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Actually the Immaculate Conception was the conception of Mary without Original Sin. I have nothing else to add but my parents paid for 12 years of Catholic School and this makes it slightly less of a waste of money. Lmao.
Yup. No point wasting any more time on something that isn't going to work out
If they're gonna change the name, then I'd appreciate if they would call it executive function disorder, or something more useful to us tbh
Just tell her husband. The best thing you could do a fellow man who is being cheated on.
It's kind of a red flag on you telling him to not have any female friends. If you don't trust him that much why are yall still together?
“Hey! I’ve enjoyed going on dates with you but I don’t see us going any farther,” then state if being friends would be an option or not. It’ll be totally up to him from there.
Just to make it absolutely clear: we are not talking about a physical abortion, we are just talking about the dad not being forced to be in the picture
I just brought it up with him and he says he will consider it, the only thing is he doesn’t have a car, so I usually drive him to where he needs to go or his parents do, he said he’s thinking of getting a job soon but he lives an hour away from me, so if he moves in with me he probably won’t be too keen on quitting his job after like a month to find a job that’s closer, and my job is 30 minuets in the other direction which is already a far drive for me, so it would be so much of a hassle.
I told him that maybe we should figure out the moving situation before he looks for a job and he said ok however he wants to find a job after Christmas and I don’t wanna rush him to figure it out so I’m a tad stressed
OP your a fucking weirdo if your making this shit up.
So what you're saying is that you have some trauma and issues from your past, and that you have been feeling depressed for some time now. Have you considered talking with a therapist to start sorting all of this out?
Your boyfriend is an idiot. You should date someone with an actual brain.
Fully agree. Your boundaries are your boundaries. She communicated hers and he agreed to them and then sneaked around and crossed them. If he was unhappy with her boundaries or didn’t want to agree with them, he was more than welcome to say no or leave so she could make an informed choice. I HATE people trying to control other peoples boundaries. She did nothing wrong here, this guy is an AH.
Her ego won’t accept this guy is just living his best life without her , sorry boo boo you weren’t it
Women who is unconscious gets raped – there’s DNA evidence, there’s witnesses….and the dude still gets off on just a 6 month sentence. Brock Turner everyone. You say there’s a bias in court yet….lots of MEN RAPISTS are freed everyday. Idiot.
Yep, control thing. It's going to get worse. Leave him.
Kinda strange how she has your email after one date..
You are not justified
You did not want to help your boyfriend after a surgery. That is fine. But then beeing angry someone you don't like helped him after all other powple abandond him is just mean.
Foe tomorrow: Apologies for not beeing there for him after his surgery and say next time you will take your day off to support him.
honestly take him on his word, go out and let him know that youre leaving with wallet at home
I would definitely bring it up at dinner with his family.
“I'm really sad to hear that you got some last minute plans that bf can't possibly miss. I planned a HUGE fancy dinner with him and my family. Can you tell me more about this family gathering? It seems super important.”
Move out of your parents’ house and get a new boyfriend, too.
“Ma’am, I was there for the break up conversation and we definitely broke up. He no longer has any romantic claim on me, and neither do you. If what you say is true and this was all a ploy on his part to win my affections, it didn’t work. As grand romantic gestures go, breaking up with someone is not a great plan. Anyway, I enjoyed knowing you and would be happy to remain on cordial terms with you, even though my relationship with your son didn’t work out. Good luck to you, and happy holidays.”
The funny thing here is that if the gender rolls were reversed then she would have went to HR and he would have been fired and kicked out of school.
I love how he’s allowed to say no but you’re not.
Is this the first time you passed on his initiation? If so, try saying no more often just to see his true colours. Are his true colours predator like and he acts like a psycho or will he be considerate and patient? I think we both know the answer to this.
When you’re late 20’s/30 something’s and have little brats running around consuming all of your energy and you can’t find motivation for sex, how are you going to be treated by this man? Not like a considerate partner, that’s for sure.
Test my theory before you marry or have babies with this man, please!!!
