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Date: November 4, 2022
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A lot is left out. How did you approach him and why did he categorize it as barking? Were you screaming at him?
How you phrased that he should be willing to talk about as a husband might seem tame, but we don't know the tone with which it was said. It's possible his reaction was uncalled for, or not. Naked to say.
I think I did 🙂 definitely learned a thing or two about myself!
Sorry to say, this type of behavior will not change unless he changes it himself. The new house has not made a difference. The new baby will not make a difference. You need to recognize that he's a alcoholic and will never never put you or the baby ahead of his need for alcohol, and the “friends” that encourage him to drink. Yes, you made a huge mistake.
So. You need to fix it.
1) You CANNOT trust a drunk. Period. You already know this. They will promise you the moon but what they say and what they do are different things. Don't believe his claims it will get better. He's just stringing you along.
2) If he doesn't care about the safety of the dogs, he won't care about the safety of the baby. Or you.
3) Start planning your exit strategy now…because you're absolutely going to need it. Set up a private bank account at a different bank, that he doesn't know about, and start building your emergency fund. Make sure you aren't the only one supporting the household. Make sure you name is on the house and anything else you buy together. Know where your important documents are.
4) Get smart and learn about how money and divorce work in your location: how big assets like your house get divided, how to divorce if need be, and what kind of evidence you need to start keeping in case of divorce. You may be able to keep the house for you and your baby, and kick him out.
4) DO NOT GET PREGNANT AGAIN. These guys like to baby-trap their women, keep them too poor and too busy to escape.
Im calling trauma related issues first before anything else. Secondary possibility is he is lazy or insecure about lasting on top. Id follow the advice of others to try get him to talk with you and definitely dont laugh at him. might be best to try talk when youre not about to do it
It’s probably just a silly bit she does with her friends honestly. One Plan b pill is 50 bucks for no reason so that might be why theyre using it to decorate (get some funny purpose out of it)
It’s probably just a silly bit she does with her friends honestly. One Plan b pill is 50 bucks for no reason so that might be why theyre using it to decorate (get some funny purpose out of it)
Thanks for the reply, and I really appreciate you reassuring me that my libido is normal even if I feel like it’s not.
And to be clear I’ve never been particularly promiscuous, (not that there’s anything wrong with that) it’s just when I fall for somebody I REALLY want them.
Yes.
Yeah you do have to take into account cultural relativism however I wouldnt be able to get past the fact that my bf was a pedophile, because by my standards that is pedophilia and it's disgusting. By his standards it's normal and they are more than mature enough, I wouldnt be able to find a common ground no would I be able to date someone that I deem a pedoophile. My ex started dating a 17 year old when he was 22 and that made me feel gross. She was 1 year out of high school, college age and a grown man with a job was interested in that? Why? Why? What the fuck? When I turned 18 I realised very quickly that I wouldnt even consider dating anyone under the age of 18, he didnt have that moment and that's pretty weird. I don't know anyone that would date someone under 18 once they have hit that age unless they were already together and a few months apart
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You seems fine being the second choice
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Firstly, just get out of your head. That's half the problem right there. Stop thinking about your performance and start thinking about her enjoyment. Ask her what she likes or what she wants. Try some stuff and ask her how it feels.
Don't try to be like this other fella, do something youre good at. So he had a big dick or whatever, don't try to compete with that, learn to eat pussy better than anyone she's ever been with, eat her ass, use sex toys, whatever.
Secondly, take all that as general advice for your next girlfriend because this girl sounds like a thundering bitch. Give her the boot ASAP
This is what happens when people think finding a partner is more important than working on their issues.
He deserves a paternity test, if he wants one. Zero chance i wouldn't get one
First, let's deal with this: according to her asian customs.
Different cultures have different rules. This is something you should have taken into account when you started the relationship just in case it progressed to a marriage. I'm guessing you didn't and now you are going “WTF!” when she wants you to pay entirely for the marriage, per custom.
Second, the cost and size of the wedding. We again turn to the customs. Large family elaborate wedding that you pay for? Check. Yeah, it could very likely cost that much.
Now, the red flags.
– The pre-nup as she makes double or more over you and, it sounds like, has more assets than you.
