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Date: October 24, 2022
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I have talked to them. I make good money, but I live at home and don't have a car (high cost of living and my parents need help), so I'm still dependent on them. Life360 is gone, but on the rare occasions I go somewhere without them (every other month or so) I still have to text them every single update and sometimes just a status update to say “still at the restaurant with coworkers” or “still at the cemetery laying wreaths.” I lead a very exciting life, as you can see lol.
Do her a favor and just leave. You don’t deserve her. Do you even love her? Because it truly doesn’t sound like you do. You’re more concerned about how she looks than figuring you why she’s spiraled. She’s probably miserable because of the lack of emotional support she’s getting from you.
If you tell him be prepared for him to insist on a workplace harassment claim and punishing your work mate through the system – that’s the only way your husband is going to believe you were innocent. If not, shut up, deal with the problem and never put yourself in that position again.
Relationships are built on trust. It takes courage to trust someone and respect for them, especially if you have ever had a bad experience, but if you can't manage that, you aren't ready for a serious relationship.
I'm thinking of my now husband trusting me when I had a male childhood friend to stay early in our relationship. My husband was right to trust me, I would never cheat on him, and he knows that.
Overall, you need to change your thinking on this topic: it's quite one-sided and not likely to get you and your wife on the same page. Notice that you speak very negatively about your wife. “Addict”, “keep the pressure”, etc. are all very loaded terms. It seems you think you're 100% right and she's 100% wrong. I'm not so sure this is correct.
Your wife's individual income is not relevant. There is no “my money” and “your money” in a financially-healthy marriage. Household income and household labor do not map 1:1. You and your wife need to consider total combined income in your budget and agree how to allocate that amount to different spending buckets.
Family & community obligations are real. Spending for birthday parties, holidays, and gifts are an important item to budget for on an ongoing basis.
Her point about spending on your own hobbies is also valid. You will want to spend money on things (firearms apparently) that she doesn't particularly care about, and vice versa. This is normal. Both of you should have a “discretionary budget” that you can spend on your own hobbies with no questions asked or judgement. Again, this should not be lopsided with you being allowed to spend significantly more just because you are the breadwinner.
Wait for what? He's not going to change his mind.
Move on and jump back into the dating pool with guys that are actually available.
I guess time will tell. I’m with you I wouldn’t trust him.
I guess time will tell. I’m with you I wouldn’t trust him.
Dude, stop being fucking lame. If it bothers you, then stop dating her. This is literally some shit that 16 year olds fret about.
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Your panicking because your theft and your lies, and your petty jealousy and cruelty are about to be exposed.
Your attitude is is what makes you awful, not the fact you have preferences. You are comparing things that aren't even an accurate comparison
How has she tried to fix things with you except for the birth certificate and last name?
Why did it take two weeks for her to accept your proof that the girl was lying?
“guys chopping their dicks off” reminded me so much of my ex-boyfriend I had to do a double take.
I really don't understand conservatives' obsession with trans people, or why they take such offense to them.
You, a reasonable person, do not need to put up with someone who can't give you the respect of also being reasonable.
It is, however, assault.
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Well then maybe it’s worth it to you to give it a shot? After some time, you might come to realize a timeline for him to introduce you to his family. Like after 6 mo and he hasn’t yet or a year or two or 5? As time ticks on and he isn’t comfortable letting you meet his family (maybe to protect you, maybe more due to the backlash he will receive), you’ll reach your limit.
OR! Maybe he will surprise us all and become that person you want him to become. My experience is that you can’t expect to change people bc they won’t, it just doesn’t work that way, but maybe you could be the catalyst he needs to change himself. Who knows. Only you can decide what works for you.
She's already got another guy nailing her, so run.
You know what to do, OP. It’s scary because you’re young, but her behavior isn’t something you can come back from. Especially since she continues to hide things from you. She wants her cake and her side piece too, but you deserve better.
I dunno I'm 34 and I think 18-23 are in the same category of young and I wouldn't bat an eye if there's an 18yr old dating a 23 yr old.
Amen. When I was 22/23 I could barely wipe my own ass, proverbially speaking.
I can see how she thought this was supposed to be funny. I can also see how it’s rude and hurtful.
