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Um no. I’m not saying that’s the only reason people cry. Nor am I saying I don’t cry, but clearly this isn’t a one off or even two off thing. If you’re not emotionally stable enough to have an adult conversation about where you went wrong without automatically bawling your eyes and crying then yes that is a issue and maybe at that point it might be unconsciously manipulative because you know once the water works come out the conversation is pretty much over. I’d expect this from a younger person maybe teens or early twenties, but as a grown almost 40 year old woman yes that is something that should’ve been learned. Even OP herself says thats a problem she has which she even addresses, but continues to do. It’s a habit at this point and she’ll really have to try if she wants to break it, but to me it doesn’t sound like she’s trying to stop just hiding and leaving while she cries which is almost worse.
Something along the line of you're confident, loving yourself(Believe you can do anything), and a great communicator with anyone. o-o
Something like that or can be something else too. Try asking him he can give you more better example of what he meant by tall personality. 🙂
I can't afford therapy; are they any comparable alternatives?
Actually yes. She has come out as bi. No abuse in past relationships. There some more details about the situation in the other comments that might be helpful. But I agree. To me this does not seem healthy, but I really want to give this a good effort because everything else in the relationship is absolutely perfect. To me it's not that she doesn't want sex often but that she says she does when she early doesn't.
Holy crap, why did it take so long to find a nice, polite response to this? Everyone is just telling her how much she fucked up, to just end the friendship and all that. Thank you for at least thinking about another humans feelings lol
Brother. She’s as contentious as a woman can get, I do no think there’s any pleasing her. She’ll likely blame you for every bad mood or inconvenience in her life if you stay with her.
Look relationships are built and die on trust, communication, and honesty.
You needed to work on the relationship before you play games with passive aggressive behavior on both parts. You should make a decision what is more important before making the situation worse. You went on a coffee date with the guy because you were angry and possibly breaking up. The relationship took a back seat in that moment.
Look the same thing is happening right now. What is it that you want? You need to ask yourself that question. If you are on break and nothing is done to resolve the root issue, the same problem will come again. All it seems is that you have some guys waiting to get with you if any issue comes up in your relationship. You are telling your bf, these guys are your replacement if you mess up.
Cause I'm an idiot and decide to tell her anyways but she asked me anyways at this point in time and i told her they where not important except for her
It is pretty clear you have tied at least some of your own value to your 400 followers.
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Great advice, but I think there is no 2nd chance here. I would personally go straight to the co-parenting app after this incident.
Also don’t do it because it’s fucked up. Don’t roleplay your friends even IF you think it’s naked. Seriously, ew.
when I am not in the mood, he keeps trying again till I do have sex with him
Set a boundary and stick to it. If you don’t then you’ve just taught him that if he keeps trying you’ll give in. And yes don’t keep seeing him but why not be blunt? He complains about people ghosting or ignoring him, so tell him the problem. “Hey, you continue to pressure me for sex instead of respect when I say no. That doesn’t work for me so I’m not interested in dating further.”
I do. I care for her
No, he did cheat. While I was in another country on vacation with my mom. Met the girl at a Halloween party and brought her back to our apartment.
Bullet dodged.
I live with others and don't wanna subject them to my very hot form as I get up to use the toilet often, I get bug bites a lot at night so having cloth helps prevent them, I don't like chafing my thighs, and I feel too vulnerable/exposed. Buuut I hear folks enjoy it xD
THIS.
the only thing is that I never actually orgasm with him, I just want him to at least hold me or something afterwards
Ask her tomorrow.
Thank you! What if if the post is picture of the person who posted, might be the caption? Even the caption is just mere emoji
So you have quit the medication you needed without your doctor and now you are self medicating with something you can't afford but his gaming is the problem?
Not going to lie, it looks suspect. Emotional cheating exists. Why wouldn’t you mention it? Why didn’t you tell her what you talk about if it’s innocent? If you aren’t doing anything wrong then you shouldn’t have any issue talking about it.
You need to do the work on boundaries before you try to get him back. Really. Do the work on yourself.
I get that.
I would still wait until your next therapy session to go over it first, and maybe suggest bringing him in. He’s gone through a lot of back and forth that’s been out of his control. Addressing this with him in a healthy way is important to both of your futures.
I think you’re getting downvoted because you’re the one using hormones as an “excuse.”
