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It took me YEARS of therapy before things started to get better. Do you know why it took so long? Because even though I was showing up to therapy, I wasn’t committed to changing my behavior outside of therapy. Therapy can’t help unless you actually listen and commit yourself to behaving differently. It’s freaking nude. Therapy is no cake walk, it’s difficult and uncomfortable. And repeatedly going for 3 months then quitting because you’ve concluded it’s worthless definitely isn’t changing these long-running behaviors. You’ve said so yourself.
Do you notice that you’re belittling your bf in the moment, while you’re doing it?
Never mind. Read your comments. Your hiding things and lying, and cheated on the ex too. Talking to bf before you broke up with ex is cheating.
*the past year i’ve been paying for everything*
*I pay for food, electric, internet and gas*
Why, Op? Why have you been paying for everything for the past year? I don't understand. Why, how, did you end up paying for everything for the past year? Please, help me understand how you have been paying for everything for the last year.
*If i don’t pay to get us food we literally won’t eat*
Pray, tell, Op. How does this happen? I mean, if there's no food in the house, Imma go out and pick up some food for myself and pay for it myself. Dude wants something to eat, he can go out or have food delivered and HE pays for it. No?
Even when your licensed you shouldnt be analyzing people in your life like this. Its a bit conceited honestly
First question: How did you find out? Via text messages, friends or family or did he or her tell you themselves?
Second Question: Did she try to hide the situation? Does she feel remorseful at all? Or at least do you feel like she is remorse?
Third Question: Can you trust her at all? Such as: Can you trust her with your life? Can you trust her not to cheat on you again? Etc…
Four Question: Can you see yourself continuing a relationship with her? Can you see a future with her? Can yourself growing old with her?
There are a lot of more questions, but think about this really nude. Because trust is a foundation that needs to be stable have both people being open and honest with each other. Once trust is broken, it has to be built and along comes with a lot of pain and repairing. I personally would say, BOOK it in all honesty. But I do not have the full story, since I only have what limited information you are telling us.
She texted you to go out as friends and you're married? Dude, no body is stupid here. No grown man needs to be finding friends and then you don't even talk to your wife? Smh. Some of you men are the absolute worse! You're supposed to go to school, then work, study, hang with your wife then study, rinse and repeat. Dates and going out are with wife and other married friends. Smh.
Get into couples therapy. Work through this together in therapy.
Op, let’s say he has a fetish and he only wants you because if that. What are your plans?
Op, let’s say he has a fetish and he only wants you because if that. What are your plans?
Peterson is very intelligent. But he is also very extreme and has become very popular for pandering to a select crowd. Listen to what he says but take it all with a grain of salt and balance it with other perspectives. He has very poignant and valuable information in select areas. But he also tends to think his positions are infallible because of his detractors.
Could be! But I've learned that my gf is very honest and always says what she means. I trust her when she says she'll reach out again.
Two of my friends went through literally the exact same experience (parents harassed their partner), and their relationships are stronger than ever. So I have hope!
Real question: Why am I getting downvoted for this?
i’m waiting for the 48 hour mark to post an update
Easy contact him about. If he says now you took too long shit happens, but then atleast you tried
None of your girlfriend's “solutions” are going to fix your doldrums or hers. Of that I am 100% positive. Not having a house, baby, marriage is not why your life has sort of settled. You both are who you are… that will not change. Low libido isn't boosted by kids or a house.
Honestly, now is a great time to decide if you are ok with the status quo. Ask yourself if this is how you want to see the rest of your life… think long and nude.
I would, from a safety perspective you should know if he's active with someone else. When it comes to sexual health it's crucial to know. I would position it that way and leave out any emotional accusation.
I'm very happy. If I didn't want her around and more involved with me I wouldn't care and wouldn't be introspective about finding the answers to be better connected with her.
It's very difficult. Her mom passed away from a car accident last year and she's just not been the same since. I know it's likely she will be back close enough to her former self sometime but it's all been a very difficult aspect for me in the meantime as she's been understandably distant.
It cannot be overlooked. Intellectual stimulation is HUGE for intelligent people. I’m a sapiosexual and I didn’t realize that for a while. Now I can’t un-know it. And if I can’t trust someone’s BRAIN, then that means I can’t trust them with a lot of things. I can’t see them as a PARTNER. I’d always feel like a caregiver in the relationship
I don’t think she sees you as less of a man, but rather she’s just clueless about how to comfort someone. Is she usually so stand offish?
Yes! I read Small Game by Blair Braverman after her appearance and really enjoyed it. I recommend ?
i don’t know how to trust them again with son.
Yet you are going to?
This is your decision to make. If you want to give her one last chance, have at it. Just make sure that you stick to your guns when you say “one last chance”
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LOL you did this to yourself, I hope he’s happy without you.
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That's something you need to figure out. You can give it a little more time if you want, take the other people's suggestions to have a gentle conversation with her, or just call it a day if that's not something you want to deal with.
