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Date: October 7, 2022
would you put up a picture of your bare butt for the world to see?
I wouldnt. As such there would be a serious difference between my gf and me. do i want that kinda difference to my partner? no.
Just like me, you are allowed to think/feel the way you do. but be reminded, this is a YOU issue and not a gf issue
Literally how people work
I’m currently chatting with a guy, we really like each other, we met up several times, spent time together, had sex and we talk pretty frequently but he told me he sometimes gets overwhelmed by talking with the same person all day every day, so he needs to take 1 or 2 days break from chatting. And that’s okay! Before he told me this, every time he didn’t respond for 1 or 2 days my confidence would be CRUSHED but now I completely understand his situation, I even think it’s healthy to have this kind of breaks. Maybe the same happens to the guy you’re talking to, he’s stressed and he just needs a mental break. Don’t feel like crap, just send him a message, ask him in a polite and non-invasive way what’s going on and he should explain what’s happening. Communication is key in every relationship, but remember to not be invasive and being understanding.
I don't think this relationship is as important to her as it is to you. She's got a free and non committed mindset, hence she doesn't contact you as much as you think is reasonable, when she's away and doesn't base her plans on your relationship. She probably likes your company sometimes, but prioritises her girl friends. Do you like travelling? Have you been anywhere together? Travelling seems to be important to her. She sounds like someone who likes to be busy and have new experiences/adventures.. if you're a home buddy, who wants her time but doesn't make any interesting plans, then you're gonna lose out to her friends.. Its only been a year and thats usually the most intense and exciting time in a relationship, but you argue and now you're already feeling insecure and clingy.. Maybe you're just not that compatible.. Either way I think if you get too needy and try to be controlling it's gonna push her right away and you may have already inadvertently killed it. Try to take a breather from the stress of this relationship and reconnect with your own friends and hobbies that make YOU happy. But bottom line, I just don't think she's at the same place as you. You're ready to settle down and be serious with her and she probably sees this as early days and more casual..
From what I'm reading it seems that her symptoms started after taking that ADHD stimulant. It looks like she's having hyper focusing problems. She focuses so much. That's why she's so obsessed with reddit. I feel like maybe the dose they're giving her is too much. Are they 100% sure she has ADHD? I also have many ADHD symptoms but it's just normal to me, it's my personality.
You should bring her to a doctor and try to either change the drug or reduce the dosis. It seems like that stimulant is doing something to her brain.
Just my opinion.
She wants me back and wants to try again should i ? I rlly fo have feelings for her
Ask her sister.
Divorce isn't easy but it's the right thing to do. Don't try avoiding pain and end up wasting more years on her.
Imagine it is 10 years later. You are celebrating your 4th wedding anniversary with the love of your life. Your soulmate. Your love is fully returned by the man you will grow old with. He is not the boyfriend you had 10 years ago, that scumbag cheater what’s his name – the one who gave you the STDs. You and your husband have the perfect life. A beautiful home, good income, happy families that support your marriage to each other. You have it all….except…children. Your loving husband doesn’t hold it against you. He never looks at you with blame in his eyes, but you do when you look in the mirror. You look in the mirror and ask yourself why you stayed with a cheater, who kept on cheating until you were finally infertile.
This is pretty funny tbh
Never mind. Read your comments. Your hiding things and lying, and cheated on the ex too. Talking to bf before you broke up with ex is cheating.
Never mind. Read your comments. Your hiding things and lying, and cheated on the ex too. Talking to bf before you broke up with ex is cheating.
It’s no one’s fault usually. People just grow apart.. especially when you’re in your 20s you’re both still growing as people, changing your views on life, your likes and dislikes and who you want to be. You can start out as similar people and end up being very different and that’s ok. You wouldn’t want to stay in a relationship where you don’t love each other anymore.
done and done. thank you
What is that app called? Not that it would even matter at this point but just curious
He offered to “take me out”, so I took that as a sign he was serious about me and willing to put in the effort to court me.
I was slightly disappointed when he complained about prices on the first date, but he did pay so I saw that as a sign he was into me.
Then he played this nasty trick to basically “get me back” the second date and the place was much more expensive and I feel like such a fool. I really can't forgive myself for paying the whole thing ESPECIALLY since I should have asked for a refund when the waitress charged my whole card
Sounds like he was love bombing you.
You don't have to stay with someone who isn't treating you well just because they used to.
No it’s not the fault of the victim, but I wouldn’t marry someone who routinely puts themselves in the precarious position of potentially being taken advantage of, it’s a sign of low integrity and low interest in your partner’s sanity. Good for you for not having been taken advantage of yet, hope you keep up the winning streak as your husband pretends it doesn’t bother him
I tried to explain all of that to her and she still doesn't believe me
Damn, you beat me to it!
