I'm 35m My girlfriend did say she wanted kids and marriage for the first 3-4 years of the relationship Now after 5 years she doesn't want kids as she think it's a burden. We've bought a house together after 3 years together and with the hopes of having kids and marriage. On to top that she declined proposal last November which I'm apparently not allowed to be angry about as I should be understanding that I needed to meet her parents face to face, but the way she said it is that I needed her permission. But after that sex has been non existent. She doesn't want kids. It seems I'm in a dead relationship but everytime we discuss it she says I'm bringing arguments up and makes me feel that I'm to blame. Just really stressed. I have couple counselling on my own on Monday. She refuses to acknowledge there's an issue and makes me think I'm the one causing issues about wanting kids or marriage too soon. Apparently because we have arguments about the marriage and kids that's the reason she doesn't want to marry. I feel like I'm being gaslighted.
Should I leave now or wait? She says she's going to work on the sex thing as apparently it hurts her too much. But there's no marriage or kids…
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