This isn't a red flag as many rich men force their wives to sign pre-nups. It IS a red flag that she didn't want to allow you to protect YOUR assets in return. You say she relented on that and the pre-nup will now cover both sides assets. Ok, that still doesn't take the initial disparity out of play, however, just that it got resolved after a big fight over it.
– The “I don't trust you enough”.
Not sure which side said this. Did she say you didn't trust her or did you say you didn't trust her? This is just for clarity, but, really doesn't matter; it's still a red flag that the whole “you don't trust me” is coming out of someone's mouth while discussing pre-nups. If she doesn't trust you, or, you trust her, marriage probably shouldn't be on the table in the first place.
– The “we called off the wedding due to cost but got back together”. Ok, so, you said you couldn't afford it, you both split, then you got back together with her knowing you couldn't afford it? Just no. You haven't solved a problem; you made it worse. There is STILL a wedding to pay for that you say you can't afford. This is no longer about where assets will go, it's about whether or not you are willing to fork out the money for a wedding that is going to cost more than you're willing to pay for so you can marry her. The fact that the cost of the wedding is the big sticking point is a huge red flag. Either you pay or you don't. Going back and forth doesn't solve that problem.
Finally…
– am wondering if this relationship is even worth holding onto.
If you aren't SURE it's worth it… it isn't. Plain and simple. You are either totally committed to her or you aren't. If you aren't, then getting married is the wrong answer. I say this as a 55 yr old man who has lived with my gf/caregiver for the past 8 years. We agreed that due to prior divorces she and I would never get married. It didn't stop us from being totally committed to each other, though. I found out a few days ago that my status as a disabled veteran with the VA changed 9 months ago… something we weren't aware of. Because of that change in status, we are now getting married. Yes, the marriage is convenience due to benefits that became available to her if we were married because of the change of status. But, we were committed to each other regardless. So, yeah, if that's no you… do not get married.
Then you’ll talk shit if he marries a younger woman.
I need to get more confidence
You should be confrontationsl actually. Tell him you don't want to hear a single word from hom about your guy friends after this. Do not let him yourself be unequally treated. Demand equal arrangement. So he either stops acting like that and cuts those girls off or you start meeting with your guy friends as you please.
This or just break up, just because you believe he wouldn't cheat does not make it true.
It isn't our place to tell you where to draw your boundaries.
Your girlfriend has not only ignored your right to privacy but feels she was justified enough to that she was fine to bring it up casually. She clearly considers it acceptable behaviour, and feels that suspicion gives a right to intrude regardless of whether or not it is unfounded.
Do you agree with her? Are you okay with that in a relationship? Is it a dealbreaker for you?
Personally, I draw a big line when it comes to invasion of privacy. If my partner said “I have these concerns, and I'd like to check your chats” then I may be amenable to letting her look, but if she just did it then I'd be gone. Beyond invading my privacy, she'd have intruded on the personal information sent by my friends without their consent, and I can't stand by that.
You just need to decide what your boundaries are, why you feel that way, and then enforce them.
U/throwaway_forhidden you need to just show him this post. He will understand. Yes people Jump to idiotic things. I had like 4 best friends for years- all male, I am female. We did not have sex. shock and awe but anyway. This specific friend- he’s an asshole and you need to punchhhh him in the brain holder next time you’re sober and you see him. Hopefully it’ll be in the library or somewhere cool like that.
Just be honest. Nothing happened. This idiot tried something. YOU DID NOTHING. DONT FEEL GUILTY BECAUSE THIS MORON TRIED TO COAX YOU INTO SEXUAL ACTIVITY. YOU PREVAILED!!!! Just tell you bf. Show the post.
You could, at no cost, cut some flowers from a few public areas to form an arrangement, pack an easy bite & head to her favorite view or park to enjoy sometime together; then spend your money on select things to show you know her; after take her to her preferred place (yours or her place to hangout for the remainder) where you have already purchased the items to make her favorite coffee/tea/beverage( could be bubble tea or whatever, if it is more cost effective to pick up then go that route), have prepared her favorite dessert waiting(you can have ice cream waiting at home or make her something special like cake, cookies, pie, etc.), while the entire day you both are enjoying a playlist of her favorites along with dashes of songs that remind you of the both of you or of her.
