From the little bit of information you shared, there’s a few possibilities that come to mind. She either kept things running smoothly for you and your home at the expense of taking care of herself and and you didn’t notice that she was overwhelmed and eventually she just mentally gave up. Maybe she tried to make you aware or maybe she didn’t. She found out something about you that made her see you differently but is staying for the kids if you have them. Or she has met someone else and her heart is elsewhere. Or maybe it’s none of those things. I would definitely suggest going to see a couples therapist
You violated her trust and privacy by going through her phone, but you are complaining about the violation of her talking to her mom? Do you realize how hypocritical that is? Just because you apologized, that doesn’t mean your actions or the hurt they caused disappeared. She still gets to be mad at you for that. The apology is the first step to redemption, not the last.
Also, a textbook early move from abusers is to try to cut someone off from the support of family and friends. You are are a parade of red flags.
From the little bit of information you shared, there’s a few possibilities that come to mind. She either kept things running smoothly for you and your home at the expense of taking care of herself and and you didn’t notice that she was overwhelmed and eventually she just mentally gave up. Maybe she tried to make you aware or maybe she didn’t. She found out something about you that made her see you differently but is staying for the kids if you have them. Or she has met someone else and her heart is elsewhere. Or maybe it’s none of those things. I would definitely suggest going to see a couples therapist
Ah gotcha, you’re ignoring the comments where he clarifies things.
In case you hadn’t noticed, there is a lot of relevant info in his comments.
Look through this thread, people linked them.
You just break up. “This isn’t working for me anymore. Good luck”
You violated her trust and privacy by going through her phone, but you are complaining about the violation of her talking to her mom? Do you realize how hypocritical that is? Just because you apologized, that doesn’t mean your actions or the hurt they caused disappeared. She still gets to be mad at you for that. The apology is the first step to redemption, not the last.
Also, a textbook early move from abusers is to try to cut someone off from the support of family and friends. You are are a parade of red flags.