[Cat puppet stares into the camera awkwardly]
Is this a troll for breeding knk or what? Just now i read another post about a guy that wants to impregnate many women just cos he wants to have lots of babies without paying child support….
Op, let’s say he has a fetish and he only wants you because if that. What are your plans?
Dude, you gotta speak up. You should've called him out at the pool. I get that it might've been uncomfortable for you also. I was in therapy for a while for being severely non-confrontational. I would highly recommend therapy for this – it takes time to deal with anxiety surrounding confrontation, but ultimately, you don't want to be complicit in someone else's sexual harassment of a minor.
As for what you should do now… I think you should tell your friends and the guy as directly as possible. “The way Frank oggles and rates women and girls makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to be around that anymore.”
If this is a situation that has happened several times, then I don't think you need to explain it more. If you do, keep it brief, the easiest way to be misunderstood is to over-explain yourself. You can say “when we were at the pool, he commented on how a girl was naked when she appeared to be ~14, and then he proceeded to stare at her. On several other occasions he has rated women's looks unprompted. I don't like it, so I don't want to be around it. I never wanted to start an argument, that is why I simply distanced myself. We don't need to discuss this further. I appreciate you all respecting my wishes. ”
If they are your friends, they should drop it. If they are the type to debate you on it, then I don't know if those friends worth keeping in the first place. That is why I think it's better to say something because I would rather not continue to be friends with people that don't understand why Frank is creepy. And who knows, maybe Frank realized he fucked up and does some semblance of an apology.
Your date shouldnt be in a cafe it should be at a therapist.
Could she have post partum baby blues? That can be a traumatic time for mom. You both need a break and you both need help. You mentioned dogs. A nice brisk walk with the dogs can help. Good luck. Get therapy if you need it. Babies are stressful. We love them so much but the newness can be overwhelming. If you can find a smidge of love you once had had for each other, do it. Do it for your baby. Good luck! You are a good dad.
Should I keep waiting or is this a lost cause?
It's honestly really naked to tell, but it is clear that you're not perfectly compatible (which can sometimes be overcome), and that you're way ahead of him when it comes to being able to make a long term commitment.
So one option is to only keep waiting if there are some milestones in front of him that he's going to have to step up to deal with. Like if he's graduating soon, or maybe if you're not living together now, but you've been talking about getting a place together. Where living together may seen counterintuitive but it could answer the keep waiting or bail question a lot sooner than if nothing significant changes. So don't commit to a long lease.
Always tell someone the reason why you break something off. It's better to be honest
That ain't friendship, that's being an orbiter. I'm a man and have male best friends, and guess what I'm not or ever have been in love with any of them. That's friendship.
You're really going to have to understand and reflect on your own intent and agenda you have with this “friendship” and see what it is you want and need, instead of whatever mental charade you have going on.
If you wanted to date her, why not just date her? The person your lying to isn't just her, it's yourself. Treat yourself better than this man.
What an absolutely monstrous thing to do to somebody… my god… “the good news” she says
The only good news here would have been you telling him you have strong feelings for women and might be a lesbian before marriage and leave him to make an informed decision, not wasting his life on a lie. Surely you didnt realize that you are a lesbian all of a sudden after being married. You ruined your ex husbands life and future relationships. Disgusting
What is she doing to heal from the depression? That should be goal number one, as it will alleviate your relationship troubles as well if she gets better. Things that can help when feeling depressed and have a solid base in science are: cognitive therapy, mindfulness, going for walks or running, eating healthy, having a healthy rhythm, sleeping well. Writing down a couple of small things that’s she’s grateful for each day helps too. I understand you’re feeling responsible for your partner, but if she doesn’t doesn’t put in the effort to heal, at some point you sadly have to say ‘enough is enough’. She can’t help the depression, but she can make an effort to heal.
To make things worse there is someone I'm constantly thinking about being with and want a relationship.
Way to bury the lead, bro.
You may have already felt discontented before you met this other person, but the fact that you're fantasizing about a relationship with someone else is far from being a footnote in your current situation. It's more likely to be one of the biggest reasons, if not the biggest reason, why your wife doesn't have any real hope that her efforts to improve will actually make a difference— because a real-life person carrying more than 19 years of imperfect history can never in a million years compare to your flawless crush and fantasy relationship.
If you aren't already, please discuss your situation with a licensed therapist who can help support you through the process of making the best possible choice, considering the potentially life-altering consequences for you, your wife, and your children.