(Punctuation is awful here, half asleep currently) good luck op!
Fast forward to today and she texted me out of the blue that if she doesn’t find a man till she’s 30 we are going to be together.
When you know someone has been in love with you, that's a cold card to play.
You're not even a plan B here. It's a kids game of “Hey, if we're both single when we're 40, let's get married.” It's meaningless because if it had any meaning, then…. shit, why wait?
Be friends or be together or be nothing. Those are the three options. Maybe together and she needs time, maybe friends but she has a bad way of showing that with the “30” thing ie: “I want to be friends but she may not want to be my friend if I don't throw her something more.” If nothing good is coming from it then maybe “be nothing” is the only option.
Does she know how deep your feelings were for her? Because “madly in love” isn't a throw away sentence.
If she does know how deep your feelings ran then she's getting you on a hook just to keep things going. In which case… why? What does she want here? What is her ultimate goal? Friendship? Plan B? etc… Plan B isn't real. Nobody reaches “X” age and goes, yeah, now's the time for a lifetime committment with someone I wasn't previously interested in.
Yep…I keep telling myself that. I worry about his mental health too. I do check-ins, he says he’s feeling fine. He’s a stubborn one :/
Yes there is a difference in street smart and book smart. But for him to tell you that you have “average or slightly above intelligence “ is completely different and it’s disrespectful.
I can say my wife has some street smarts but in all other things she’s very intelligent. But this doesn’t mean she’s slightly or above average intelligent. For example I started working w my dad in construction back in the 80s when I was 13. From then to high school graduation I worked w him anytime school was out. I could do many things including help frame houses by the time I was done working w him. In college I went to become a draftsman. W all that in mind I can picture things in my mind and build them w no plans. I can see it in my minds eye. If we remodel the house or add anything my wife can not see it at all no matter how in depth I explain it so I have to draw her a picture do she can understand. This doesn’t mean she’s average intelligence it just means she can’t see it in her minds eye like a lot of people do. She’s a very successful nurse w degrees and makes way above average salary.
With that said it doesn’t matter if you asked or not, as some suggested it’s your fault for asking, he doesn’t have to belittle you like that. I would never hurt my wife like that. I would boost her self confidence rather than tear it down.
You asked “how do I accept this fact?” You don’t. It is not a fact that you have average intelligence. That’s only his own opinion. Take what you said about others who believe you’re intelligent. I’d believe more people that say the same thing rather than the one who says the opposite.
Who knows why he thinks that but it doesn’t matter. What matters is he knows how this has hurt you & it doesn’t bother him. But I’m guessing if someone said that to him he’d be crying about “X thinks i have average intelligence”. Some people feel the need to make others feel bad about themselves to feel better about their own self. Maybe he’s jealous of your accomplishments, maybe he feels he isn’t as smart & can’t say how smart he thinks you really are. But no matter why he said it, it’s a shit thing to say to your wife.
Don’t take what he says as fact. Because It is not. Find an IQ test live and both take it if you want to see who has the higher IQ. Maybe there one for street smarts who knows but if you want to really know there are many tests live which can gauge intelligence w o guessing or opinions.
You are not overreacting. He is a lazy fuck.
Massage places and spas have gift cards. You don't have to choose anything. You go and get a gift card for X amount and it's done. You can also buy them live and it sends an email to the person you are gifting it to.
You need to work on yourself & your trust issues. All the reason she gave you are legit & a lot of people experience it but you’re just like “nope, she’s lying, I don’t feel that way so she can’t possibly”. Get a grip.
You’ll only hurt the person who’s been helping you after your breakup MORE because you’re delaying telling them the truth. You would be leading them on by saying yes to the Valentine’s Day date. Obviously you can’t go on a date with both of them like in the movies.
Just be honest with your friend and say “I like our friendship, and I want it to stay a friendship.” Maybe they asked you on a valentines date because they know you just got out of a long relationship and the holiday could be naked for you. So just be genuine with your feelings.
Jesus Christ lol.
Lily should seek out a shelter and be paired with a case manager who is equipped to help her. If you and your wife agree that you are able to continue having contact with Lily, then do so. If you and your wife also both agree that you are able to financially provide her some money to ease the transition, then do so.
