This is a perfect example as to why rules and boundaries need to be established between a couple before even considering the invitation of a third party into the bedroom.
I'm not sure what was “planned”, however if there were no rules or boundaries, or if there were and he broke those rules, then there are big problems.
I would not entertain another threesome unless you can forgive and both heavily set future boundaries.
Lastly, you shoklukd always ensure the third party js aware of the boundaries, regardless of what they are, so that the experience ends up a positive one.
Honestly you'll be fine. Your kids won't be kids forever, I'm not sure how old they are but worst case scenario they'll be grown by the time you hit fifty. Obviously you can also date with kids, you're still quite young, even if you weren't people will generally overlook their partner having priorities above them if they're good enough. It's naked with children but if a relationship is something that you want then invest in yourself and be grateful that you're getting a second chance to find someone decent, you could have been stuck with this ass for life.
Your priority at this point should be hiring a good lawyer, you're keeping the kids so you should also get the majority of the marital assets to take care of them plus child support. I understand that it's easy to catastrophise in your position but don't let yourself down because you don't have the emotional energy right now, you can sort out the rest later, focus on getting a good deal now.
Then getting nervous, if she's feminine
This is a perfect example as to why rules and boundaries need to be established between a couple before even considering the invitation of a third party into the bedroom.
I'm not sure what was “planned”, however if there were no rules or boundaries, or if there were and he broke those rules, then there are big problems.
I would not entertain another threesome unless you can forgive and both heavily set future boundaries.
Lastly, you shoklukd always ensure the third party js aware of the boundaries, regardless of what they are, so that the experience ends up a positive one.
Honestly you'll be fine. Your kids won't be kids forever, I'm not sure how old they are but worst case scenario they'll be grown by the time you hit fifty. Obviously you can also date with kids, you're still quite young, even if you weren't people will generally overlook their partner having priorities above them if they're good enough. It's naked with children but if a relationship is something that you want then invest in yourself and be grateful that you're getting a second chance to find someone decent, you could have been stuck with this ass for life.
Your priority at this point should be hiring a good lawyer, you're keeping the kids so you should also get the majority of the marital assets to take care of them plus child support. I understand that it's easy to catastrophise in your position but don't let yourself down because you don't have the emotional energy right now, you can sort out the rest later, focus on getting a good deal now.