And my gf doesnt deserve to be treated like this by her parents, She's been nothing but a good daughter to them. Calling them 3× a week even when she is with me, her grades are good, and she is very kind.
She helped her brothers to learn to speak english, every vacation she went to visit, helps them with chores and more. So i dont understand why they do this
Ah. Well in my experience it helps to have a concrete plan or people lose hope and start to drift. Whatever the case this feels like a misunderstanding, I'm sure it will be fine. And if it's not then he is a psycho and you can do better anyway.
Super interesting, and this does fit the dynamic. I am definitely an absorber, and have to prioritize compatibility over just needing to be near them. Any tips to best recover?
My uncle used to drink maybe two or three drinks and become violent during a blackout. He actually beat me up once and he is not normally a violent person. Maybe you shouldn’t drink.
OP, one day you are going to look back on this relationship and realize you were groomed. Our brains don’t fully form until we are 24-25 years old. We are not fully capable of seeing the nuances of a situation like this until we get old enough for our brains to fully process them.
This man is clearly a fucking creep and asshole. And honestly? It really sounds like he has been cheating on you since you got pregnant and your body changed. That is probably why he is being so harsh and defensive.
It is over. Please don’t ever look back. He is going to try to convince you to stay. Don’t do it. Don’t waste any more of your life on someone who would treat you like this. You deserve so much more.
Why do women still think you can trap men with a baby? The only thing you can trap is child support payments. You can’t trap the man if he doesn’t want you or the baby.
Even if it was tampons you didn’t do it on purpose! He has no right to scream at you. He will scream at you again if needed? That’s a threat, believe him! He sounds unstable and like a real mean person who doesn’t even try and control himself. Screw him! I would pack up and leave ASAP!
Communicate that you feel like you are being given the cold shoulder. Depending on their words and actions after that, you’ll have to make a judgement call in if the relationship is worth continuing.
I think you're failing to recognize that it's not just YOUR proposal. They did the best they could with what they had, tried to incorporate your ideas in a realistic way, and added a few things perhaps they wanted as well. If you really and truly love this person, I can't quite understand why you wouldn't be just so ecstatic to be marrying them instead of focusing on what you DIDN'T get.
I feel so incredibly selfish and greedy. I haven’t let them know, and I am not even sure if I should let alone how. I know they would be crushed and think poorly of me.
Honestly you are being a bit selfish, because the proposal isn't just about you. They put a lot of thought into it and it sounds like they love you a lot. As for the restaurant, I would have been happy to watch my partner enjoy the meal and had a few bites of each course instead of complaining I can only eat a starter.
This whole post sounds like the proposal means more than your future together, and I hope I'm wrong and that's not the case.
Through all this you have not expressed a single regret of how this affected your ex. You have not said you cared or love him.
It’s all about how you feel and how you were hurt by the new guy. Guess what? Anyone pursuing in a relationship or who is in one while pursuing is toxic. It shows a lack of empathy or human kindness that is known in toxic relationships.
This has to me thinking this previous relationship was one sided. He cared more, he loved more and this wasn’t a mistake but more you wanting to go back to him for something he can provide you.
Leave the bloke alone and I would really get therapy to delve into why you felt the need to leave a partner who cared about you for someone so much older than you.
Wow, really showing your true colors here with this comment. Not only did you demonstrate that you have little respect for what your girlfriend does, you also demeaned servers in one fell swoop.
Your post reeks of ‘I did all this stuff without my girlfriend’s input and therefore deserve all the cookies. She didn’t react appropriately so now I’m upset.’
“He never asked her to cheat on me.” Yeah, right. What would be the point of confessing his feelings, then? He’s not a 12-year-old, this isn’t a Nicolas Sparks novel, he’s an adult fully capable of keeping some things to himself. He was hoping she would either cheat on you or leave you.
Your best friend made the decision that his school-yard crush on your girlfriend was more important than his platonic relationship to both of you. You should be the most upset in this situation – there was no scenario that you two would be friends after this. Either your girlfriend would cheat or run off, or you would be in the situation you are now.
Your GF handled this like a champ. Follow her lead.
A woman in my town just murdered her three children and attempted to kill herself afterward on Thursday. Huge tragedy. She had the same thoughts/feelings of depression, outbursts, etc. as your husband. Do yourself and your kids a favor and remove yourself from the miserable man who hates his family and his life.
Get your money back and go back to your family and dogs. This guy will make you even more miserable as time goes by. Tell him to sell something if he has to do so. This guy is all about himself.
Get your money back and go back to your family and dogs. This guy will make you even more miserable as time goes by. Tell him to sell something if he has to do so. This guy is all about himself.
It’s very difficult to feel powerless, but the truth is that you have no control over his feelings or decisionmaking.
You can’t resolve his doubts for him.
You can’t wrestle with his depression for him.
You can’t understand his feelings for him.
