Let's just say the argument has to do with picking up his dirty laundry.
You get onto him about it, he says ok, it won't happen again, but next week it happens again.
So rinse and repeat, lets say 5 times. Each time you have forgiven him in his mind so why not the 6th? That is what his mind is thinking. So yes he knows he messed up, but you have always let it slide thinking he would change. If someone does not change then it will keep on happening. Your both in your later 20's, it sounds like you just don't have a good communication/respect going on. Are you sure this is what you want?
Nothing about this mess is healthy.
Oh I guess I worded it weird. In my language it doesn't sound really controlling.
OP,
Let's just say the argument has to do with picking up his dirty laundry.
You get onto him about it, he says ok, it won't happen again, but next week it happens again.
So rinse and repeat, lets say 5 times. Each time you have forgiven him in his mind so why not the 6th? That is what his mind is thinking. So yes he knows he messed up, but you have always let it slide thinking he would change. If someone does not change then it will keep on happening. Your both in your later 20's, it sounds like you just don't have a good communication/respect going on. Are you sure this is what you want?