Shut the fuck up.
Nah we can understand why your girlfriend is feeling this way. People who get into relationships want to be their partner's first priority over everything, but the way she is behaving is just plain toxic.
Breaking photos, yelling at your child, forcing you to remove your late wife's things, that's just controlling, jealous behavior. She cannot even force your child to accept her as a mom. Don't start crawling back to someone who disrespected your feelings, scared your child to the point she started crying, and disrespected your late wife.
Your ex gf sounds like she'll go crazy at any point in time.
I’m not being mean, I’m being direct you just keep wanting to feel self-pity and bad for yourself that you’re gonna lose your relationship and you’re doing it all to yourself. I was actually trying to be helpful and then I got frustrated.
Could be! But I've learned that my gf is very honest and always says what she means. I trust her when she says she'll reach out again.
Two of my friends went through literally the exact same experience (parents harassed their partner), and their relationships are stronger than ever. So I have hope!
Peterson is very intelligent. But he is also very extreme and has become very popular for pandering to a select crowd. Listen to what he says but take it all with a grain of salt and balance it with other perspectives. He has very poignant and valuable information in select areas. But he also tends to think his positions are infallible because of his detractors.
But how can I blame him for that when I don't find myself attractive to..?
Normal, very sexual tiktoks you mean.
Can't deny that it's thirst traps with the sole purpose of getting guys sexual attention.
If she posted one picture with a see through shirt just because she happens to take it during vacation or smth, that's one thing.
If she keeps taking pictures with see through shirts for the purpose of posting and getting attention, it's another.
You’re right
You said dating, how many dates? Try to meet a woman IRL
Your dad needs ro cut the shit and you need to decide if you actually want to be a wife or not.
You are not a child. If you are unable or unwilling to stand by your husband you should not be a wife. Shit or get off the pot. Be a partner to your husband or admit you're not cut out for the job.
Your father getting pissy nobody asked him for help with the dryer or the dump is the most juvenile and transparent bullshit I've ever heard. You cannot convince me you believe that.
The fact that you're even considering letting your daddy separate you and your kids from your husband for the holiday tells me something is seriously fucked up with your family dynamic
Your primary roles are wife and mother. Not child.
Grow up and afraid like it.
Give her a year to pay her debt and observe what happens .If she constantly buys expensive things that are not necessary and her debt stays the same or increases then she is going to use you to pay for her lifestyle and to buy her a house ,once you are married and even if you buy the house with ur money ,she will own halve of it .Why would you want to risk losing a house to her if one day you refuse to keep supporting her spending habits and she wants a divorce because “she deserves better” .I have seen this thing happen 4 times in the past 7 years .Good luck ?
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Why do u love this guy?
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Well first he’s right about his brother. That being said. He’s handling this immaturely. He needs to settle things with his brother. To you the shoes were just a gift. He is allowed to be hurt. But quite clearly the person to blame is his brother.
So you met live! you've never met him person what makes you think you're the only LDR he has…
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Babe that’s suchhhhh a red flag. Let’s say in the future you get married, get pregnant, are taking care of a new born and gain a few pounds – do you want this dude making you feel bad about yourself?! I’d break up with someone immediately if they seriously commented negatively on my body
I mean I really don't think I'd ever go ahead with cheating but each rejected advance is just further pushing me down.
I guess I'm sick of talking. I've told her many times how it makes me feel and she just says I'm being manipulative ect and then I feel bad for bringing it up.
I guess I'll explain to her what happened and that nothing happened but that the fact that I even got in the car with her should be alarming enough that she understands the severity of the issue.
If you’re mad, I think that’s reasonable.
You were used as a prop for this person to hide who they truly are; it’s possible they thought they loved you (obviously, not romantically), but people don’t do this to others they truly love.
Sorry this happened to you.
Why would he make a charge that he knows you'll see?
Just don’t do what my current partner and say “wow, you’re really not one of those girls that weighs 45 kilos!” When she’s getting on the back of your motorbike for the first time.
Like, I’m sorry I’m so freakishly large compared to the tiny girls you usually hang around with? Way to make someone feel special lol
Did you talk about kids?. If she pulls shit like that and doesn't get a period she won't be super fertile at the end of the rainbow.
I agree that the story it is pretty one sided.
Plus I don’t see why mentioning the toxic ex relationship was related since the post does not mention any behaviour.
Closest will be his intention to move for a better career prospect which you agreed too, so I don’t see how is that toxic. You mention he has always been apologising to you reassuring you.
What is clear is he’s pretty pissed/done with the relation to have took off his ring, and been pent up to have the outburst.