My honest opinion is your relationship is over and she doesn’t know how to say it. But some people might say she has a lot on her plate and can’t find the energy to discuss it. Personally I think she should answer your question if indeed she is blunt about it.
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You know your relationship is fucked up when you ask for serious advice for your issue and the top reply starts with “Lol. “
Yeah no reason to make things worse. I just wish we had some sort of conversation I hate how she just made the decision without talking to me at all. Sometimes I think the only reason she likes living with me is she knows she can intimidate me into letting her do what she wants. And I hate that.
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If this was a serious relationship, your gf should be your priority here, especially since this is going to be your last New Years together “for a while”. It sounds like she is not your priority and you don't take the relationship as seriously as she does, and that's FINE as well – but her request is very normal and understandable.
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I think this is all wrong. You are not communicating. Both of you are manipulating each other.
You need to demand that either you make a plan for getting together again or divorce.
One is to be clear – are there enough feelings from both of you to build on. If she say maybe in the future / this is over – divorce. Feelings do not return just because you stay away from each other.!
Thailand worked because you were dating. Are you dating now or just meeting with kids? If not look into it. If she does not want to – it is over – divorce.
Now you need to work on communication – there have to be rules. This is something both of you need to work on. You need to figure out how to talk honestly, open, tolerant and kindly with each other. You need to understand each others expectations, to your self, to each other and to the relationship. Then talk about behaviour and how you get things done and how to follow up on them.
I hear you, yeah sometimes people use the condition to try to excuse the inexcusable (ie.getting drunk because you were impulsively drinking and then hooking up with a stranger while you’re in a monogamous relationship). I’m still gonna forget half my grocery list and zone out after 30 seconds of talking to someone, sadly. I’m not gonna betray someone.
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I came here to say exactly this. I'm betting the “business trip”, is actually a sex trip
Hmm. Not a doctor but maybe ask him to check his test levels with a doctor. Could maybe lead to more or he may have erectile dysfunction and just not know it? Best of luck hope yall fuck!
You are over thinking it and hurt. She didn’t see anything more, you did and that’s horrible but at the end of the day it was an experience you said you enjoyed. Sometimes you get disappointed, you don’t have your expectations met but that’s how it is.
Don’t tell yourself this is some terrible thing you need to move city for, you need to not let a rejection hurt you so hard. Plus who is to say your door is closed forever anyway? You could still have a chance, she just might be more of a physical person when she likes someone but it could be that she could still like you regardless of who she slept with after. You haven’t known each-other long at all anyway. Idk.
I’d say talk to her once you have recovered from your hurt, you aren’t dating and it isn’t like you told her you felt any certain way. I’d for sure keep up the relationship and see how it develops .
Even if she owns the house, she needs to sell it and live somewhere else. He will keep coming back if she doesn't leave the house for good now. She can go back with a Police escort when she's ready to move everything out.
Maybe you are just immature and party a lot?
Too little too late tbh
I’m not suggesting she’s using you or even predicting the worst. I’m just saying be smart. Assume everything you give her is completely lost and you’re never getting it back.
So your husband cheated and you think “cheating back” is going to make you feel better?
Or you will just feel worse knowing your husband cheated on you and that you're not really any better because you also, are a cheater.
Only one way to find out, I guess?
Thing is that these comments come from people that have grown up with the hookup culture and think it’s ‘normal’ to have multiple sexual partners at an early age.
Thing is, if you think about it logically, you have to ask why it’s a red flag, and when does it stop being a red flag? What if you have had sex only once up to now. You’re no longer a virgin. Is that now ok or is it still a red flag. What if you’ve had sex twice? Or three times? At what number does it stop being a red flag exactly?
Know your self worth. Don’t worry what others think. As an older lover you’ll probably enjoy the experience more than the usual ‘wham, bam, thank you m’am’ approach of younger men. Tell her so she knows what to expect. And who knows. She may enjoy having a virgin to play with and teach the ropes to. (Though if she brings out the ropes too early in the relationship it might be a red flag. ?).
