Ugh I mean yes the guy is being ridiculous and immature/insecure, but can this sub please stop screaming “break up” on literally all the posts here. It’s becoming a cliche.
I mean like if it wasn't male friends in this situation ,I would've been 100% justified in feeling this way ? So I'm saying that even though it's guys ,it's still awkward for me
I have dated trans people. I understand what you mean, but I think the ultimate decider is, if you fall for them, what’s worse? Dealing with what people think or dealing with not being with them because you are worried about what people think.
We can’t help what we are attracted to and people are unable to help the parts of them that might be less than totally hard to a partner. If she was a cis woman but had REALLY buck teeth you’d be dealing with similar embarrassment. Everyone would see her buck teeth and would know you were with her. But you chose her because she was awesome to talk to, a great companion, and a killer body to boot.
Dating a trans person isn’t just a personal decision, it is a social statement. It’s a statement that you don’t care about that. It’s a statement that you are willing to be strong enough to put yourself out there, brazenly. That you feel no shame in yourself or shame in them because they are fine and you are fine for choosing them.
It’s naked, but imo worth it for the right person. We don’t get to choose who we fall for, really. Maybe she is the one for you?
It's a REALLY shitty feeling when the people closest to you are so quick to believe the worst about you. I'm so sorry, OP. I'm glad that you won't be alone for your baby's birth, but you definitely deserve better. Wishing you a safe delivery! ?
The amount of comments taking away the younger girl's agency here, are outstanding. She wants to explore her sexuality (which was probably suppressed) with a familiar, safe, guy.
We always tell girls to make the first move, this one has done that and now everyone's all defensive. FWB might turn into love or other complex feelings, but that's part of the discovery.
I agree with other comments that OP's relationship with his friend will probably be damaged, but beyond that y'all need to chill about the younger sister.
She'll probably just find some other maybe even terrible person to explore with.
Actions have consequences. That’s the point. Nothing else will drive it home better than this. I have a feeling Dear Ms Princess has never really suffered through the consequences of anything before in her life.
I don’t think the woman devised an evil plan to be abusive and use pregnancy as an excuse. I do think her pregnancy, most likely whacked out hormones from it were the most likely culprit. This could have even been a potentially easy fix. Her refusing to see the doctor about it or do anything to try to work on quelling this makes her responsible for her behavior and actions. I am not sure things will be different the second time around, even with her promise. Should she go back on that, he might be screwed for another 9 months. Another possibility is a 2nd make be totally different. But I can see why he does not want to go through that ever again.
It IS possible for men and women to be friends. One long conversation is just one long conversation. Just carefully observe your interactions from here on out and make sure it doesn’t turn into anything else.
You're the one calling names here. Calling strangers names live makes you look stupid instead of the one you're insulting. And, if you are an older woman, and still haven't learned this, then you're probably a cat lady and single.
Yes! To each their own but I can’t imagine being in a committed relationship where the person dipped out of my life and was unavailable for a weekend every month.
Why on earth would you want to save this? Love isn’t enough. And I sure hope you’re in charge of birth control.
Either way, not your business.
Ugh I mean yes the guy is being ridiculous and immature/insecure, but can this sub please stop screaming “break up” on literally all the posts here. It’s becoming a cliche.
There’s a difference between “interested”, and “desperate obsessive weirdo”.
I mean like if it wasn't male friends in this situation ,I would've been 100% justified in feeling this way ? So I'm saying that even though it's guys ,it's still awkward for me
I have dated trans people. I understand what you mean, but I think the ultimate decider is, if you fall for them, what’s worse? Dealing with what people think or dealing with not being with them because you are worried about what people think.
We can’t help what we are attracted to and people are unable to help the parts of them that might be less than totally hard to a partner. If she was a cis woman but had REALLY buck teeth you’d be dealing with similar embarrassment. Everyone would see her buck teeth and would know you were with her. But you chose her because she was awesome to talk to, a great companion, and a killer body to boot.
Dating a trans person isn’t just a personal decision, it is a social statement. It’s a statement that you don’t care about that. It’s a statement that you are willing to be strong enough to put yourself out there, brazenly. That you feel no shame in yourself or shame in them because they are fine and you are fine for choosing them.
It’s naked, but imo worth it for the right person. We don’t get to choose who we fall for, really. Maybe she is the one for you?
Oooooooooo this is really good!
It's a REALLY shitty feeling when the people closest to you are so quick to believe the worst about you. I'm so sorry, OP. I'm glad that you won't be alone for your baby's birth, but you definitely deserve better. Wishing you a safe delivery! ?
Tbh, she would be an ex after this. Good luck.
The amount of comments taking away the younger girl's agency here, are outstanding. She wants to explore her sexuality (which was probably suppressed) with a familiar, safe, guy.
We always tell girls to make the first move, this one has done that and now everyone's all defensive. FWB might turn into love or other complex feelings, but that's part of the discovery.
I agree with other comments that OP's relationship with his friend will probably be damaged, but beyond that y'all need to chill about the younger sister.
She'll probably just find some other maybe even terrible person to explore with.
Take my poor man's gold ?
Actions have consequences. That’s the point. Nothing else will drive it home better than this. I have a feeling Dear Ms Princess has never really suffered through the consequences of anything before in her life.
I don’t think the woman devised an evil plan to be abusive and use pregnancy as an excuse. I do think her pregnancy, most likely whacked out hormones from it were the most likely culprit. This could have even been a potentially easy fix. Her refusing to see the doctor about it or do anything to try to work on quelling this makes her responsible for her behavior and actions. I am not sure things will be different the second time around, even with her promise. Should she go back on that, he might be screwed for another 9 months. Another possibility is a 2nd make be totally different. But I can see why he does not want to go through that ever again.
Op is probably thinking she would rather be more adventurous while being a mistress than in a loving relationship.
Misogynistic jokes aren’t one of the love languages last time I checked
It IS possible for men and women to be friends. One long conversation is just one long conversation. Just carefully observe your interactions from here on out and make sure it doesn’t turn into anything else.
I mostly ran Away cause my mom get remaried and he hated him
There is your answer. Good luck.
She is probably a social media addict and it's leaving her feel entitled.
You're the one calling names here. Calling strangers names live makes you look stupid instead of the one you're insulting. And, if you are an older woman, and still haven't learned this, then you're probably a cat lady and single.
Yes! To each their own but I can’t imagine being in a committed relationship where the person dipped out of my life and was unavailable for a weekend every month.