It wasn’t always this bad, I do want more children because it is a dream of mine to have 2-3 kids. I feel like he thinks our 1 toddler is too much and doesn’t want to go through anymore hot time with babies. I look past that, I see the happy moments with my baby, I don’t reflect on the one night out of the week where she wouldn’t sleep. Even though I take care of our child 18hrs out of the day, it’s too nude for him.
Yes, more contradictions. OP mentions a few times about how the son and his wife are 'holding grudges' which means that something took place. But OP has decided that 'whatever it was' should be forgiven and forgotten. None of which lines up with her constant assertions that they've done nothing wrong and/or aren't aware of what they've done wrong. Which makes no sense because she knows they are 'holding a grudge' which means she knows the event that took place to foster the grudge in the first place. So does OP know the 'missing reasons' for her shitty relationship or doesn't she? She constantly skirts around the edges of the issues with half-baked, vague acknowledgements of her wrong doings which she wants forgiveness for while simultaneously insisting she doesn't have any idea what she could've done.
If you were close friends then you should have approached him and expressed that right away. Instead you played the passive aggressive game, hoped he would notice you were ignoring him and would read your mind and leave her alone, right? Something to reflect on in future, rather than do petty things like that actually communicate with people.
Still, you made clear a boundary and he seems to have chosen to continue as he was. Now you have to decide if you are comfortable with that and can continue being friends.
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So how long is she supposed to stay celibate?
It wasn’t always this bad, I do want more children because it is a dream of mine to have 2-3 kids. I feel like he thinks our 1 toddler is too much and doesn’t want to go through anymore hot time with babies. I look past that, I see the happy moments with my baby, I don’t reflect on the one night out of the week where she wouldn’t sleep. Even though I take care of our child 18hrs out of the day, it’s too nude for him.
Yes, more contradictions. OP mentions a few times about how the son and his wife are 'holding grudges' which means that something took place. But OP has decided that 'whatever it was' should be forgiven and forgotten. None of which lines up with her constant assertions that they've done nothing wrong and/or aren't aware of what they've done wrong. Which makes no sense because she knows they are 'holding a grudge' which means she knows the event that took place to foster the grudge in the first place. So does OP know the 'missing reasons' for her shitty relationship or doesn't she? She constantly skirts around the edges of the issues with half-baked, vague acknowledgements of her wrong doings which she wants forgiveness for while simultaneously insisting she doesn't have any idea what she could've done.
If you were close friends then you should have approached him and expressed that right away. Instead you played the passive aggressive game, hoped he would notice you were ignoring him and would read your mind and leave her alone, right? Something to reflect on in future, rather than do petty things like that actually communicate with people.
Still, you made clear a boundary and he seems to have chosen to continue as he was. Now you have to decide if you are comfortable with that and can continue being friends.