I don’t see the point in ignoring something that you feel hurt by. You should be able to have these conversations with your significant other. Let her know that comment wasn’t very funny and your feelings were a little hurt by it. Hopefully she will apologize and it won’t happen again. Problem solved.
I'm an only child and I don't put liquid in a traffic area.
Is there any hope for us?
No
Can I change?
you totally can
You both done fucked up. Don't get back together, unless mistrusting each other from the start sounds like fun to you. Take the time to reset yourself instead and better yourself. Don't go into your next relationship until you have a new mindset and clear goals for your future. Even if they're just little goals.
I will die on this hill- The proper response to a breach of trust like that is leave the relationship. You already know that revenge doesn't satisfy unless you're a psycho.
You both are just busy during the week and having a bad day. I would plan a date night to see if things get better. Don’t worry about the drink scene unless it becomes a habit. She likely just wanted to numb herself
Well, I hope there is no “saving the marriage” at this point, but at least be glad you won't be stuck with her because you have a child together, and a child won't have to be born in such a messed up situation.
Well. Okay. You should tell him it was a false alarm. And then probably go over that talk about future children again. It’s easy to jump to him having a hidden agenda here, but he may have honestly just changed his mind when confronted with parenthood and gotten too ambitious during the panic phase.
I’m afraid that either way, you two will not be compatible long term. Also his willingness to plan your life without you, regardless of the motivation, is concerning and should be addressed in whatever tone you feel is appropriate. I suppose it’s better than running off?
Probably because it is a karma farming account.
Wow you know your stuff. But again, we all know it's not OPs job to make sure his ex does this or that.. but let's not act like they haven't been married for eight years. What do you want him to say? “I'm sorry but it's not my job to make sure you had protected your savings.”? Again it's just an untralistic way of coming at the situation to straight forward. You might think your being smart but of course OP has thought to tell hid wife that exact thing in that exact situation if they've already discussed a mortgage and a payoff..but we don't say that secret mean thing we all think but don't say. And we don't tell others to tell their soon to be ex wife ot 8 years to say that hurtful thing he's holding back for any number of reasons. Anyways.. the mortgage thing was awesome. Has op addressed the fact that she has that safety net?
You should not be with someone that destroys things when they are irrationally angry. The arm thing is nothing.
Yeah it definitely seems like you got lucky in this situation plus your quick problem-solving solution to ask for help from your manager. Glad you had someone in your corner to rely on!
It's weird, I get that it's an unexpected hassle for your bf and you'd likely make it up to him later, but in the immediate emergency situation….the right thing to do was NOT hold your wallet as blackmail.
That's seriously f*cked.
I hope your bf is embarrassed that now other ppl know he tried asking his own gf for money to help in an emergency situation. Well, he probably is because he knows it's wrong/bad behavior and the embarrassment is further fueling his anger.
…anger that also ultimately seems misplaced: he didn't like that you found an alternate solution to your problem.
This is just so bad and so odd. Not partner material: no boat-tippers and no blackmailers!!
“You’ve never lived with or in the same city as this man so I hardly believe you’re in love”
This is non sensical. Plenty of people are truly in love in long distance relationships. I suppose I can see the argument that it’s not the deep, day in day out building a life together, know everything about their habits sort of love if you’re living separately, but it’s still love, and being in the same city has nothing to do with it.
And lots of peanuts ?
im not. its possible you simply have a different experience with xanax than most other people do. that kind of thing does happen – some people metabolize drugs differently. its very very well known and well accepted that xanax acts on the brain in a very similar way to alcohol and feels very similar. its not exactly the same, but a few mg of alprazolam does produce a very strong, very noticeable, alcohol like high in the vast, vast majority of people. if you do not experience this, you are the outlier. according to the wiki page on alprazolam, it is metabolized in the liver by cytochrome P450 3A4, which in theory means that if that enzyme is present in higher or lower concentrations than normal, or is more or less active than normal, or has some kind of deviation from normal in your liver, you could require far more or far less xanax than most people to achieve an effect – in this case it sounds like maybe far more.
this sort of thing can happen with many different drugs. abnormalities in liver metabolism can cause huge differences in how some people respond to all kinds of different drugs – not just xanax/aplorazolam and not just psychoactive drugs. when someone needs alot more of a certain drug to achieve the same effect as most people, in the psychedelics community we call them “hard heads”.
you cannot take your personal experience with a drug and apply it to everyone else.
