I(F45) just found out our son(M19) got into his dream college but he can’t go (? )

The son has gone through a lot recently and my husband and I would certainly really love some suggestions on what to do. My son includes a 6 month old infant with his ex-girlfriend(17). She got kicked out because she was pregnant so the lady moved in with him. Which was until she decided to leave and move back home. The girl left us a note saying she was sorry and we haven' t gotten the hold of her since. Our son has been working 2 jobs and it' s i9000 taken a rough toll on him. My husband and I watch the baby sometimes and you will find days when he comes home to pick up the baby and he' s completely drained.

I had been cleaning and I found an email in one of the drawers. I noticed it was written by my son and I didn' t understand how bad things actually were. It detailed him getting into an amazing school(didn' to know he applied to university again) but he can' t go because he has a baby. It made me personally cry like no other. My baby is suffering, and it' s even worse that he' s doing it in silence. When we found out that their girlfriend was pregnant, we all told him that we had been here, but don' t expect us to take over. But now, now I' m torn. I just want your pet to be happy. Right now he’s no degree, works two low paying jobs, and it is struggling a lot mentally and physically. He just obtained accepted into one of the best universities for STEM and has an opportunity to change his path today, but he does have a child. I just really, really want to discuss it, even though he stated he was not going in their note.

ETA- I would like to include that my husband and I are completely willing to take in our grandchild but it all comes down to whether our son will allow all of us to help. I love the both of them deeply and will in no way deny help to my son when he is clearly in distress.