My boyfriend was sick for New Years and I stayed home. While it’s nice to keep him company I mainly did it to avoid getting others sick in case I’m asymptomatic. It’s shitty in my opinion to go to parties when someone in your household is sick (even if you have no symptoms) cause you could potentially get everyone else sick.
My boyfriend was sick for New Years and I stayed home. While it’s nice to keep him company I mainly did it to avoid getting others sick in case I’m asymptomatic. It’s shitty in my opinion to go to parties when someone in your household is sick (even if you have no symptoms) cause you could potentially get everyone else sick.
Keep us updated on the outcome of this trip
Geez, the amount of self-loathing in this reply. You do need to work on your self-image. It's not fair to ask a partner to not interact with opposite sex or to never like a post on social media. Yes, it's “your feelings” but feelings can be irrational. And when they are, you have to choose not to act on them.
With his logic how are you even English? Since you spent most of your childhood in Ireland your background would actually be in this order – Danish, Irish, English
You’re wrong.
I do the lions share in my house.
Ahh yes the unbelievable narrator must be telling the truth. You’re quite unintelligent.
You’re wrong.
I do the lions share in my house.
Ahh yes the unbelievable narrator must be telling the truth. You’re quite unintelligent.
You’re wrong.
I do the lions share in my house.
Ahh yes the unbelievable narrator must be telling the truth. You’re quite unintelligent.
I'd say yes to us moving from the city to a quiet bedroom community and I wouldn't abort the baby if he would marry me
this compromise is confusing. Who wanted what?
This is really not healthy for her and that is always the best approach to take what talking to someone about their weight. 66 pounds is an enormous amount and if it was me I'd be going to the doctor to make sure there's nothing going on that's caused that weight gain.
Well she bloody should if she cares so much about paying off her sister's debt.
You can’t make your gf properly parent her child. If you knew this would never change, would you choose to stay in this relationship?
She is 25!!! That’s all I’m going to say.
Sounds excessive/compulsive.
Our weight is supposedly something we absolutely can control and as such it becomes a subject of much rumination in the obsessive compulsive mind.
Does he get fixated on other things as well?
It is not cheating but he did disrespect you.
guaranteed “will you be my girlfriend”. lol.
weird way to put it
Wait until they find out why STDs are like wildfire in old folks home. Young folks that think people just get boring when they age are so funny. They posture like they're just SO mature and too grown up for shit, while pushing an argument that shows they don't have enough life experience to realize where they're wrong lol
If it's any consolation OP I once met an internet date who was so drunk he could hardly stand or talk. Turns out he was so nervous about meeting me he went on a 2 day drinking bender beforegand. He also asked for a 2nd chance but I told him sorry, no. He really freaked me out and I just wasn't willing to try again after that.
Why would it be rude to turn down an invitation? If he doesn’t wanna go he doesn’t wanna go.
It’s odd. Not like lingerie inappropriate, but not far off.
I’m a white woman, and I don’t want to on-line in a state where there isn’t any diversity! I can’t imagine being a WOC and living in a state without diversity and having children in that state?! Nope.
OP: make this a hill to die on.
He is definitely blocked
I really don't want to go back with him at all. I feel sick thinking about what he said about dogs and that he even bullied his dog as a teen to prepare him for the world
There’s a difference between advice and just being mean. Most people, including you, are not offering advice. Y’all are berating OP for getting too drunk. Which yes, she shouldn’t have. But she KNOWS THAT. So what y’all really doing?
Even if she wanted validation, y’all are doing too much. She got too drunk and wasn’t responding to her boyfriend messages. Her friends called the boyfriend to let him know she’s ok. Yes the boyfriend has a right to be upset. She now knows her limit on drinking and should understand her boyfriend is upset. But now yall are just being an ass and doing too much.
Yeah I would have wanted to buy that stuff myself if I was looking to get healthy. I don't think OP was too off-base though and was still being thoughtful and not like passive aggressive about her getting healthy. Which is great! I can see her side, to an extent about the gifts being less sentimental and more practical which is eh. But…
But for her to want a pricey bottle of perfume (I love perfume, I have tons of scents, all pretty high-end but I have never asked for them as I know they're costly) and then give a generic gift in exchange too. That's really rude. I can see her being disappointed. But I would be more disappointed if I were OP, to have such a fickle gf. She was asking too much and then acted ungrateful. That's really not cool at all and it would turn me off of buying her gifts if needs can't be met (understandably, I'd never ask someone for something that costs hundreds of dollars).
I think OP shouldn't buy her the perfume and should be the one asking for an apology for his half-assed gift. He may have been off the mark but at least he tried. She did not. That's shitty and she's not very thoughtful or kind. She needs to learn to be a gracious gift receiver.
But they still unblocked them just to curse them out? Seems more than odd to me. Unless OP was stalking their ex…. No even then. If you don't want ANY contact with someone, it's seems like an odd choice to unblock them on Valentine's day just to be hurtful. I mean, clearly OP isn't the only one who needs therapy. It just seems like the ex decided to go out of their way here… This is why also you do not share all of your thoughts/fetishes… Specifically ones you KNOW most people won't appreciate. Yikes
HAHAHA I love this I’ll definitely do this
By “fuck up in life” do you mean find myself writing crappy fiction on the r/relationship_advice subreddit? Because yeah, if you’re doing that, you know you fucked up in life.