Don’t overthink it. Enjoy the experience if it happens. Most of us are jealous. We’d love to be able to experience the first time all over again.
Comunication in a long-term relationship falters in even the best relationships.
How do 2 “I's” form a “we”? one individual perspective is not more important then the others. One individual's needs don't outweigh the others. Respect goes both ways.
In essence, she just told you that you are easily replaceable.
The gift was originally bought by my mom and my older sibling, my girlfriend, and I were going to chip in so it costs less for my mom. She knew because I was supposed to give her the portions from myself, my sibling, and my gf, but I hadn't actually gotten the portion from my gf because I never reminded her and I didn't think about just covering for her and figuring it out later. You are right that I could've just covered for her but I have trouble with not being fully honest to my parents. I know it's dumb but I genuinely just speak before I think sometimes and I usually end up just being honest.
I already had many conversations with her about all the questions that you mentioned. First of all, she didn’t realize what she had done to me. Our relationship is a textbook of a narcissist mom and her daughter. She is self-centered and she consider me as her extended self. She was happy and busy with her social life, so she assumed that all was good. When I explained what she did to me (it was funny that she didn’t even realize that I never had my birthday party) and their repercussions to my life, she was shocked from her realization but after a couple of weeks, with her amazing optimistic mind which is one of the characters of a narcissist, she rationalized her deeds and got over with it. She didn’t want to talk about it any more and asked me to get it past and to think more about my future. Again, it’s impossible for a narcissist to emphasize with others. I learned that I cannot make her to understand me. It’s just impossible.
There’s a major difference between being intimidating, and being a pain in the ass to deal with.
I’ve had plenty of male friends that were “intimidating”
Or so they figured.
They really were just abrasive, obnoxious, cry babies, that were easier to agree with and get out of the way rather than them having some kind of superior presence.
Just cut ties, you will eventually someday anyway. These people don’t last in your life forever imo.
Nah that ain’t right. I have close male friends and we don’t hold hands and hug all the time. That’s a big red flag. He’s basically dating another person
Does he want you to fake liking anal just to be satisfied?
I'm sorry, but dump his ass. I think thats kinda messed up. I understand wanting things and stuff but if it comes at the expense of PAIN, then no.
No. Absolutely do not put your professional plans on hold for a relationship. Especially not a relationship still in Q1. You will always be there for yourself, whether this man is there or not. Put your own aspirations at the forefront, if he wants to be with you he will choose to be.
I don’t think you should take yourself over the coals for continuing to read it once you saw it was journaling. If you snooped in his belongings (either looking for dirt or just “innocently” looking for some item without permission) that would be a totally different story. I firmly believe people who go looking for things they don’t want to find get exactly what they deserve. But you didn’t go through his phone while he was sleeping or seek out his diary in the night stand.
You asked him for writing paper!! Sure he probably forgot the list was in there, but that’s on him. Only someone with the restraint of Mother Teresa would be able to immediately look away if they looked down and saw their name etc scribbled in their partner’s handwriting.
That being said, I think it’s good that you know his feelings now. Maybe you guys can work on some ways to make your relationship feel more exciting for both of you, but the whole being bored because you’re too easy to please vs having to bend over backwards and contort himself into pretzels to try (and likely fail) to please his toxic ex.. that part sounds like a deep complex that belongs to him alone and he needs to be responsible for that.
If you have never explicitly said to your mom ‘hey please give us a heads up when you come into the house so we can make sure we are dressed and presentable’ then no, you shouldn’t have yelled at her.
But you don’t have to argue this point with your wife. Just say ‘I’m sorry, I wasn’t expecting mom to come in and I didn’t react fast enough. I will talk to mom so it doesn’t happen again.’ No one is in the wrong here, but your wife is stressed and hurt, so let’s repair the hurt instead of arguing who is right and who is wrong.
Then go and say this to your mom so she knows going forward what she should be doing.
thats true. even tho her 'boundaries' are insecure, juvenile, and controlling, his response to them is still toxic and misogynistic.
boundaries are about what you tolerate by the way, not what other people around you do. using 'boundaries' as an excuse to be controlling is toxic.
