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Date: October 31, 2022
It's up to you to decide if you're okay with being with someone who's friends with an ex. He's made it clear that he's not going to end the friendship, so at this point you need to decide if you want to continue the relationship.
Is there a compromise that you two could come to? I'm a woman who's best friend is a man but I also wouldn't sleep alone at his house with him without my partner. Maybe it's possible for you two to work it out if you set boundaries, otherwise you might not be compatible.
I've been a realtor for almost 19 years. If he thinks this is going to be an easy side gig he is delusional. It takes a lot of effort to get clients and earn money as an agent. Over 90% of agents don't last more than 2 years in this industry. This is not a side job….. think about it. Do you want to make the biggest purchase of your life and use someone that does it “on the side”?
I would have a serious sit down with him and figure out where your comfort level is because what is going right now isn't working for you and that's ok. You need to be clear about what's going on with you and figure out together or this relationship is going to fail.
This sounds like emotional cheating, unless something health wise is happening.
Ahh.. I can understand better then.
And had it been an issue from the start that you'd hope would get better? Or something that kind of got increasingly problematic?
I personally don't believe people can/will change (not without some pretty intense therapy)… If you are planning/wanting to get married/have kids with him, I'm assuming you've brought it up with him? Sometimes these kind of heavier talks that involves the future somewhat scares the guy and regresses them into something they found comfort in in their younger days. I think if this was this case, you guys should have a serious talk about your futures and if he's just trying to hang on to his childfree/youthful days as long as he can and thus burying himself in games and neglecting you/your relationship.
If not, perhaps you should bring up your expectations/hopes for your future together and express how his current behaviour (excessive gaming) is making you doubt and question your future (or whatever you are actually feeling about it).
I guess other things is trying to find out why he is that into his video games, bring up gaming addiction or usage of gaming as avoidance or some kind of (unhealthy/maladaptive) coping mechanism of other issues/problems/stress he may be having.. and trying to work through it together.
Suggest other things you can do together (and enjoy doing together) that you know releases stress… perhaps working out together, going to an artjamming/candle making workshop together or whatever…
But sometimes a kick in the butt (i.e. you leaving – and you do need to be prepared that it may possibly be the end of the relationship) will make him realise he needs to change and/or put some effort into the relationship.
Hell no! I’m very glad you are excited about your career, but remember that therapists are never allowed to share any information about the people they see with anyone else. Obviously you aren’t seeing this guy professionally, but it would be a serious overreach and might make him not trust therapists.
I'm you, but as a woman. That's immaturity from your partner.
It's like they need to be in a relationship and have someone validating them so they can start reflecting and actually thinking about what they want in life.
The only thing that is on you, is that you are attracted to women that don't have their shit together, and that are immature. Lile you want to help them grow and maybe that will make them love you even more. You have to understand why that is, to be able to overcome it. And the best way for it is therapy.
Been there, done that.
No longer attracted (too much) by immature jerks, so kind of a win i guess!
Good luck
You are right to think the way that you do. The thing is, those are her parents. She will always be close to them no matter what they say about you. As a black man who dates inter-racially. I must tell you that no matter what attracted her to you. She will never understand your point of view, ever. On top of that, having a child either brings a couple closer or is the beginning of the end of their relationship. They actually have a term for it now, it’s called a praying mantis. If only I had known when my kid was younger. Good luck
For a lot of men, making their sexual partner (romantic or casual) cum and enjoy sex is important and has big influence on their pride.
Why are you so shocked its important to him that you cum? Feeling like you are good at pleasuring others Is a huge confidence boost, and a super normal question.
Did she divorce John BECAUSE of the news?
Interacting with you sounds exhausting. My advice is to chill.
You're right. I just want to get over it and move on. I just get worried because any guy can imagine the worst when alcohol and sex get involved. It's been an eyeopener that's for sure. I don't think I'll be drinking to that extent anymore ever.
They were still married! What he did goes against the meaning of the word “faithful” in like 3 different ways.
They're not.
He agreed that he does feel like the relationship is fast and not desired but knows its something we have to do to be together
Why do you have to get married to be together? That makes no sense. Also being hesitant is not a sign of not growing up, if anything it's a sign of maturity because things are going fast and it's prudent to actually step back, take a breath and properly look at the situation.
Ultimatums like “follow me or break up” don't sound healthy. “Do as I say or goodbye.” Sure, a deal breaker is a deal breaker but shoving you straight into marriage isn't the way to address things. In fact it sounds like a “just add more” approach.
I've never had a relationship with someone in the armed services, but listening/reading about the lived experiences of others, there can be a certain lifestyle to it. Maybe you'll be fine with it, maybe you won't. All the more reason to stay BF/GF whilst you find that out.
In 2023, the whole “provide for” schtick is some outdated 1960s nonsense. “We do my thing for a few years and then your thing” is nonsensical unless it's “We do my thing, then you get pregnant aaaand… that's your thing.” And then you're trapped.