None of these habits are that bizarre. If he wants to break up with you over them, let him. Find someone else who's not an uptight wimp.
I was just trying to make a point for if she did stay as that's what she specifically asked for in the post. Was trying to make it clear there weren't any options. My wording could've 100% been better. You make an excellent point.
Ew
Dude needs to get over himself. Cooking and cleaning for two adults isn’t difficult. Time for him to get any job or move out. You’re not obligated to carry his lazy ass.
What she's saying and the edits make me think he wants to trade her in for a new 20 year old. He's fixating on her body and age in a creepy way.
My input is that you need to break up, you don’t trust him at all. You will make yourself and him miserable.
Yes, it does seem like an easy choice. I don't want to lose her, so I'm going to try to focus on the good stuff. And she is the only woman I have been with, so to your point, I imagine that this wouldn't be as big of a deal to me if I'd had other partners in the past.
I was diagnosed with high risk HPV during my relationship with my boyfriend. Since it was my first Pap smear, I don’t know how long I had it and who I got it from. I told him right away. We did research together on it and figured out how common it is (at least 80% of sexually active women get it by the time they’re 50), there’s no test for men, and that it should go away on its own. At that point, we also learned that since I had it, he very very very likely had it. And he also very likely could’ve been the one who gave it to me but we will never know. We were open and discussed it. Luckily a year later, I’m clear of HPV now but still have abnormal cells. I think while it’s very common, it still needs to be discussed if someone knows they have it. Informed consent and all that stuff. Your partner needs to be aware so they can decide how they want to move forward.
Roger should absolutely NOT walk you down the aisle. He abandoned you for 13yrs. He can fuck right off. Your bio dad only returned once you were a full grown adult. I bet he barely did anything to truly show you he cares since then.
Your dad should walk you down the aisle. Bio dad doesn't deserve it.
You’ve been with this man for 3 years and he has said your name twice??!! He proposed to you and didn’t use your name? You exchanged wedding vows and he didn’t use your name?
This man is treating you like an animal. Does he call your daughter by her name?
Gosh- that sure is a hilarious joke… tf.
I agree that he shouldn’t be communicating and going against his word but I also disagree and will say she is a HUGE problem. Unstable, insecure, stupid redneck who doesn’t know when to quit.
Yea I'm not trying to deny that's a possibility! Just was trying to add a couple others 🙂
I'm sorry you had to deal with that!
I know this is supposed to be a break. But it’s a break on MY end, so why is he the one acting unavailable instead?
^Please explain?
Your partner is being incredibly unfair to you. Basically what they’re expecting is you learn how to read their mind and find out what they like and don‘t like that way. Communicating, while not that simple, is also not that nude. If they want to stop making out, they should say it. If they want you to go home, they should say it.
Now, if you‘re really insecure then maybe talk to friends or an ex and see if they have noticed you pushing boundaries. But from what I’m reading it sounds like your partner was not able to communicate their needs and is now trying to blame that on you.
Why on earth would you need to leave your friends to have a relationship?
I'm married. My wife and I have friends.
If he insisted that you leave your friends, he just got upgraded from nerf bat to heavier bludgeons. I'm contemplating three section staff but I'd need to get back in practice.
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She's either lying, so by saying that to you shes not only mentally unstable but also insanely cruel. Or she's telling you the truth, and by telling you she's not only mentally unstable but also insanely cruel. You'll never know the truth. Either way, cut this person out of your life.
Your friends are toxic. You have a mentally secure, mature, kind boyfriend and they’re used to dating asshats so it seems abnormal. You are lucky. Just double check he’s okay, let him know if you are okay and tell him you appreciate or love how he’s not been jealous. Hell, maybe even get him some flowers. I was 38 till a woman bought me a single orchid.
Don’t assume if you didn’t try it yet
If she currently associates you with feelings of stress, uncertainty, negativity, and/or spending of her energy I would just sent her cards and flowers. You don’t want to add more for her to think about on a day like that.
I AM this type of person, I'm the one with separation anxiety. I try to take her as much as possible as it literally makes me feel better having her around.
She gets kicked out of the room if she even stares like a creeper during sex. And I absolutely don't take her to places where she would be an inconvenience for others.
OP's ex is too attached
Welcome to adulthood my friend. The older you get the more you will realize that humans are not perfect. And that the women you date will come with more than just sex and having fun.
Would you just describe to something that you will go through in just about every serious relationship at some point. For example, imagine if you were with someone for 4 years and then the two of you decided to have a child. And then 4 months into the pregnancy the two of you lost the child. Do you think that the general mood of your relationship would be happiness? No, it would be a lot of pintup disappointment, anger, sadness, and other emotions.
He sounds incredibly selfish, and time hasn't improved that. Family doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life.