He’s clearly jealous. It wasn’t a problem with your BF before now because it probably didn’t really sink in until he met your friend, and it suddenly dawned on him that it’s a concern. I’m not going to lie, I understand where your BF is coming from. You are close and continuing friends with a guy you had a crush on, and this friend knows it. If I was your boyfriend, I’d be a little concerned too. You might need to back things off with your friend. I don’t think you need to completely cut him out of your life for the sake of “appeasing” your bf, but maybe put some distance between you and your friend, out of respect for your BF. Don’t spend as much time together or talk as much, things like that. Again, you can keep talking to your friend. Let your friend know why, he’ll probably understand. As long as you keep things totally platonic between you and your friend, and you don’t have any feelings left over, I don’t see why you can’t continue to be friends.
Also, sit down and have a heart to heart with your BF. Try to talk it out with him in a calm respectful way. Let him know you don’t have any feelings towards your friend. Tell him you respect him and his feelings. If he’s half the guy you made him sound like in the first few paragraphs, he’ll listen to you, and you can resolve this without too much trouble. This really should be step one. Anyway, that’s my two cents. Hopefully I helped. Good luck!
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He’s clearly jealous. It wasn’t a problem with your BF before now because it probably didn’t really sink in until he met your friend, and it suddenly dawned on him that it’s a concern. I’m not going to lie, I understand where your BF is coming from. You are close and continuing friends with a guy you had a crush on, and this friend knows it. If I was your boyfriend, I’d be a little concerned too. You might need to back things off with your friend. I don’t think you need to completely cut him out of your life for the sake of “appeasing” your bf, but maybe put some distance between you and your friend, out of respect for your BF. Don’t spend as much time together or talk as much, things like that. Again, you can keep talking to your friend. Let your friend know why, he’ll probably understand. As long as you keep things totally platonic between you and your friend, and you don’t have any feelings left over, I don’t see why you can’t continue to be friends.
Also, sit down and have a heart to heart with your BF. Try to talk it out with him in a calm respectful way. Let him know you don’t have any feelings towards your friend. Tell him you respect him and his feelings. If he’s half the guy you made him sound like in the first few paragraphs, he’ll listen to you, and you can resolve this without too much trouble. This really should be step one. Anyway, that’s my two cents. Hopefully I helped. Good luck!
Contact a women’s shelter. This is domestic abuse. A shelter can help you with a place to on-line, job placement, therapy, etc.