One of the weirdest dates I went on was someone who worked at Deloitte and they spent so much time talking about how they wished they worked at McKinsey
You didn’t explicitly say that, but that’s the logical extension of your comment.
Why exactly would you be uncomfortable?
Stop trying to provide solutions. Just listen and acknowledge how she feels. You may have white-knight syndrome and impulsively try to fix her. Next time use active listening skills. If she then accuses you of not being there or not caring, then there is probably a reason to raise the red flag on her behavior.
This comment says a lot more about you than it does me. I’ve always regarded anybody that would be in a relationship with me to be a special person, even if it ultimately didn’t work out. In this case, she seems like a pretty special person being abused.
Ewwww. Honey, you deserve a man. He tries to assure you that you’re the exception now but if he really believes that? He’ll take the newer model if the opportunity presents itself. Respect yourself and know your worth.
I don't care about toys, I'm happy to use them and happy for her to use them on her own. I mean is he not masturbating ? What's the difference?
From your descriptions, she almost seems to fetishize transgender people? Like, if all she cares about to become a fan is that they're not cis.
Jesus weaving whips and flipping tables. 🙂
Husband had $250K in debt. Salary $275k. He is a physician. He paid off his loans in 3 years.
Depends on her education.
Yes, hubby did work a lot at least for 10 years. Now, he works only 10 weeks a year.
It all depends.
Gather all the evidence you can before you confront her. In fact, you should probably consult an attorney to form your strategy.
Then when you do confront her, tell her that you're going to insist on a DNA test when the baby is born. While I know that it is most likely your child, she needs to know that your confidence and trust in her has been eviscerated. And only a DNA test will silence your fears.
She may want to try marriage counseling, if you do decide to go that route, find a therapist that specializes in infidelity.
Typically because of either missing or blocked vas deferens. It's basically a “routing” issue where sperm can't get from Point A to Point B.
I’m failing to see a serious relationship here. You go off with your friends, he goes off with his. You’re going for a weekend with friends. You two frankly come across as FWB rather than someone in a committed relationship. When you get back from your weekend you need to sit down and figure out where (if anywhere) this is going. The big question should be what’s more important, your social life or your relationship?
On the flip side of that, an old girlfriend and I did it with her friend once, it was fucking great and had zero repercussions.
Or the previous women he did that to were too freaked out to really react and froze up, just laid there hoping not to die, or pretended to enjoy it out of fear for their safety if they reacted wrong. Honestly, if a guy i don't really know tried that with me the first time having sex, without any discussion first, I'd be very unsure whether he's just kinky and stupid or actually intending to kill me, so I'd probably react as though it's worst case scenario. Fight, flight, fawn, or freeze are all possible reactions and it sounds like he'd view anything but fight or flight as his partner being fine with it, even if she's actually scared witless.
I originally intended to stay in the country, where I currently am. my visa and my bank account only allows me to stay in the coutnry for a few months.
I mean, this should have been the conversation from the start – that you will need to go back to your home country in May if you can't find a job that will sponsor you. You can't *intend* to stay in a country without money and a visa so I'm confused at what your end game was here.
You realize that minus the SA, this is also you? Only you weren't a stranger, you were someone she trusts and loved. You are the monster you describe above. You just don't seem to get how bad what you did actually is. Nit because you wanted her to know she needs to be more careful, but because you saw fear, tears, humiliation in her face and kept going. How are you better from the Stanger on the street who does the same? Sees fear, terror and humiliation and keeps going.
Love how you are like “I know am the bad guy, but…” understand that yeah, you are the bad guy, no but.
The thing is, Ive already told her Im here for her if she wants to talk and she said she doesnt wanna talk she wants to feel better. she also told me talking won't work as much as i ask her to talk about it
Having independence in a relationship is healthy, imo. If he can’t understand why you do this, that’s a him problem. Hubby and I moved a year and a half ago and I’m 3.5 hour drive away from friends. Once in a while I take weekends to go visit my friends and he stays home.