You mention he has been giving in to you. That could be a reason for his emotions. You could be the issue. It takes 2 hands to clap and it’s always a cause and reaction with most interactions. People play off each others actions so yeah, you need to take a deep look at what actions of yours triggered him.
But end of the day it could all boil down to being incompatible but never really had to opportunity to talk about it.
Hour late is not “fashionably late”, never mind something like being fashionably late doesn't exist. It's disrespectful to others and their time. It is a big deal. That is really crap advicce.
Yeah, especially once the partner has started coming to most family events.
It’s pretty bad, it’s very close to cheating. But I personally wouldn’t end a relationship for this immediately. I would communicate that I want a sincere serious apology and commitment to stop interacting with other people sexually on the internet. And probably a 2 week break so they have the chance to meditate on the severity of their actions.
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Out of the 1000s of people I know out of high school, only like 2 stayed together/ married. I’m just being realistic. The probabilities of your relationship lasting are low.
Also, my 21 yo brother had a gf straight out of high school, they lasted like 3 yrs. Did I ever get her a present? No. Am I glad I didn’t? Hell yeah I am.
I can only speak to my family's experience. Two members married into other cultures (one was Indian), and both marriages have broken up. Cultural differences, especially the influence of inlaws, was a significant factor in both breakups.
One case was especially surprising to me as I saw them as deeply in love, well educated, and sophisticated. But the family pressures were never-ending. So along with the normal pressures of married life, money, careers, and kids, the non-Indian spouse had to deal with constant disapproval and pressure.
Anyway, I think the only way it can work is if the spouse with the problematic parents is 100% ready and able to set the proper boundaries and expectations, even to the point of cutting them off if they don't fully accept the new spouse. If the parents can't make a real change and come to welcome their child's spouse, it will always be a thorn in the side of the marriage.
Tread carefully, OP. Go slowly and watch how your bf deals with the parents.
Good luck, OP.
Yeah I had a similar experience, never wanted kids before the age of 32-34. Almost married a woman when I was in my mid 20s who didn’t want kids (and couldn’t have even if she wanted them). At the time I was more than fine with that, I didn’t want kids. But I’m really glad we never married because once I hit my early 30s I decided I wanted to have children. Life changed, I changed. I’m really glad I didn’t get married until I was almost 35, to a woman who also wanted kids. I’m not the same person I was when I was 25, life changes so much between 25 and 35. My only advice to young people in their 20s who are thinking of getting married (especially early 20s), just wait. Stay with your partner if you want but you have plenty of time to get married. Really I don’t think most people know what they want until they’re at least 28-30 years old. Aging kind of sucks, enjoy your 20s, but know the person who comes out on the other side might not feel the same as the person you are today.
I'm sorry to hear this.
She just seems like a poor character. It’s not a girl thing. There are guys who are just as self obsessed as she is.
You need to move on. He had a vasectomy because he doesn't want any more kids. He's 44 he's way past the every-two-hour feedings and diaper changes, he just wants to relax. If you push for a reversal he'll be the one to resent you. You two are at totally different places in life, don't short change yourself or your son by choosing to not have anymore children, just because he doesn't want anymore.
If it bothers you now, you will be bothered by it for the rest of your life.
She lied, and you do have a right to be upset. Pay no mind to those shaming you. She knew your view, and lied to keep you. You are entitled to have standards for a spouse – it is your life. Best of luck with whatever decision you make.
He wants to wait until we have a house of our own and keeps putting off how long we will wait to try
Is that the real reason? Is 135k enough to buy a home? If so, has he made any moves towards buying one?
FAFO right here. You didn't ruin his family, he did. But I hope you're learning a vital lesson here… people will show you who they are in how they treat others.
Thank you for sharing with me. I’m definitely going to suggest we revisit the codeword/object tactic so this doesn’t happen again.
Have you sat her down in a calm moment absent any of these issues and lovingly said something like “hey, I’ve noticed a change recently. We haven’t been having as much sex and you don’t seem to enjoy physical intimacy the way you used to. What do you feel has led to this change? How can we work together to get back to how we were?”
Or have you been coming at it more from a place of blame where the language you’re using is more like: “you don’t want sex with me anymore.” “You don’t touch me anymore.” “You’re not seeing a therapist anymore.”?
Yeah I agree, honestly I think the colonizer but goes a little too far but I don't think OPs phrasing was not intentionally provactive.
It took me years to accept that I was groomed. Years. And when it hit, it was devastating.
Why did you delete your posts after getting called out, then?
This sounds like she is in bad mental health.
