well sure, you kinda did. because we had a conflict and you just decided that it was you being right and me wrong. and if a man has some adversity, you 'take a break'. if he comes through ok, it was just a break. if not, well… it's just a way to let him down easy.
Love isn't enough. Especially if being with them makes you unhappy.
Please watch Jigsaw by Daniel Sloss on Netflix. He's a comedian and the last third or so of that show he is very funny and insightful about relationships.
He's 3 years older than you and you've been together for over a year, now he's mad that you're showing your friend your piercings. Leave him, dude. He's immature and a creep. If it wasn't sexual it's not cheating.
If you'd really like this to continue, after you go through with the “break until after Christmas,” it might be a good idea to ask her how it's moving too fast and how you can help slow things down and make it more comfortable. If you calmly present a way to resolve this and she still acts evasive, then you'll have your answer. But from what you've said, nothing indicates that either of you really talked about the issue.
This happened to me! I met a new friend a few years ago and really enjoyed spending time with her. One day out of nowhere, she confessed to having feelings for me and asked if I'd be interested in exploring. I immediately said no, I absolutely love my husband and would never cheat on him even if I was interested in her romantically or sexually, which I was not.
And that while I was flattered, I wouldn't be able to continue the friendship with her because it wouldn't be right or fair to my (much more important and priority) relationship with my husband. If I was going to explore with another woman, it damn sure wouldn't be while married to the love of my life and literally my favorite person. Never saw her again.
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This happened to me once with my bf at the time. Found a ring box I wasn’t looking for. It was in a bathroom drawer. Pretty gold ring inside. It wasn’t given to me. There was someone else I then found out. Im sorry.
I didn't realize I was generalizing by saying “many” instead of “most” or “all.” In my view, “many” also leaves room for “some” women who have psychotic breaks during the course of PPD, which you mentioned.
I apologize for coming off as generalizing in my comment.
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Tell your mom that you and your partner are a package deal. The next time she invites you to an event and not your partner, it will be the last time you accept an invitation from them.
Well I’m sorry but he is right, you didn’t prioritise the relationship, your comment now has made that further clear.
Also you are completely within your rights to do what you want, but actions have consequences. I’m sorry but your BF in my opinion did the right thing. He’s not the bad guy here. I’m not specifically saying you are either, but you didn’t do the most you could to make this relationship work and it cost you your relationship. If your ex now feels freed and happy to be single then all the power to him, he doesn’t owe you anything once you’re broken up and he has done nothing wrong.
I have a fear of white people (beyond general racism, I was held down by a group of kids who tried to scrape my skin with pins because I was “dirty”), but I don't date white people, be friends with white people or work for white people. The biggest thing is tho, I'm not actually scared of the people per se. there's a great men in black quote: “a person is sane, people are stupid.”
I am afraid of whiteness as a concept, white supremacy, and the fact that if I have an argument with a white person I am more likely to be labeled as the problem or threat even though white people have historically caused irreparable damage to my community. he might be able to control his feat around 1 person, but deep down he knows if there's ever an issue, if you were to ever cry wolf, he would be in serious danger
You could do, but its probably better for your personal mental to just run away from the situation and toward a better situation. The more distance you put between you and this nightmare the better.
Ok if you're this willfully stupid at 25 just go ahead and stay with him. Raise the babies he shoots into other women and keep antibiotics on hand for the STI he inevitably will give you over and over.
This post shows immaturity and insecurity that feels a bit high school. Either way, I think you’re both in the wrong.
Him for treating you like an afterthought and not being forthright.
You for being passive aggressive with the lyrics instead of communicating with him directly. Normally I would mention how problematic it is to expect your partner to account for their time apart from you (I will often ask my partner for alone time and do absolutely nothing useful), but I wonder if this anxiety from you has been exacerbated by his apathy and withdrawal.
He is obviously a crappy partner and you deserve better. Work on your self-esteem and feel better
Even if they spoke. They just spoke, so far it seems he's done every thing in his power to get you comfortable but going to the length of checking your boyfriends followers goes a little far..
Just let it go. It's not weird, people talk. Your boyfriend knows her. So what?
So you're basically just going around making people waste their emotional energy on your bullshit?
well sure, you kinda did. because we had a conflict and you just decided that it was you being right and me wrong. and if a man has some adversity, you 'take a break'. if he comes through ok, it was just a break. if not, well… it's just a way to let him down easy.
and people wonder why i have trust issues
Love isn't enough. Especially if being with them makes you unhappy.
Please watch Jigsaw by Daniel Sloss on Netflix. He's a comedian and the last third or so of that show he is very funny and insightful about relationships.
You're getting a lawyer anyways, OP. Get the child support.
This isn't proper guidance and the ones saying he is a cheater without any evidence are apart of the problem.and not offering solutions.
He's 3 years older than you and you've been together for over a year, now he's mad that you're showing your friend your piercings. Leave him, dude. He's immature and a creep. If it wasn't sexual it's not cheating.
I wouldn't invite them either.
If you'd really like this to continue, after you go through with the “break until after Christmas,” it might be a good idea to ask her how it's moving too fast and how you can help slow things down and make it more comfortable. If you calmly present a way to resolve this and she still acts evasive, then you'll have your answer. But from what you've said, nothing indicates that either of you really talked about the issue.