I remember at the start of our relationship when I would ask a friend if they want to go out for dinner they’d say “is he coming too?” And I was like “…no, why would he come? You’re my friend, not his. And we’re not attached at the hip.”
I hope your boyfriend can understand the independence is for your mental health. And I hope you keep doing it for yourself!
How about taking a break from this relationship? Your needs aren't being met. he needs to get his act together before he can be in a respectful relationship with anyone. Being in limbo, not knowing where you stand with him has to be extremely stressful for you. Sending you peaceful vibes.
divorce her. She sounds absolutely useless and is bringing you down mentally in the process. Hey if you want to live the 2nd half of your life in misery, then go for it, but theres still a very strong chance you could eventually meet someone that would be a much better fit for you. You see your kid half the time. Staying in that mess sounds like a friggin nightmare!
OP, I noticed an interesting phrase in your post: “we were each other’s firsts and onlys and he doesn’t want to regret not sleeping with someone else his whole life but how can I accept that?”
I’m very sorry to say this to you, but he has absolutely not just slept with one person in his life so far.
Yes, that was your agreement, but all of the junk you found on his phone says otherwise. His attempt to excuse his own behavior by saying he’s an addict says otherwise. The fact that his response to getting caught was to flat-out state that he wants to be with other women says otherwise.
Of course he’s sooo happy to be with you! He’s getting what most young men want: to have his cake and eat it, too.
It’s easy to loooove bring around someone who has who you have zero commitment to, but who’s fully committed to you! To have a girlfriend who is always available, but not have to be available to her?
To use another metaphor, this kid’s on easy street. He’s also too lazy, and too selfish to be a good (or even mediocre) boyfriend to you.
Question: Are you interested in or excited by the idea of sleeping with other men? If you are, then you’re lucky. Agree with the new relationship parameters, and feel free to find additional lovers. (My guess is you and your “first” will drift away from each other quickly.) *** Do not let him decide that only he is allowed to sleep with others.
If you aren’t interested in having an open relationship, then, I’m sorry, but I agree with the other redditors who are advising you to break up with him.
Otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for more heartache (not to mention possible STIs).
You deserve better! And there are plenty of better men out there. Trust us on that.
It’s a hot case of mama’s boy and enmeshed.
He just gave you a green light to leave him.
He may as well marry his mom ?
Lol, a “you're being so emotional” for laughing and finding you ridiculous. That's so you!
Next, tell me how I really only crave being a 1950s housewife and mom deep down.
This is why people should not be in contact with their exes. Full stop.
WHAT?!?! An almost 50 year old man cannot sort his own phone? What are you doing?!
… I. I… damnit. Do I gotta spell it out?
Hey OP, none of the excuses you or him have justify this at all. It doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter his dad died last year.
It doesn’t matter he’s a vet.
It doesn’t matter that he was drunk while he did it.
It doesn’t matter that he said it was only physical.
It definitely doesn’t matter that he’s a man and supposedly it’s different so you wouldn’t understand. ( which is a terrible excuse anyway)
I have no doubt it’s hot to leave but that’s really the only choice her. He made the decision to cheat 10 times
He does not love you nor care about you. He’ll give you every excuse in the book and promise he’ll change but if he really cared about you he would have never done it in the first place.
The latter was what I thought of.
Exactly this. OP it wont be that big of a change the only real change is you will have a new sense of freedom. That you arent being bogged down by this man or having to take care of him too.
And for real you and your son deserve better. That little boy deserves love which he will get in abundance from you as a healthy healed mentally refreshed mommy and your family.
He's a shit dad! And a shit husband! I can't imagine how scary it must feel but you need to do whats best for you and your child. Youve been with this man for 8 years and got an amazing kid out of it. It's enough now don't waste your youth and the time u can spend growing and loving on your kid feeling miserable with a asshole of a man.
You can do this ???
He’s either a porn addict, a cheater, asexual, gay or for whatever reason can’t perform. None of these issues are on you in any way. He’s deflecting blame and humiliating you for his ineptitude. Don’t forget that you enjoyed a good sex life before this loser. Please dump this negging AH, he’s not for you.