I was thinking it would be mostly packing(?) because even though we online in "our" house, it's in her name. I moved to a different state with her (where she grew up), but I have to stay here for work, so I'll be looking for accommodations in the same city. I also have a dog if that makes a difference. No shared accounts, but she's on my health insurance. I think that's about it except for how intertwined our belongings and lives are.
The details… last week was the first week here where it got warm and she went on a long run, stayed out longer than she said, so I looked up her location through iPhone to make sure she was alive and moving (I think she forgot she shares location or really just wanted to get caught ?♂️) and found her in a spot she wasn't supposed to be. Then on Sunday, she went to yoga and was late, so I checked again to find her in the same spot. Looked up the deed and it's a guy we met at a board game group this winter. So last night, I told her I was going to this happy hour I go to every month and she went to yoga again. Sure enough, she went to his house and then I watched them go on a date through her location sharing. She texted that she was going to stay for a second class and went back to his place. I have a text from her saying she was leaving yoga and a screenshot of her at his house at the same time she sent it. She got home and carried on the lie, saying the second class was tough and blah blah blah. Same thing this morning.
So, yeah. Case closed. Wat do? I'm dying inside, but can keep up my own charade until she's gone, I think.
Also, I've had some petty thoughts about sending her screenshots right before her mini marathon Saturday morning (why she's out of town), and texting her family something like, "Hey, did you know Lisa has been cheating on me? I'm assuming she'll want me to leave the house, but I think she should stay with one of you while I find a place because I literally left my entire life behind to move up here with her," so I could really use some cool-headed advice in this department as well.
Thanks.
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Man, I feel like the people here saying it's weird for you to solo travel have got to be REALLY young and are lacking some major life experiences.
It is not weird to travel solo while in a relationship. I think especially for women, it is a truly amazing experience where you don't have to constantly be thinking about others' needs or preferences, you don't have to focus on your reliance on anyone else or making other people happy, and you have to depend on and trust yourself. I'd strongly recommend every woman do it at least once, and I know PLENTY of women in long-term relationships who do it semi-regularly.
Your boyfriend is being immature and insecure. Also, you're 21 with your life ahead of you. As a woman who got married at 22 to the boyfriend I'd been with since I was 17, stayed married for 11 years and then divorced, I can firmly tell you that you should prioritize your own needs and life experiences when you're in your 20's, especially early 20's. Don't miss out on amazing life experiences because of your early adulthood relationship.
Everything you've shared about his reaction to this is a red flag, and honestly it would be enough for me to reevaluate the relationship. You should go on your trip and have an amazing time — don't let him make you back down!
Uhhh…. Ima be honest. You got some growing up to do man. It just happens on your own time. Find things you like to do for you.