Also, get yourself in fucking therapy like yesterday. It is not normal to be talking to minors live, in fact it’s fucking creepy. I wouldn’t even feel comfortable doing that and I’m your age. You have deep deep deep issues that you’re neglecting. Forget making your wife look crazy, you look insane in all of this.
fair enough. but it wasn't flirty. i know 100% it was not. i believe men and women can have platonic relationships. im looking for advice that applies to that scenario. the reallly remote chance that it was not flirty. did i cross a line even then?
If you stay you are effectively cosigning this outlook on life. If I were you I would terminate this relationship immediate and don't hold anything back in expressing how I felt about her poor display of character, views and opinions. I would emphasize that I refuse to be associated in any way with a person who is ignorant and stubborn enough to believe that a particular color or race is inferior in any way. Lastly I would wish her the best going forward and advise her to take a deep look in the mirror and strongly reconsider her poor views and choices because with that outlook she will not like succeed in any respectable endeavor.
Why would he need to take pics of his “stuff” over the years when he just see it daily. So was this years in the making? He was planning that far ahead to give you this amazing gift this year? He might be so complacent with his activities that he didn’t think you would ask him.
You should break up if your trust issues are this intense
if you're already thinking of breaking it off, do it. She's clearly got a foot out the door already.
Oh wow, at first I was on Team Husband because I somehow missed the word “brother”, but that obviously changed absolutely everything. Does he come from a different culture? I just don't understand… what a radical thing to even suspect. Is your husband an only child, so his family doesn't understand sibling dynamics or something? Or is there some sort of fucked up history with incest in his family? Yikes, friend. That's bonkers, I'm so sorry.
I know. I already have a plan for where to go and everything. I don't want to live with my parents.
Why do you have to dislike it? No one is saying let her choose. Just get some input and make her feel like she’s valued.
Like, basics- home layout, location, feasibility stuff that WILL MATTER aim the long run if you stay together.
You don’t have to agree on everything, but keeping her out of the process is showing that you DONT CARE about her feelings on it at all. Which is a dealbreaker for many people.
If you start looking at houses TOGETHER or get to know more about what each other wants in a house and they are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT, then y’all either compromise or break up.
Not an engagement ring, but a while ago I lost in a coffee shop a very valuable ring my mother had given to me for my graduation from uni. I was devastated but I ended up messaging the coffee shop's page on Facebook and they found it a day later or so! There's hope!
Thank you for your reply. The thing thats weird about the whole situation is that we talked regulary in the phone and i was gonna visit her soon. She cares about me and i also care about her and i worry it might be a case of bipolarity under pressure and stress from her uni
Please op listen to this answer. Extra points for you if he can’t/ won’t keep it as spotless as he demands.
Good on the grandparents, if my mom did some shit like that I wouldn’t be able to hold myself together like the kid did
You married an unstable maniac, you think Reddit can fix that?
Is he irresponsible or detrimental otherwise?
Does he cook and/or clean?
Maybe just run. As fast as you can.
Sorry but your husband sounds like the type of guy that will be all arrogant and high when things go right for him bashing everybody around him. I am flabbergasted about his stupidity. Sorry.
Your gf is a hypocrite for sure but um I wouldn’t recommend this for your first piercing. Just seems like a dumb teenage decision that you will regret and could cause actual damage
Leave this idiot. His “threats” are a win/win for you. He likely won’t do shit, and you’ll have nothing to worry about. Or if he does, he’s no longer your problem anymore and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
he’s a muslim, i live in a muslim country which makes me the odd one out. in islam a man can marry someone who isn’t a muslim but has to try to convert them, we had the talk abt it and he said he will never try to convince me to change or convert being myself an ex muslim.
I see where you’re coming from, but I wanna disagree here. I think It’s normal to be attracted to your age, yes.
But it’s not normal to say that men specifically have a biological need to go for younger women because they are “useful” to men. It’s also wildly inaccurate and misogynistic to think that a woman’s only role in the relationship is to be useful to him.
The fact that his first go-to reason for this is because of “saggy boobs” and “wrinkles” is also very misogynistic. Aging happens to everyone, his own body/face will be saggy and wrinkly but he doesn’t think about that hypocrisy. He’s only concerned about his partner’s ugliness because her looks are priority for him (Ie. What’s the point of having a woman if they’re not pretty enough to be shown off?).