Tell him you don't trust him and he needs to work on himself. If he admits all these faults then it doesn't take 1 speech to solve. He needs major therapy and you can't be around for that.
Of course there is. Why would she be counting/keeping track in the first place? That would suggest that she already didn't trust him before “realizing” some were missing.
Seems like there's some missing info here.
Thank you for saying so, I really needed an objective person's view on the whole situation
INFO: did you ask Sarah to be your girlfriend/did she ask you to be her boyfriend? Did either of you communicate that label prior to that interaction? Had you been calling one another boyfriend/girlfriend? Also, did you plan to leave together?
It’s very odd to me that people assume someone to be their partner without communicating that and exclusivity. I have been on ‘dates’ that I did not know were more than platonic, only for the assumption to be brought up publicly. It’s super uncomfortable.
This read as a massive miscommunication to me. Idk if you need to apologize, but to offer perspective (and I’m not paying attention to how anything was interpreted): she went to a party with her friend, flirted with a dude, got asked a question, and then you left. So to her, her friend randomly got mad at her and left.
This seems petty, and a way to ‘show her’ after she said y’all aren’t together.
Oh, we’re for sure taking a break. I let loose and yelled at him and then made him drive me 45 minutes back to my house at 2AM. Just trying to figure out my next moves.
It probably is best to break things off. Your gf doesn’t deserve someone thats disgusted by her. It is a sign of your own insecurity and if you can’t see yourself getting over it then let her go. You’d feel really shitty if your partner was disgusted by you for doing the exact same things that they had done.
She has a past like almost everyone else on the planet, including you. Probably best to not be in a relationship until you can be comfortable with that. But make it clear that this is something YOU need to work through, not something SHE needs to walk you through.
Sophistry. This is a shitposter, folks
It was two months. We don’t know if it was two months of knowing eachother or two months official, either way….
You may have posted this before he clarified, but he said they were exclusive at that point.
So it wasn't the “dating grey area” like we see here every day, it was straight up cheating.
it's not just romcoms now, it's in almost every show. I think that's why I gravitate towards cooking shows. lol
So what if a recipe calls for butter and they use margarine?
It seems like he had a typical sex drive. You might view it as high because you don't have one at all. Both are ok. you guys were just sexually incompatible and that doesn't work for some people. I'm glad your boyfriend turned your offer of sex down because it would have made it seem manipulative. Best of luck to you.
You're a horrible and shit mother who only cares about money! You don't care about what you put your daughter through! I'm so happy to know that she blocked you and is away from you!
Being a mother and not being able to ask for help is a recipe for disaster. But maybe it’s the way to get the message through. There’s surely literature you could read together about parenting and the need for help. Hell, the proverb for parenting is exactly “It takes a village.”
I absolutely would never tolerate the man I’m dating calling me a cunt. I’d kick him out and tell him to go couch surf with a friend because the relationship is over.
Your answer should either be a firm no or you should break up with him.
INFO- do you feel loved and appreciated by your wife?
Hire a PI never confront again without evidence. You can recover deleted texts
How long have you dated her?
You clearly are considering your son's feelings in this, so for you to say you're being a selfish mom for not considering him is utterly wrong. Your husband's reaction was beyond disgusting. He indirectly accused you of incest. That is not ok- in any way, shape, or form.
If you decide to end the marriage it is because of your husband, not you. There would have been no opportunity for a partner of mine to take their time to apologize for such an accusation, I would have contacted my lawyer immediately. Good luck, this is a real doozy. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Uhhh….
That's emotional manipulation 101. (Toxic) If you actually think she's do it, call her parents or the police and break up
Having sex with someone under false pretenses is a violation of your person, let alone your trust. She doesn't seem like someone I'd want to be around after this, personally.
She never said she was getting an abortion though. She never even confirmed his comment about it…
I’ve had accidental door knocks in both those positions but his reaction to it happening leads me to believe it wasn’t much of an accident.