There isn’t an issue with them having sex, OP wants a different type of sex. So unless you know of some secret “make me kinky” hormone, that’s not the issue.
It's been a long time since I was 18, but from what I remember of the people I knew at that time, this type of behavior would be seen as manipulative and crazy even for teenagers.
The biggest issue that I don’t see anyone talking about in the comments is… he doesn’t care.. About your needs. You’re carrying this man’s baby and he can’t even make a small life adjustment so you can rest, which is pivotal for your health and the health of your child. This doesn’t bode well for the future.
I would start making him wake his own son up and getting him ready/bringing him to school. Then maybe he’d actually get up.
That’s irrelevant
That’s sad that people can’t come to a place where communicating issues is not part of the day to day. All long-standing relationships in my circle are like us, so we aren’t so uncommon.
Again, to me, this is sign of a healthy relationship. Most of my friends have been in long term relationships though (20+ years) so that might make a difference too.
You don't owe this girl anything, your boyfriend isn't asking you to change anything. She's offended? Sucks to be her, that's life.
I do plan on telling him but I think that’s a separate issue from the misogyny. Yes I broke his trust and I feel horrible for that, I won’t try to convince him otherwise. How he chooses to react to that is up to him and I will understand. However, me fucking up doesn’t mean we don’t need to address his misogyny
Look dude.. you have good intentions.. but as her boyfriend, you don't have the right to practically kidnap her from a party and take her home. I know you had good intentions but this is something she needs to figure out on her own. You did it now give her an ultimatum. If you're not cool with her behavior, tell her and if she doesn't change her behavior, don't change it for her but walk away. Let her learn those lessons on her own.
I can’t believe she would do this to me no matter how drunk she was.
She did, and he did. Divorce your husband and go NC with your sister.
Lots of people skip dating and go to straight to NSA when there’s a mutual attraction. It’s hardly unheard of.
And what, exactly, is disrespectful? Why the assumption that you can’t both like a person for who they are, be interested in sleeping with them, but—for whatever reason at all—not want to be dating or in a relationship? Why is it more respectful to ask for no-strings sex only after forming more of an emotional bond? Clearly, this dude thought, wrongly, but he clearly thought there was some physical interest.
And again, we all agree he went about it wrong from a likelihood-of-success perspective. I’m asking why asking a sincere question and then backing off respectfully makes him a creep? How pretending to spend time getting to know her to put her more at ease and then asking for the exact same no-strings physical relationship is somehow less honest but more respectful and so less creepy? I don’t get the logic.
I know, you're right. “I've experienced worse” is not a reasonable answer but it's the only one I have. I find that most single women I meet when dating in my area and my age are dedicated “Poly” or non commital and I'm really not about that kind of lifestyle. I'm in New York, I know it sounds statically impossible but that's just been my experience.
He professed his love for her and then she took her opportunity to fuck another dude while he was away. If that ain’t for the streets then idk what is ?
My friend who makes over twice what you do bought his ex fiancé a ring that cost $3000. H even thinks that’s too much in hindsight and he’s not someone stingy with money.
On the one hand, theoretically it’s an item she will wear every day for the rest of her life so in some sense it’s worth spending more money on than other jewelry (though in reality a lot of people won’t be married for that long). But I also think that expecting a more expensive ring for the sake of it/tradition rather than what qualities she actually likes in a ring is a bit of a red flag. But your comment about the Rolex isn’t much better – what exactly makes a Rolex any more of a practical purchase than something she will wear every day? Prestige? Resale value?
I think you both need to have some serious conversations about expectations, approaches to tradition and spending, etc. before getting engaged. I also think that if you do continue on with proposing, you should get an idea of the style of ring she likes, buy what you can afford that matches, and never tell her the cost. Or you could offer something like “if I buy this, we have a cheaper wedding.”
Not sure. More depression and generation trauma. My brother is in therapy for ptsd. It’s not possible in my country to seek for help since commitment issues are not seen a bad as they are. Getting therapy here is naked, since there are not enough places
This isn't fucking normal or ok, man. What the fuck.
Is giving people roses for international women's day normal? I don't know anyone who's been given flowers for that.
Him calling you nonstop afterward is definitely a sign he thought he could bluff you into doing what he wanted, good thing you didn’t fall for that. Glad to see things are going to work out for you!
I just wanted to recommend Quinn to you if you hadn’t tried it yet! It’s an entire app for (mostly nsfw) audio stories if those are your style.