Again, not your concern.
Perhaps they will rent to someone who is going to pay more rent? You don't know thier plan and they don't need to really give you a reason…
You seem to understand relationship dynamics really well. You don’t see that he is being manipulative with that self hitting stuff?
The self harm should be a deal breaker. Either he cuts it out or there is nothing to build on. Someone who will take you emotionally hostage every time there’s a tough situation is fucked up.
Please don’t have kids with him unless he’s had extensive therapy and he learns how to trust
I really dont understand the people saying its okay to take test. It sounds like people are having kids for fun. Like jesus…
When you decide to have children it should be with someone you trust 100 %, not some jerk like this BF is. My girl go find you a man where you trust each other.
This BF of yours is afraid you go fuck other people while you two are trying to get pregnant. How fucked up is that. He may need therapy to help on his trust issues or he is cheating himself already.
Next step? Don't do drugs.
Break up with her. She's too comfortable lying to you.
It doesn't matter for a divorce. Judges don't care because it isn't illegal.
How much does he earn compared to you as a ratio? Some of these things are normal with a relationship with a student and a person working full time but I'm confused how he can afford all that weed if he's a student.
Or you reread the OPs post that says he states he knew she would get an abortion not that he wanted me to get an abortion. Words mean different things when you move them around.
I dont know how property exchanges work…shouldn't you set a date and everything else first? you can always get the ring closer to the wedding date…or is it part of the contract to put a down payment on your property first, before you own it?
One: He's coming there for work from the sound of it, so it's not like he's ONLY doing it for you, that should take some of the weight off it. Two: Clearly you had some kind of impact in your interaction because he's reached out/stayed in touch and wants to see you. There is some mutuality there between you, a good start.
Just take it as win of chance and see what happens, don't psyche yourself out before even seeing him.
Good luck.
Oh my good girl the only thing you’re doing here is wasting your time and energy. You know. She’s told you. You know. Get off the fuckin ride already.
You could be out there living your damn life but you’re waiting for a cheating lying asshole to own up to his actions? Why??? There is no contract that says you’re required to wait for closure before leaving his sorry ass, so why on earth would you want to be wasting more of your time? You’re sacrificing your own peace in the name of closure. You know all you need to know to walk away. Life isn’t a novel with a neat little conclusion, it’s about choosing yourself and knowing you’re worth more than this.
He can’t cheat on her if she isn’t his girlfriend. She’s letting him cheat.
When I'm upset with someone or they upset me, I need space. Her reaction isn't weird to me. She needs space and doesn't want to be around you for any number of reasons, let her cool down and come to you on her own. If she was forcing you out of bed, it'd be bad but she's giving herself what she needs. Why suffocate her when times are tense?
There's a difference between voicing your feeling to give the people in your life an understanding of how your brain works and voicing your feelings because you want a specific reaction from that person.
Just because her neutral comment made you feel bad, doesn't mean she actually did something wrong. And while some situations do deserve acknowledgement and an apology, some situations require you to acknowledge your feelings to yourself, determine if that person actually did something wrong, and if the answer is no, deal with your emotions on your own or with a therapist.
Damn karma is a bitch. To her. You just need to leave her I mean she has built a whole life without you and clearly doesn’t want you in it.
Are you laughing at your reading comprehension or don't believe I've explained my age multiple times to coworkers.
I don't get it.
Yes i posted a link to a national health service about one that causes a fishy odor. It can be multiple sources but leads to a nitrogenated amino acid (on the chain part obv) that when it decays from over abundance causes the smell
POLICE NOW
you can get an order that he's not allowed back in the house. I don't know how. Ask in the r/legaladvice sub for specific advice related to your area. Or phone a local domestic violence charity.
He was always like this, you just didn't know because you were long distance. He's not going to change. This is who he is. He's also DANGEROUS and especially dangerous to have around a small baby. Just you wait and see – he'll hit you when you are holding the baby and eventually he'll miss and hit the baby.