You're still in the early stages of adulthood, lots of life to live and doing the stuff you want to do. Getting cornered like this before you've had a chance to do it, especially with an ultimatum hanging over you, is messed up.
Whilst you're younger than him, he's still young too so isn't going to be a good metric for good decisions in regards to relationships. His parents view is also not to be trusted at all… and doesn't make sense.
first I want to get revenge on both how should I do it ?
Revenge? You're not a teenager anymore. Break up with him. You don't have to prove to him you know he cheated. Just move on and live your best life.
Three words “keep your distance “. It is up to you to behave like she is a coworker! No texting, no dancing, kissing, hugging.
Receiving gifts is a love language but generally its very nice to get even a small gift every once in a while. If he can't manage that then think about it if the relationship is worth moving forward with (everyone has their own standards in a relationship) or if him not putting forth the effort with this is something you can online with
Honestly for now definitely stop buying him things if he's not gonna reciprocate. It might make it less annoying if its not totally one sided. Don't let yourself feel neglected. Think about what you need to feel loved & appreciate in your relationship and communicate that and see if he's willing to change even with starting small. If he can't compromise even a little you might have to move on.
The title was enough for me to know that he's an immature a-hole. Then the rest of it…come on this guy is terrible. Absolutely do NOT move countries for him and find a new boyfriend, please.
we are in the same friend group and have mutual friends so blocking might get messy
Your 1st mistake was being a feminist. Your 2nd mistake was calling her out on her double standard so close to your birthday, and your 3rd was not reading her mind.
I mean I was upset that my high school boyfriend who I dated almost all of high school got married. And I’m in my 20s. I haven’t even talked to him since we broke up or even seen him for that matter. I happened to discover it when a friend from highschool posted pictures because he was a groomsmen for it. At one point I thought I was going to marry that guy. She was probably just in shock tbh. I know I was. And I can’t stand the guy. I have no feelings for him at all.
Just go. He’s not gonna be man enough to say something to you there.
It’s not a baby, it’s a parasite until it’s breathing on its own.
He is exactly the same person he was two years ago, he was a liar then and he is a liar now. You know this. Don't waste anymore time deluding yourself that he can be anything else. Look up Sunk Cost Fallacy and DARVO. Get away from his abusive ass.
I think you just need to put things into perspective here. You two had a quick fling. You're look at her with rose colored glasses because everything was perfect and there were no expectations.
The reality is you two are strangers, and once those days were up six months ago, you two went your separate ways and seemingly haven't spoken since. You now miss her, largely because things haven't been going well otherwise, and you're now looking at this as the baseline of a good relationship. But again, you don't know her either.
So now for the trip. The truth there is that you absolutely would be flying over there just to see her. That'd be fine if that's what you want to do, but all she's seeing this as is literally an opportunity to catch up specifically since you'll just happen to be there. Meanwhile, you're making plans specifically to see her with the hope of something more.
It'd be one thing if you two spoke and both agreed there are feelings there and want to see if getting together will confirm your feelings. But you're here just confirming your own feelings. She's unaware of what you're building up here. In saying that, while I'd assume this likely isn't going to work in the sense that she'll not want what you do, if there's any shot, what you need to do is tell her now how you feel and that you'd like to explore something with her if she has any interest. Be honest, and give her the opportunity to know the truth behind you coming to see her. If she says no, she says no. You'd have saved yourself a lot of time and money. Or maybe she'll say yes and go from there. Good luck.
I would just remind him of that. For some people, gift giving is how they show love. If that's how your boyfriend expresses love, you can just try to talk to him about ways he can do that without breaking the bank. Time is a gift too, and if you can show him that's all you want, it may help him in slowing down the spending.
Some men are also raised to believe that they have to spend money on partner to show that they are providers.
You could try and ask what prompts his gifts; if it's because it's his love language or if it's because that's how he was brought up, and that may help you navigate the best way to tell him that's not a necessity for your relationship with him.
As someone who’s co-owned a business for decades with my life partner, she asked a valid question and you triggered. Is that the kind of boss you are? Would you fired an employee for bringing up a logistical issue because they lacked support for your vision of ease?
Same. We are still together and it's still a problem.. OP it never ends.
I asked him if he'd like me more if I had a screen on my head.
Shes a client to my freelance services, so no boas
Look man, I don’t want to scare you or upset you or whatnot, but psychosis is really serious. My brother died during a psychotic episode because of his delusions. I work with psych patients as an advocate not affiliated with the hospital and I have seen over and over how traumatic the hospital can be. That said, it can still be safer for someone to be evaluated in a hospital setting an stabilized on medication than not in certain situations. I don’t think anyone here did anything wrong, but I think you both need to get educated on her mental health and create safety plans to avoid this kind of thing from happening again while still taking seriously her possible illness.