You can’t make him commit to working through difficult periods in a relationship instead of bailing.
Any attempt to influence his heart will only exhaust and hurt you. Even if you did manage to convince him to come back, do you really want a partner who you have to persuade into being with you? Or do you want someone who actively chooses you every day, even when the going gets rough?
Breakups don’t happen in perfect relationships. A breakup reveals that something was already not working, and you just didn’t know it. In this case, I’d guess that the thing that wasn’t working was his inability to work through emotional low periods and doubts as a team. If you were to get back together, he would have to be willing (and able) to put in huge effort to heal those avoidant instincts, and right now he just isn’t.
People are what they do, and the only worthwhile life partner is kind who happily, enthusiastically, independently chooses you. If you have to squeeze loyalty and commitment out of someone, it’s not real.
He might regret this. Maybe this is all due to a funk he’ll emerge from one day, and he’ll see clearly how much he adores you. No one can know — not even him. But there’s nothing you can do to make that happen, so what you need to think about right now is yourself; letting go, grieving, healing, and moving on.
The fact that you are pretty much a child aside….of course his child should on-line with him if the mother is unfit. He is a parent above all is, and this is 1000 times more important than you.
I’m working on my plan and told my bf about it and he wants to discuss it and break down the steps together but I’m waiting for him to settle first since he got there like few days ago first to do all of that, my bf said that he also will put effort and do everything to make sure it works out, and he knows if my plan works out then he would see me before the end of the year so I guess that’s giving us both hope so fingers crossed it works out
You say that you weren't dating But you let him pay for your food and spend time with you…a romantic place with food and wine… you were also flirting with one another…but it wasn't a date? What is your definition of date??? Also you thought, you assumed wrong you never discussed it with him so he can have the same freedom. To him you were his first choice but for you he was your third choice. If the case was reversed how would YOU feel to know that you were his third choice???
Okay, that's another point, true. Getting out is top priority then.
And my gf doesnt deserve to be treated like this by her parents, She's been nothing but a good daughter to them. Calling them 3× a week even when she is with me, her grades are good, and she is very kind.
She helped her brothers to learn to speak english, every vacation she went to visit, helps them with chores and more. So i dont understand why they do this
Ah. Well in my experience it helps to have a concrete plan or people lose hope and start to drift. Whatever the case this feels like a misunderstanding, I'm sure it will be fine. And if it's not then he is a psycho and you can do better anyway.
For real. She was never his friend, she's acted so poorly.
Super interesting, and this does fit the dynamic. I am definitely an absorber, and have to prioritize compatibility over just needing to be near them. Any tips to best recover?
My uncle used to drink maybe two or three drinks and become violent during a blackout. He actually beat me up once and he is not normally a violent person. Maybe you shouldn’t drink.
OP, one day you are going to look back on this relationship and realize you were groomed. Our brains don’t fully form until we are 24-25 years old. We are not fully capable of seeing the nuances of a situation like this until we get old enough for our brains to fully process them.
This man is clearly a fucking creep and asshole. And honestly? It really sounds like he has been cheating on you since you got pregnant and your body changed. That is probably why he is being so harsh and defensive.
It is over. Please don’t ever look back. He is going to try to convince you to stay. Don’t do it. Don’t waste any more of your life on someone who would treat you like this. You deserve so much more.
There’s absolutely zero reason to talk to him. The only valid options are:
1) tell his girlfriend and send her the evidence
2) continue to ignore him and his girlfriend and don’t engage with him if he talks to you
Everything else will be construed as drama.
Why do women still think you can trap men with a baby? The only thing you can trap is child support payments. You can’t trap the man if he doesn’t want you or the baby.
Even if it was tampons you didn’t do it on purpose! He has no right to scream at you. He will scream at you again if needed? That’s a threat, believe him! He sounds unstable and like a real mean person who doesn’t even try and control himself. Screw him! I would pack up and leave ASAP!
Communicate that you feel like you are being given the cold shoulder. Depending on their words and actions after that, you’ll have to make a judgement call in if the relationship is worth continuing.
I think you're failing to recognize that it's not just YOUR proposal. They did the best they could with what they had, tried to incorporate your ideas in a realistic way, and added a few things perhaps they wanted as well. If you really and truly love this person, I can't quite understand why you wouldn't be just so ecstatic to be marrying them instead of focusing on what you DIDN'T get.
I feel so incredibly selfish and greedy. I haven’t let them know, and I am not even sure if I should let alone how. I know they would be crushed and think poorly of me.
Honestly you are being a bit selfish, because the proposal isn't just about you. They put a lot of thought into it and it sounds like they love you a lot. As for the restaurant, I would have been happy to watch my partner enjoy the meal and had a few bites of each course instead of complaining I can only eat a starter.
This whole post sounds like the proposal means more than your future together, and I hope I'm wrong and that's not the case.