Thank you. Maybe this will help. I’ve tried to get him to crate train her but he doesn’t like the idea of “locking her up”. I will definitely try and pitch it to him this way.
This is giving me ” best way to hide is in plain sight” vibes. In other words, I think that she, rather than being secretive about being on Tinder, chose to be “open” about it to avoid being caught.
Look up 'sunk cost fallacy'. You are going to wake up 20 years from now and realize that you have spent 20+ years in a dead end relationship. The sooner you leave, the faster you can work on having a GOOD relationship.
His behavior is manipulation – pure and simple. “pretends and packs a bag and goes and sits in a McDonald’s car park then scuttles home when he realises I’m not going to call and beg for him back. He then comes back and tells me he didn’t mean anything he said and he’s so sorry and he’ll do better next time
The pushing and shoving – that's abuse.
If you have kids – guess who else gets pushed and shoved? Guess who else gets to see this type of manipulation? The kids.
Just because someone was abused doesn't mean they have the right to abuse others.
Just because someone had trauma in their life doesn't mean they get to inflict trauma on thers.
Which is what he is doing.
No, he is never sorry. If he was 'sorry' he would stop. He keeps doing it because you let him. The 'bad' him is the real him. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. You keep making excuses for who he really is. You know he's a snake. Don't get upset when he bites you
YOU need counseling to learn how to have strong boundaries around to learn that you deserve better.
My love, stop and take a breath.
This marriage is failing because of HIM—not you.
This man doesn’t want to be alone. He spends so much time catching a wife, but he does nothing to keep her. Just think about it. THREE other women have gone through exactly what you’re going through.
No matter how patience you are, he’s never going to change. If those other three women couldn’t change him, neither can you.
Know your worth. Tell him, good luck on your 5th wife, and kick his ass out. Or leave, whichever works for you, and file. Get your freedom back.
You deserve better.
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Yeah, I don’t listen to your other friends because I don’t think they would be saying the same things if she was saying those things to them. You worked hard to get to where you are you don’t need her bringing you down. She’s jealous of what you have, and I wouldn’t trust her not to sabotage your relationship with your partner. Sometimes friendships just fizzle out because we grow in different directions and that’s probably what happened here.
They fought and then made an agreement is a major plot hole. I agree with you though, I think the fiancé is protecting OP, knowing how betrayed she will feel.
Update: i talked to her about it on the phone. we were talking about how i made her O just from sucking her nipples and i was like is my rating higher than the first time we had sex. she responded with “i never even rated you because i knew i wanted to be with you”. and then i called her out and i said i know that’s a lie. she asked me why and i just said straight up because i’ve seen the list before and she goes “you just started something for no reason im gonna go take a shower i’ll just text you”
I would confront now.
He's incredibly passive-aggressive and childish. He would drive me crazy and then he would act all defensive and surprised when I blew up.
I was married to someone like him. He's been dead for 6 years, and I can still feel the rage rise when I think about him. Never again!
His reaction makes me think he doesn’t doesn’t to get married. I’d cut my losses and move on.
You are not controlling at all. He’s the one twisting things to his advantage. His friends don’t have to adjust to anything he is the one who has to. The friends just have to tell him their plans and mention if this girl is there or not. i think your bf has a change of feelings for her. Something happened when they saw each other at the beach and this is what made him turn on you.
He’s the one being controlling with different rules for you.
Yeah, maybe don’t kiss, fuck, or hit on other people when you’re in a relationship. Arguing doesn’t make cheating okay and your casualness about you cheating is pretty gross
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I do understand our relationship is over. I have family and friends living in the same town as me, thankfully, that'd help and support.
And I understand what you mean, I just feel that I am because it's mine and I know what it's like to have an abortion.
It’s alright. Nobody’s going to blame you for being on edge, you’re stuck in a really shitty situation. I just wanted remind you we aren’t here to hate on you and see if I could get the situation explained more thoroughly. I think it’s safe to say anyone in your situation would be on edge. All in all I would say the majority of people here just want to help you and hope you can find a happy outcome.
Pretty brazen for her to do so knowing u could pop in any second