Thanks for seeing my point of view & this is exactly how I feel – there was no cheating or abuse on my end or his and in that instance I really think things are worth a second chance. I’m also not a quitter in any situation… & yes gifting is my love language
Sorry to hear that happened, but I think you handled it really well! This is great practice for having tough conversations in the future, and you did a great job!!
Your baggage isn’t universal. Projecting it onto “modern men and women” is just a coping mechanism you’re using to feel less alone.
I feel like her telling you this is a sign she may want something like that again. Reason being is you put that she wanted that indicating to me she made sure to tell you it was something she wanted. With it being something that you aren't into I would tread carefully.
Ok ok some of the comments here are harsh. I had a wonderful relationship with a man 10 years my senior but as this relationship was in my 30’s the age gap mentally and professionally was not a big deal, we both had long term relationships, house purchases, a careers etc.
There is nothing wrong with an age gap. But at your age you still have to get to know yourself and mature in your life goals. He might be a good man but this is about how you feel, if you feel used this is not a good sign.
You mentioned it’s potentially all about the sex, there is nothing wrong in having a really naked sex life but if there is nothing else going on -no plans no mutual interests, no social group, no wider family support, then it’s not really in your best interest.
Good luck
I would have agreed except this detail:
“Unfortunately, about a few weeks after confirmation of RSVPing Tiffany discovered that she was pregnant”
He would have been aware of the wedding date soon after the venue is booked which isn’t an inconsistency, but saying he had RSVPed so far out is an odd detail to add that doesn’t align with typical wedding timelines.
The elephant in the room is your best friend dogging you.
I asked him because he told me he didn't want to leave me and the only way we were going to leave was through death. And that to me is marriage.
And I know the two are unrelated but after we kept fighting I knew something was wrong. Something didn't feel right to me. And that's why i went through his phone.
Nah, I’m just studying science and there’s a lot of metaphors there and I get excited. They weren’t sarcastic when she said them. She’d often comment on liking how my brain works and when I was drawing out an enzymatic curve to show her something, she wanted to film it. Usually sat on her lap while drawing things out.
Tough love. If she threatens you with offing herself, then call the cops and tell them and her address. A beautiful person did that to me. Now I see that as he did it for me. The cops brought me to hospital and I was kept for a week in a psychiatric ward. I’ll never make those threats again.
I think it’s more specifically Catholic. Not all Christian denominations have an anti oral policy.
This relationship is already doomed. You should have told him the first time it came up.
That's definitely not how adult relationships work, at all.
and I can't see myself with anyone else.
Well, that's because you're a teenager and teenagers are stupid.
I know you were raised on Disney, where it taught you that if just love someone enough, everything works out. That is patently false. Healthy, successful relationships require shared outlooks out the world, mutual life goals, and respect for each other. Loving her is not enough to make this relationship work.
Jesus Christ TMI
SHE IS FAMILY AND YOURE TREATING HER LIKE GARBAGE. Get therapy
Who wants to look like a frog though? Be for real.
The age gap is the least of her worries with this dude. It’s only 11 years.
This dude ain't gonna figure out that having such ideas in his head is already enough to break up. If he knew that he would've already broken up. He needs to know and see for himself where this leads to.
That's my opinion. I'm grateful you have shared yours.
More Red flags than China!
You can divorce her now or wait till the next time. It’s completely up to you how much punishment you want to take. Just know this kind of treatment can cause long lasting PTSD.
Holy crap. You win the internet today /u/RNorWhatever.
Drop him, take her out to dinner every week and make her your BFF. If I knew a dude that was 13 years younger than me and I could just help him emotionally and be a friend I'd go for it.
You are not broken at all.
Some people are good at verbally expressing their affection, some people aren’t. Some people love hearing it, but for others it makes them feel some kind of way. And just because some people are good at dishing it out, doesn’t automatically mean they enjoy being on the receiving end (or vice versa). Everyone is different. Doesn’t make you (or him) wrong.
The thing you need to work out is why you don’t like it. That’s the important part.
Call the friend. And say you know he is cheating and will tell his wife. The friend will come clean. Either ask you to keep quiet or tell you it was your man.
Ask her to go to prom with you
Because the tradition is based on the notion that women are property.
Both, tell him you know what happened and need time to be with your mom. IF he changes, then great, if he doesn't, one less problem to worry about as you get on with your life
She sounds like a shitty friend.