It's a bit of a grey area imo. Putting aside whether it should be this way, men are far more cagey of their bodies and things perceived as intimacy than women.
Women getting dressed together, holding hands, hugging etc is way more common than men.
So one woman showing another her nipple piercing I think is different to a guy. Also while not everyone is straight, there's a higher potential of sexual intent when it's opposite sex than same.
I think the boyfriend isn't wrong in asking her not to do it regardless of gender, but she's also not wrong to say no. At which point their views are incompatible and they should probably just break up.
omg that's a reach. hopefully she can tell their child about that someday but I imagine when the kid is old enough to hear this she won't want to say, dad chose snapchat, where he may or may not have messaged a woman after you born. Reddit told me to go, so yeah 2 parent families are meaningless compared to social media.
That's a pretty intense situation you're in, but you gotta stay strong, you know? I can't even imagine what it feels like to have your dad and your mother-in-law hooking up like that. That's not cool. It's like, “What do you think you're doing?!” But at the same time, you gotta try to see where they're coming from. Maybe they were just feeling lonely or something, you know? Still, I totally get why you're disgusted by it all. You might wanna consider talking to them and telling them how you feel. Maybe they'll come to their senses and realize how messed up this whole thing is. And don't worry about your job, man. You shouldn't have to quit just because of their mistakes.
His storming off was his problem in not being able to accept that your relationship ended, and getting jealous.
As you were not in a relationship, why did you even care if he was talking to you or not?
How is it giving you the silent treatment when you are not in a relationship anymore?
The moment you broke up, the requirement for you both to talk and interact with each other stoped. If you were both stupid enough to keep spending time together after breaking up then that’s on you (and him) but neither of you get to complain about the other’s behaviour. (Unless it’s threatening or concerning for your safety)
Nothing you describe sounds controlling or manipulative on your part, but if you want to know if you are or not, then evaluate the decisions you made, the comments and actions you made over the last few months, especially over this issue, and see if any of them were deliberately designed to try to change his response to favour you. Then see if those decisions, comments, actions were necessary how they were made.
Him on the other hand, quite a lot of what you describe is controlling and manipulative (possibly not consciously especially if he had just started therapy, but that’s a very slim possibility)
It's a bit of a grey area imo. Putting aside whether it should be this way, men are far more cagey of their bodies and things perceived as intimacy than women.
Women getting dressed together, holding hands, hugging etc is way more common than men.
So one woman showing another her nipple piercing I think is different to a guy. Also while not everyone is straight, there's a higher potential of sexual intent when it's opposite sex than same.
I think the boyfriend isn't wrong in asking her not to do it regardless of gender, but she's also not wrong to say no. At which point their views are incompatible and they should probably just break up.
omg that's a reach. hopefully she can tell their child about that someday but I imagine when the kid is old enough to hear this she won't want to say, dad chose snapchat, where he may or may not have messaged a woman after you born. Reddit told me to go, so yeah 2 parent families are meaningless compared to social media.
Sounds like he had someone else on deck and it didn’t work out. So now he’s coming back to you. I would be wary.
That's a pretty intense situation you're in, but you gotta stay strong, you know? I can't even imagine what it feels like to have your dad and your mother-in-law hooking up like that. That's not cool. It's like, “What do you think you're doing?!” But at the same time, you gotta try to see where they're coming from. Maybe they were just feeling lonely or something, you know? Still, I totally get why you're disgusted by it all. You might wanna consider talking to them and telling them how you feel. Maybe they'll come to their senses and realize how messed up this whole thing is. And don't worry about your job, man. You shouldn't have to quit just because of their mistakes.
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You were not together.
His storming off was his problem in not being able to accept that your relationship ended, and getting jealous.
As you were not in a relationship, why did you even care if he was talking to you or not?
How is it giving you the silent treatment when you are not in a relationship anymore?
The moment you broke up, the requirement for you both to talk and interact with each other stoped. If you were both stupid enough to keep spending time together after breaking up then that’s on you (and him) but neither of you get to complain about the other’s behaviour. (Unless it’s threatening or concerning for your safety)
Nothing you describe sounds controlling or manipulative on your part, but if you want to know if you are or not, then evaluate the decisions you made, the comments and actions you made over the last few months, especially over this issue, and see if any of them were deliberately designed to try to change his response to favour you. Then see if those decisions, comments, actions were necessary how they were made.
Him on the other hand, quite a lot of what you describe is controlling and manipulative (possibly not consciously especially if he had just started therapy, but that’s a very slim possibility)
She knows that already.
There’s no fucking way that you think any of this is okay? He SA’d you? Call the police.