Thank you. Yes, he's following her back, he's offered to unfollow though, and I'm going to ask him to.
I don't think she would be honest with me if I asked her what she's playing at, probably would tell me to stop being insecure/overthinking/paranoid. I agree about the mutual friends, if I show them proof and they choose her, they can all go.
Certainly adds complexity, it’s pretty difficult to offer advise based on a paragraph – I wouldn’t be happy to be told “it was my fault” she cheated, that alone would probably settle it for me, but this is you and everyone has different situations.
Things might get better with time, they’ll never be the same, you’ll probably always retain a certain amount of “fuck you” due to this.
If you don’t love her, don’t use her for sex. Somebody can be willing but it seems like she’s only willing because she thinks it’ll keep you with her. Either be done with the relationship and stop leading her and using her for sex, or actually work towards fixing things. The fact that you said you don’t love her in that way anymore says it all though so again. Stop using her.
So in other words, you haven’t.
wat do u mean?
You need therapy. You don’t know if setting a very hot boundary around an activity that can cause DEATH is ok, you need to get some help.
Thank you. Yes, he's following her back, he's offered to unfollow though, and I'm going to ask him to.
I don't think she would be honest with me if I asked her what she's playing at, probably would tell me to stop being insecure/overthinking/paranoid. I agree about the mutual friends, if I show them proof and they choose her, they can all go.
Certainly adds complexity, it’s pretty difficult to offer advise based on a paragraph – I wouldn’t be happy to be told “it was my fault” she cheated, that alone would probably settle it for me, but this is you and everyone has different situations.
Things might get better with time, they’ll never be the same, you’ll probably always retain a certain amount of “fuck you” due to this.
i am doing what her Ex tried to do
Yeah something tells me that she's going to find that ALL her bfs eventually call out her toxic friend and she winds up alone.
If you don’t love her, don’t use her for sex. Somebody can be willing but it seems like she’s only willing because she thinks it’ll keep you with her. Either be done with the relationship and stop leading her and using her for sex, or actually work towards fixing things. The fact that you said you don’t love her in that way anymore says it all though so again. Stop using her.