friend” and seeing “we're just friends”
There's a lack of compromising in this situation, from both parts. And like you said, just cause he knows she has a bf doesn't mean something can't happen
Glad I could help.
At least you are getting some enjoyment out of this ? Believe me, I told myself those things over and over for the last few weeks but it unfortunately hasn't helped much ?
And why is it ok to follow that? In your opinion.
He gets his self-worth from sex and will lie, cheat and manipulate to fuck.
Women are a means to an end for him. That includes you.
Definitely. To me this is break up level. I’m not taking care of a child living in the past who (as she put it) is “excited to play this game.” If we continue our relationship I need to explain to her that she needs to earn my trust back, respect me, and take care of herself like an adult (ie get a job).
I’m thinking if she got out of the house and lived her fucking life working like everyone else she might not have the time at 4 am to be fantasizing about her ex boyfriend while I get up and work
this and the part about her saying she believes she didn’t sexual assault him really shows how apathetic she really is to his struggles. sad.
Thank you for that, you may be right. I was just wondering what made you think that? Again, thanks for your response I really appreciate it
Thanks for the reply. I was genuinely wondering about that. I can sense how lost and scared you are here. It’s pretty shite. Comments here are everything from burn the house down, the world is ending to “whatever”. Three things I notice is that it is like 6 months or less and that bodes well to nail this on the head. A commenter said something like stay somewhere else for a little bit. That sounds like a pretty good idea to me. Last one is think very carefully about reporting this to early. I do not know the duty of care and mandatory reporting regs there but you can get unexpected consequences around drug seeking behaviour that will have a wider blast radius. Especially if insurance providers get wind of it. Anyway no right answers but it is perfectly valid to be feeling like you do. I sort of think that you will make this right. Good luck right.
Please don’t have a baby with him and dump him. Tell him he has changed and you no longer find him attractive
You're giving them two weeks? Generous.
Why would her house smell like Indian food?
For the record, he was saying disgusting things about men.
She’s not attracted to you any more. The new relationship energy faded. You guys are young. Move on.
Justified.
Look, I was in a similar situation and what people are saying is right, you need to gtfo asap. This is one of those relationships that you will be learning a lot from – the naked way though.
You've put yourself in a situation where you have zero power, even though a good relationship should be balanced.
She is able to get uncontrollably drunk, to hit you, to take your car, to insult you and your family, and probably much more – because you allow it.
There is no respect and the only way how things will be ending is with you fked up both emotionally and financially because she is way older and smarter than you and knows exactly what to do and say for you to do w/e she wants.
You want to be a big man, not be dependant on your family, own your own place, make your own decisions? It's time to actually be a grown up and face the situation accordingly.
Get a lawyer. Don't let her know. Put yourself out of danger. Secure evidence. Secure your belongings. In that order. Now.
She prolly has stuff going on in her life and she doesn’t want to be sick for them. Either way, it’s not her responsibility to help you at all with your child.
I’m not happy….
I think you, and every comment here, is in agreement going forward with that plan is a terrible idea.
So let's look at how go approach all of this, and before that, take a big step back.
You and your finance are about to merge your lives. Yes, you'll still be individuals and have your own lives, but you two are a team first and foremost. Her mom is no longer just her problem (sorry to say), it is something you both need to tackle TOGETHER. And when you have family stuff in your life down the road, you'll want your soon-to-be wife to help you tackle it TOGETHER.
Approach this by having clear lines about what you are comfortable with as an individual, while still ready to dig in and help solve the issues at hand here, as best as you can. As someone else noted, a one bed in a retirement community isn't a terrible idea. Propose other thoughts and solutions, not as a “I will only do this”, but as thoughts and ideas to kick around together to work the problem together. Talk about their relationship, some thoughts on how to set boundaries, what you can do if things go south between them again. Talk about all of your worries and concerns, again not to unload, but to both get on the same page about how to deal with mom's depression, advancing age, and housing situation.
Why did he ask for advice?
Well, one reason I can think of is that he was on the fence wrt whether or not he should break up with his girlfriend. In that context, giving him advice that would lead to a breakup is as valuable as advice that allows him to overcome these issues and stay together.
It's not so much how to force one particular outcome over another as it is to illuminate all viewpoints so that OP may make as fully educated a decision as possible.
To my way of thinking, the infidelity is the minor part of it. She's demonstrated her loyalty in the time since. That early infidelity can be chalked up to not wanting to put all her eggs in one basket in the early stages of a relationship. Once she committed to OP, she jumped in with both feet and has been nothing but loyal to him since then.
Alright…
Now, the second issue…
As for how she sees him as a sexual partner, that is open to some question and some interpretation. If this were only an FWB arrangement, OP would be in the clear. That's because the only needs being met in an FWB arrangement are sexual needs. If OP wasn't producing good results, such an arrangement wouldn't be permitted to persist.
However, this is not an FWB arrangement. This is a multifaceted, committed, romantic relationship. It has a multiplicity of variables and dimensions to be evaluated by. Perhaps in its totality, OP's girlfriend sees him as merely adequate sexually, but enough so that when added to all the other qualities he brings to the table, committing to him was a no-brainer.
This doesn't mean that OP must accept a subpar sexual component to his relationship just because his girlfriend has. Here's the rub. If she feels that the relationship, her relationship, is in jeopardy as a consequence of OP's line of questioning, she may feel compelled to say anything to OP that preserves that relationship. This may be the case even to the point of outright lying to him as a truth that ends a relationship is less valuable than a lie that preserves it.