Push her to get into therapy. Do something more than what you're doing.
If you're not willing to put your all into helping her though this and given up on your end, then check out of the relationship.
Tell him and if he accuses you tell him to go talk to his urologist.
If she’s THAT weak willed she will cheat on you at home. Your gf should have enough sense to not follow the crowd. Also just because her friends are looking for people to hook up with doesn’t mean they want her too. I always played wingwoman for my single friends while dating.
Frankly you have an insecure warped sense of your gf and her friends. Unless there’s evidence to the contrary this sounds like a you problem
Ask them if you've done something to offend them. I'm sure you haven't, but ask anyway. If they say no, then ask why they are so openly dismissive of you. I'd straight up tell them the environment feels toxic and see what they say.
Let them know that you want to work it out with them rather than going to the doctors to complain. Just see what happens. I'd even record it on your phone if you can.
My stepson is now thirty and has been a huge part of my life since he was seven. He calls me by my first name he always has but every once in a while he throws in a Dad. It just seems to match that moment and honestly I really enjoy it when I do get it.
So I think it's ok if she calls you Dad sometimes, because if you are doing your job right that is what you are. As long as you are not trying to diminish her father in any way you are adding to the Dad equation, not subtracting. People can have more than one child and love each fully why then can a child not have more than one Mom or Dad.
One of my coworkers told me I look young because “your chest is so underdeveloped”. At that time I was a 34A I think, just naturally small (as is all of me). Now I've had a double mastectomy but as someone who is petite and looks young it pisses me off so much to hear people call these factors “underdeveloped” “childlike” “kids body”, some people are just small!!!! Like the woman that's known for being “trapped in a kids body” WTF NO!!! SHES A GROWN WOMAN JUST SMALL.
Yeah I really do feel like I'm starting reach the end of my tether. There are other problems in the relationship that need to be addressed, this is just one that's been frustrating me a lot recently.
Ive been there too. My partner stayed and now when I'm bitchy he just asks if I've taken my meds. Hes never threatened to leave me over it.
Google it.
It just seems like bad form to approach anything resembling a date with another man or woman when the point is supposedly, specifically to seek advice about an existing significant other.
I dunno. Sounds like he’s ok with it. I like rough sex too and my SO isn’t into it – lots of naked “no’s”.
So you can’t be friends with women who go clubbing because you don’t enjoy doing that. But you’re fine being friends with guys that go clubbing? Because?
I agree that the husband's reaction is key. He may have thought things were not sexual since his wife was present or trying not to cause a scene. If OP's husband starts an extramarital affair under those circumstances, he is acting pretty foolishly, or asking for an open relationship or divorce.
Yeah, I guess that is true. How awful for OP.
Well, I would ask her mother. And if all else fails roses, red roses are always a staple in a wonderful bouquet would even be better because she’s younger and they can look like just roses if you just buy her a dozen roses so roses in a bouquet, but red ones because they represent romantic love
You need therapy. Fuck off
Talk to him and tell him what you wrote here. Communication has to come from both sides, and if he doesn't hear it from you, that you want words of affirmation and gestures of love, he will not know it.
Tell him also what you value in him when you talk with him. Your relationship is only doomed if you two can not learn to communicate your needs.
try seeing these woman as people with feelings and not objects to satisfy your desires, as a start?
I have learned over time that my reaction to noise, pain, and other sensation depend highly on my level of stress at the moment.
I.e. a crying baby can evoke empathy when my stress level is low or can make me irrationally angry when my stress level is high already.
Therapy helped my realize this and better handle this. Now, if a crying baby makes me angry, I understand that i have a high stress level and need to lower it, not be angry at the child…
He doesn't act like baby infront if them. He only does it in with OP
I don’t understand if its him feeling threatened, him sl*t shaming me, or if its homophobic. :/
This is just him being a little immature boy.
Shame on you, OP! Doesn't matter if he has the body of an adult, this is still pedophilia /s
The details of the hook up… it involved another guy and believe me he did most of the work. Me and her weren’t really interacting. We were not alone OR acting out of feelings we had for each other. We haven’t spoken to the guy since.
This completely clears you! If your BFF was an ex, NGL, it would be a gray zone. An ex who still is a friend is a bit different than an ex who is your BFF, but she is barely an ex! I don't know if there is a name for your situation, I you call you accomplices, instead of partners.
There is no reason for him being jealous.
Thousands of people get tattoos of band logos and company logos, what's any different here? I think it seems insecure of you to be jealous of some YouTubers she doesn't even know and is just a fan of.
Yes because logo tattoos definitely aren't trashy lmao