I can see my bf saying something like this. He’d just rather elope and use the extra funds for us to travel, put towards a house, etc. so I can see if it’s not a priority for your bf, he’d want you to pay. Idk how extravagant you want but is there any room to compromise?
Your lack of empathy for your mom is patently clear here, I can only imagine it's even more clear for her.
I say this as a product of divorce with a mother about as bitter as this who accidentally made my life hell as a result for years.
One day, someone is going to hurt you the way your dad hurt your mom and you are finally going to understand what you clearly don't get now.
I don't have an answer for you, but overall, I think if you can show your mom you appreciate how much this all sucks for her more than you currently are, it would probably go a long way and make the ultimatum unnecessary.
YTA. Just because you broke up with your gf since you weren't allowed to hang out doesn't mean he has those same goals
I can see my bf saying something like this. He’d just rather elope and use the extra funds for us to travel, put towards a house, etc. so I can see if it’s not a priority for your bf, he’d want you to pay. Idk how extravagant you want but is there any room to compromise?
Your lack of empathy for your mom is patently clear here, I can only imagine it's even more clear for her.
I say this as a product of divorce with a mother about as bitter as this who accidentally made my life hell as a result for years.
One day, someone is going to hurt you the way your dad hurt your mom and you are finally going to understand what you clearly don't get now.
I don't have an answer for you, but overall, I think if you can show your mom you appreciate how much this all sucks for her more than you currently are, it would probably go a long way and make the ultimatum unnecessary.
Thank you! You too but still stands he has no qualities lol