Through all this you have not expressed a single regret of how this affected your ex. You have not said you cared or love him.
It’s all about how you feel and how you were hurt by the new guy. Guess what? Anyone pursuing in a relationship or who is in one while pursuing is toxic. It shows a lack of empathy or human kindness that is known in toxic relationships.
This has to me thinking this previous relationship was one sided. He cared more, he loved more and this wasn’t a mistake but more you wanting to go back to him for something he can provide you.
Leave the bloke alone and I would really get therapy to delve into why you felt the need to leave a partner who cared about you for someone so much older than you.
Some people drink, some smoke cigarettes, some do prescription drugs, some smoke weed.
Btw – you might try to be more discreet.
My reads
1) She was expecting a proposal.
2) She is stepping out and now feels guilty.
3) Has an anxiety disorder.
Wow, really showing your true colors here with this comment. Not only did you demonstrate that you have little respect for what your girlfriend does, you also demeaned servers in one fell swoop.
Your post reeks of ‘I did all this stuff without my girlfriend’s input and therefore deserve all the cookies. She didn’t react appropriately so now I’m upset.’
“He never asked her to cheat on me.” Yeah, right. What would be the point of confessing his feelings, then? He’s not a 12-year-old, this isn’t a Nicolas Sparks novel, he’s an adult fully capable of keeping some things to himself. He was hoping she would either cheat on you or leave you.
Your best friend made the decision that his school-yard crush on your girlfriend was more important than his platonic relationship to both of you. You should be the most upset in this situation – there was no scenario that you two would be friends after this. Either your girlfriend would cheat or run off, or you would be in the situation you are now.
Your GF handled this like a champ. Follow her lead.
A woman in my town just murdered her three children and attempted to kill herself afterward on Thursday. Huge tragedy. She had the same thoughts/feelings of depression, outbursts, etc. as your husband. Do yourself and your kids a favor and remove yourself from the miserable man who hates his family and his life.
Get your money back and go back to your family and dogs. This guy will make you even more miserable as time goes by. Tell him to sell something if he has to do so. This guy is all about himself.
Get your money back and go back to your family and dogs. This guy will make you even more miserable as time goes by. Tell him to sell something if he has to do so. This guy is all about himself.
It may be salvageable, but not by you.
It’s very difficult to feel powerless, but the truth is that you have no control over his feelings or decisionmaking.
You can’t resolve his doubts for him.
You can’t wrestle with his depression for him.
You can’t understand his feelings for him.
You can’t make him commit to working through difficult periods in a relationship instead of bailing.
Any attempt to influence his heart will only exhaust and hurt you. Even if you did manage to convince him to come back, do you really want a partner who you have to persuade into being with you? Or do you want someone who actively chooses you every day, even when the going gets rough?
Breakups don’t happen in perfect relationships. A breakup reveals that something was already not working, and you just didn’t know it. In this case, I’d guess that the thing that wasn’t working was his inability to work through emotional low periods and doubts as a team. If you were to get back together, he would have to be willing (and able) to put in huge effort to heal those avoidant instincts, and right now he just isn’t.
People are what they do, and the only worthwhile life partner is kind who happily, enthusiastically, independently chooses you. If you have to squeeze loyalty and commitment out of someone, it’s not real.
He might regret this. Maybe this is all due to a funk he’ll emerge from one day, and he’ll see clearly how much he adores you. No one can know — not even him. But there’s nothing you can do to make that happen, so what you need to think about right now is yourself; letting go, grieving, healing, and moving on.
The fact that you are pretty much a child aside….of course his child should on-line with him if the mother is unfit. He is a parent above all is, and this is 1000 times more important than you.
Funny that when women do that it‘s seen as a red flag.
If this is real….. WHAT A MANIPULATIVE LITTLE BITCH
I’m working on my plan and told my bf about it and he wants to discuss it and break down the steps together but I’m waiting for him to settle first since he got there like few days ago first to do all of that, my bf said that he also will put effort and do everything to make sure it works out, and he knows if my plan works out then he would see me before the end of the year so I guess that’s giving us both hope so fingers crossed it works out
You say that you weren't dating But you let him pay for your food and spend time with you…a romantic place with food and wine… you were also flirting with one another…but it wasn't a date? What is your definition of date??? Also you thought, you assumed wrong you never discussed it with him so he can have the same freedom. To him you were his first choice but for you he was your third choice. If the case was reversed how would YOU feel to know that you were his third choice???
There are probably a low percentage of social media pictures some guy hasn’t touched himself to. It’s not even a tiny bit uncommon.
It’s great that you love her, but for her that’s still not enough reason to stay with her.
There seems to be no respect on her part and I would honestly just tell her she should go be with that guy.
Get the process started on selling that house, start putting your self respect first my man
My family
The coworker does not have the cat. The coworker is lying to help your husband out.