Yeah I figured this was the case, I just didn’t really want to accept it. He’s definitely not out there about it and doesn’t follow a ton as far as I know. He doesn’t compare me to them or anything either.
Didn’t have to read it all in order to point out, what this cheating tool actually wants is all the privileges and benefits of trust that he himself single handedly destroyed and has not earned back. Since his pea brain does not get why he lost the right to be treated like a faithful person and so soon after cheating, then get rid of him. What are you doing with him? Waiting around for him to cheat again while you are constantly on edge about it? Fuck him. He doesn’t like your terms, send him packing.
Hear me out. Consider not divorcing until the kids are all out of the house. A lot of the replies here are magical thinking — you’ll meet a great man! Have a house with nice things! — but statistically, you will almost certainly be very lonely for a long time and financially worse off. Cheating sucks, and I’m not saying you need to pretend to love him, just ignore it and get on raising your kids in some security. Leave when they leave.
She sounds crazy. This is her best behaviour. Now imagine her hating you for whatever reason. Can you imagine the damage she could inflict on you if she hated you?
You know, I may be a bit older, but my peace of mind is much more important than being in a relationship. If my SO was pulling this kind of shit, I would be leaving anyway, as otherwise I'd be obsessing over whether something happened or not, and that's the least what I want at this age.
You're now probably stuck ruminating on “is she cheating again”, “what's going on”, “should I call those men”, “am I an idiot for trusting a known cheater” etc.
My guess here would be she is cheating again, and has panicked because you kinda caught her. She's too old to be pulling this “I'm acting single even though I'm married” bullshit.
Yeah I figured this was the case, I just didn’t really want to accept it. He’s definitely not out there about it and doesn’t follow a ton as far as I know. He doesn’t compare me to them or anything either.
Nope. Not even as a “joke”.
Didn’t have to read it all in order to point out, what this cheating tool actually wants is all the privileges and benefits of trust that he himself single handedly destroyed and has not earned back. Since his pea brain does not get why he lost the right to be treated like a faithful person and so soon after cheating, then get rid of him. What are you doing with him? Waiting around for him to cheat again while you are constantly on edge about it? Fuck him. He doesn’t like your terms, send him packing.
Hear me out. Consider not divorcing until the kids are all out of the house. A lot of the replies here are magical thinking — you’ll meet a great man! Have a house with nice things! — but statistically, you will almost certainly be very lonely for a long time and financially worse off. Cheating sucks, and I’m not saying you need to pretend to love him, just ignore it and get on raising your kids in some security. Leave when they leave.
She sounds crazy. This is her best behaviour. Now imagine her hating you for whatever reason. Can you imagine the damage she could inflict on you if she hated you?
You know, I may be a bit older, but my peace of mind is much more important than being in a relationship. If my SO was pulling this kind of shit, I would be leaving anyway, as otherwise I'd be obsessing over whether something happened or not, and that's the least what I want at this age.
You're now probably stuck ruminating on “is she cheating again”, “what's going on”, “should I call those men”, “am I an idiot for trusting a known cheater” etc.
My guess here would be she is cheating again, and has panicked because you kinda caught her. She's too old to be pulling this “I'm acting single even though I'm married” bullshit.
Fuck that.