Tell him he wouldn't appreciate a woman telling him he violated her. That he should have been more transparent about what he wanted in the first place like an adult, and to enjoy all his meaningless hookups.
I'm sorry OP, but your whole post history about the way your husband treats you is EXTREMELY concerning. He is verbally, financially and emotionally abusive. He honestly sounds awful. Dismissive of your feelings, thoughts, and interests. You shouldn't be scared of your partner.
Tough situation. We can't read your friend/Partner's mind. It's hot to say why he's acting like he is. He may have good intentions and be conflicted about you. He may think he can “give up” sex for you. Or he may be playing you. There are simply too many possibilities.
The warning I have for you, however, is that people who are “very interested in sex” don't stop being very interested in sex. It's a bodily need, if you have it, and it is very powerful. You could be patient for a time.. but forever? It takes a literal saint of abstinence, and I doubt very much if he was one.
I say this to warn you, that even if his intentions are entirely pure and honest, he may well underestimate the idea of giving up sex when he wants it so much. He's very young at 20. And he easily have another 60 years to regret giving up sex.
More than that.. if you dated him, you will never be free of the feeling of guilt. You will always feel as though your partner makes a huge sacrifice for you every single day, and you will feel the imbalance this imposes on your relationship.
It's just.. an extremely incompatible couple, if you ask me. The odds of success are extremely low.
Immediately thought of Washington. It even boarders Canada too. If they want to escape the cold and the rain Nevada also has 0 income tax.
Tell him he wouldn't appreciate a woman telling him he violated her. That he should have been more transparent about what he wanted in the first place like an adult, and to enjoy all his meaningless hookups.
I'm sorry OP, but your whole post history about the way your husband treats you is EXTREMELY concerning. He is verbally, financially and emotionally abusive. He honestly sounds awful. Dismissive of your feelings, thoughts, and interests. You shouldn't be scared of your partner.
What would you tell a friend in this situation?
You deserve better, and so does your daughter.
Tough situation. We can't read your friend/Partner's mind. It's hot to say why he's acting like he is. He may have good intentions and be conflicted about you. He may think he can “give up” sex for you. Or he may be playing you. There are simply too many possibilities.
The warning I have for you, however, is that people who are “very interested in sex” don't stop being very interested in sex. It's a bodily need, if you have it, and it is very powerful. You could be patient for a time.. but forever? It takes a literal saint of abstinence, and I doubt very much if he was one.
I say this to warn you, that even if his intentions are entirely pure and honest, he may well underestimate the idea of giving up sex when he wants it so much. He's very young at 20. And he easily have another 60 years to regret giving up sex.
More than that.. if you dated him, you will never be free of the feeling of guilt. You will always feel as though your partner makes a huge sacrifice for you every single day, and you will feel the imbalance this imposes on your relationship.
It's just.. an extremely incompatible couple, if you ask me. The odds of success are extremely low.