PLEASE GET HELP FROM THE PROFESSIONALS THIS MEANS POLICE AND DV RESOURCES move fast as it's best if you can have him arrested for what he's done recently but it might already be too late as police are reluctant to act on delayed reports.
Good luck.
This will be a dealbreaker decision and some thing you’ll need to settle Before you continue with any kind of wedding preparations. You also need to consider if your fiancé is one of those people who after you’re married she’s just going to move your mother-in-law in anyways if there is possibility of divorce before it ever even get started I would at least suggest a prenup that specifically addresses this issue
The purpose of dating is to see if it’s a good fit. Love isn’t enough. You two aren’t compatible.
It’s not really necessary in my opinion to share a ton of the same hobbies or interests but if you’ve got nothing but movies and can’t have a decent and meaningful conversation? Meh, that doesn’t sound fun.
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Okay, so I’ll try to keep this short and to the point (something I’m absolutely dogshit at doing). I have been with my fiancé for over 4 years now. I just proposed in February. My fiancé had a work friend that we’ll call Tom. It was pretty clear to me from the start that Tom was into her, and had more than a platonic interest. I’m a jealous person, but that’s because A) I don’t trust men and B) I was cheated on by my ex of 3 years. Now it’s worth mentioning that both my ex and my current partner struggle with body dysmorphia, depression, and just general self-love. My fiancé also has Asperger’s, which is only a relevant detail because lack of empathy and miscommunication has lead to a lot of our friction and fights.
It seems that I definitely have a type of person that I gravitate to, and the unfortunate side effect here is that at some point in the relationship my love and validation isn’t enough and the cracks start to show. It’s no secret that you can only work so naked to make somebody happy, but if they aren’t happy with themselves then it will never be enough.
So, a few weeks back my fiancé and I got into some pretty bad arguments. And she told me that she hadn’t been feeling loved, or more specifically that I wasn’t complementing and flirting with her enough. Now, to some extent that is true because I’ve never been one to complement gratuitously. I don’t know why, I think all of the sweet or romantic things in my head but I just don’t always vocalize them. This is something I have been actively working to change though and be better about.
Anyways, after our argument she went to hang out at her friend Tom’s place. Everything seemed normal, and she just went over for a few hours then came home. Things returned to normal for us and seemed pretty great for a few weeks. The only thing of note was that she had a falling out with Tom over something seemingly insignificant (he was getting a new job and she told a few people around their office). After they fought about this she ended up blocking him. And honestly they weren’t great friends, and she was admittedly using him for edibles, so I thought so long and better off without him.
But a few days ago I received a DM on insta from Tom where he told me that the last night she hung out with him at his place, she cheated on me with him. I figured he was just talking shit and wanting to get back at her with some petty lie. So I asked her about it and she denied it outright. I had no reason to believe this creepy guy’s words over my fiancé’s at this point so we moved on and I blocked him on Insta
But today he called me my office to try and talk to me. So I started to get curious. Basically, I thought if he has nothing truly damning to say, and he has no evidence of this incident then it should be a quick “fuck off and leave us alone” convo. I throw this idea out to my fiancé, and start to ask a little more prodding questions about that night. And that’s when she admits that something did happen. She got super drunk, made out with him, and then gave him head.
I have tried so hot to make this relationship work with her. And it has been one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done. But ultimately, I loved her and would have done anything to keep us together. And now I feel so betrayed, hollow, and just stupid for falling in love with somebody who didn’t love themselves and could never fully give me the love I need and deserve. She feels terrible, has been crying nonstop (me too), and I know she feels genuine remorse. But I’m so angry with her. She wants to go to couples therapy and try and work through this. But I don’t think I have it in me to forgive her for this. It hurts too much. She has shattered my fucking heart.
Wow, that’s wasn’t brief at all. TLDR; My fiancé cheated, lied about it, and now wants to try and work through it in therapy. I don’t know what to do.
Can you introduce her as “this is the woman my dad cheated with when my mom was still alive”? You can add, “Then she moved in 4 months after my mom died, and had been trying to make me call her my mom since.”
I'd absolutely go nuclear on them. But I’m super petty and carry grudges forever.
I think I just needed to read that my anger isn’t wrong as bad as that sounds. After reading all the comments, I realize I need to have a serious discussion with my boyfriend.