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And the shaming begins
Eh…this really does not have anything to do with your “well-being”
or this guy's behavior. Fact is that you are a neophyte and the
two of you are still trying to figure all this stuff out. The tell-tale
clue is your need to “zig” when the other person “zags”.
Now fronkly I need to admit that your fella is getting a little Old for this
sort of Social Mambo, but you wouldn't be Human if you didn't
get caught up in it sooner or later.
Enjoy!!
This happened to me! I met a new friend a few years ago and really enjoyed spending time with her. One day out of nowhere, she confessed to having feelings for me and asked if I'd be interested in exploring. I immediately said no, I absolutely love my husband and would never cheat on him even if I was interested in her romantically or sexually, which I was not.
And that while I was flattered, I wouldn't be able to continue the friendship with her because it wouldn't be right or fair to my (much more important and priority) relationship with my husband. If I was going to explore with another woman, it damn sure wouldn't be while married to the love of my life and literally my favorite person. Never saw her again.
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This happened to me once with my bf at the time. Found a ring box I wasn’t looking for. It was in a bathroom drawer. Pretty gold ring inside. It wasn’t given to me. There was someone else I then found out. Im sorry.
I didn't realize I was generalizing by saying “many” instead of “most” or “all.” In my view, “many” also leaves room for “some” women who have psychotic breaks during the course of PPD, which you mentioned.
I apologize for coming off as generalizing in my comment.
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Not what this sub is for
Sir, this is an Arby's. Or, rather, the relationship advice subreddit.
Sounded like he had a bad trip but you did good defending her and yourself. You gave him enough chances.
Let her leave and try to be a better human moving forward.
You mean hsv…
Leaving him is ALWAYS an option and here it’s your best one.
… it's like warm apple pie …
Tell your mom that you and your partner are a package deal. The next time she invites you to an event and not your partner, it will be the last time you accept an invitation from them.
That man is a disgusting piece of trash. You shouldnt be sad, you should be irate.
Well I’m sorry but he is right, you didn’t prioritise the relationship, your comment now has made that further clear.
Also you are completely within your rights to do what you want, but actions have consequences. I’m sorry but your BF in my opinion did the right thing. He’s not the bad guy here. I’m not specifically saying you are either, but you didn’t do the most you could to make this relationship work and it cost you your relationship. If your ex now feels freed and happy to be single then all the power to him, he doesn’t owe you anything once you’re broken up and he has done nothing wrong.
I have a fear of white people (beyond general racism, I was held down by a group of kids who tried to scrape my skin with pins because I was “dirty”), but I don't date white people, be friends with white people or work for white people. The biggest thing is tho, I'm not actually scared of the people per se. there's a great men in black quote: “a person is sane, people are stupid.”
I am afraid of whiteness as a concept, white supremacy, and the fact that if I have an argument with a white person I am more likely to be labeled as the problem or threat even though white people have historically caused irreparable damage to my community. he might be able to control his feat around 1 person, but deep down he knows if there's ever an issue, if you were to ever cry wolf, he would be in serious danger
You lost your home because of your boyfriends behavior. Let him go. Dont look back.
You could do, but its probably better for your personal mental to just run away from the situation and toward a better situation. The more distance you put between you and this nightmare the better.
This sub blows my mind. OP has given 5 sentences of context. Please stick to the details provided and leave the fiction section at the library.
47 Male, have never cheated on a girl ever, and never knowingly got involved with a girl who wasn't single.
Ok if you're this willfully stupid at 25 just go ahead and stay with him. Raise the babies he shoots into other women and keep antibiotics on hand for the STI he inevitably will give you over and over.
“I told my daughter that I wished she'd never been born and that she means nothing to me, why isn't she over it yet”
That's why I want her to understand before it's too late and she dumps me
No clue then, I know I don’t have it though
This is what I want to know. Why not divorce?
Why would you propose to your bf that’s so dumb. Also he wants to put your kid in a cult or who knows. There’s gotta be more red flags than just this.
two in the pink, one in the stink.
That’s called gaslighting. This won’t get better. I speak from experience.
I feel like every porn video now is some sort of step- family member porn. You’d almost have to go out of your way not to watch it.
I wouldn’t put much stock in it, tbh. When I clicked I was bracing myself for something really nasty. This is positively milquetoast.
This post shows immaturity and insecurity that feels a bit high school. Either way, I think you’re both in the wrong.
Him for treating you like an afterthought and not being forthright.
You for being passive aggressive with the lyrics instead of communicating with him directly. Normally I would mention how problematic it is to expect your partner to account for their time apart from you (I will often ask my partner for alone time and do absolutely nothing useful), but I wonder if this anxiety from you has been exacerbated by his apathy and withdrawal.
He is obviously a crappy partner and you deserve better. Work on your self-esteem and feel better
In that case I think it was, as Darth Vader put it best okay to “dispense with the pleasantries.”
I mean maybe if they came back and tried I'd talk to them but why would I seek it out. It doesn't seem like he's interested.
There's nothing to worry about?
Even if they spoke. They just spoke, so far it seems he's done every thing in his power to get you comfortable but going to the length of checking your boyfriends followers goes a little far..
Just let it go. It's not weird, people talk. Your boyfriend knows her. So what?
This was a life lesson. And the reason a 36 year old dates someone a decade younger than them.
You wanted her to change her job for you after 4 months? You have no right to dictate things like that.