Am I the only one who thinks there’s zero reason to share this with a partner who was not around at the time of said abortion? Why is it their business? Being open and honest in a relationship doesn’t mean telling each other every single secret you have. My DH and I have been together more than 10 years and there are traumas in my life he has no idea about. Not that I think he’d judge me, I just don’t need to tell him.
This wasn't a joke. She's planning on cheating. I'd just leave now before you waste more time on her. I mean not only does she want to have sex with someone else, she wants a threesome that doesn't include you. Just bail from the relationship now.
However, everyone is giving your story merit you are not giving the answers as much merit.
In a loving relationship you should look at intentions instead of actions unless a continued action proves alternative intentions.
It seems like he’s a fairly good partner aside from this. It seems like most the time you work through these issues together. So how about you give him one get out of jail free card and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Being mad at him about something he was embarrassed to share will only further make him share less.
Am I the only one who thinks there’s zero reason to share this with a partner who was not around at the time of said abortion? Why is it their business? Being open and honest in a relationship doesn’t mean telling each other every single secret you have. My DH and I have been together more than 10 years and there are traumas in my life he has no idea about. Not that I think he’d judge me, I just don’t need to tell him.
This wasn't a joke. She's planning on cheating. I'd just leave now before you waste more time on her. I mean not only does she want to have sex with someone else, she wants a threesome that doesn't include you. Just bail from the relationship now.
Sorry for generalizing not fair for sure.
However, everyone is giving your story merit you are not giving the answers as much merit.
In a loving relationship you should look at intentions instead of actions unless a continued action proves alternative intentions.
It seems like he’s a fairly good partner aside from this. It seems like most the time you work through these issues together. So how about you give him one get out of jail free card and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
Being mad at him about something he was embarrassed to share will only further make him share less.
Mojoupgrade has a partner quiz you can take. The /r/sex FAQ/wiki has some info too in the sidebar.