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You keep saying you tell him to end it. Here’s the thing. Your an adult, you don’t like what’s happening in a relationship then you end it.
Having said that let me give you a piece of advice from someone older. If you have a first date with someone and sleep with someone else that same night don’t go on a second date with them. They will eventually find out what you did after that first date and will never be comfortable with you. Their mind will forever be telling them “Yeah they liked me so much they had to screw someone else.”
Sorry but it’s a relationship killer before you even get started.
It sounds like you split your kids with your ex, while your current partner has her child 100% of the time, is this correct? If so, it’s natural that you would have a closer relationship with her child than your partner would have with yours. You are likely spending your “off-time” with your partner and her child and then your “on-time” alone with your kids. Everyone on here claiming that you’re giving up time with your kids needs to calm down and stop assuming things. If this is the situation then you are spending lots of quality time with your kids and then doing some soft integrated things as a group. Your partner didn’t say anything terrible about your daughter either, just that some of her behavioural issues give her concerns, which to me reads like she doesn’t agree with how you handle the situation. Her concern about integrating may be more about your different parenting styles than about your actual daughter. This set up can work, there are many different types of families. You just need to decide if it works for you.
Does FTB somehow mean friends with benefits? FWB?
Even if you don't date, having sex ( or doing sexual acts ) is still going to complicate things. I wouldn't do it with my closest friend group. It's a bigger risk, up to you whether you want to take that risk
Yeah ur def right, i guess just because I’m insecure I’m afraid of being being told no cause I unfortunately have a huge fear of rejection but I mean I honestly should not care cause at the end of the day we’re not gonna see each other again if that’s the case so I have no reason to be embarrassed lol
The worst part of this is my profession. I’m a CFO of a large, well-known nonprofit organization. I’ve won awards for my work. Lol, I AM Finance, Accounting and Budgets. My attempt was a display of trust and encouragement that he is important and integral to towards our Union, and I knew he could handle it while I worked.
However, I do tend to give to my own detriment. I do have 2 other solid streams of income that I do protect, the rental and residual income, which just piles up in the Chase Sapphire accounts. I don’t spend it, but he’s been talking with me about closing the accounts and re-routing all monies to him. I’ve been pretty silent in response to this. Because…no.
I didn’t really think it was abuse—before he got sober it was pretty bad. He was only around 6 months sober and clean when we reconciled, I do have a new psychiatrist and therapist as of Friday. Had them for years after the fire, but fell into non-compliance due to my demanding schedule.
It feels to me like your gf is feeling pretty overwhelmed and stressed out right now. She sounds like a naked worker and a caring person. If you do want to be with her, I would start by reassuring her that you’re proud of her and all her hot work, and asking what you can do to support her during this strenuous time in her life. I think y’all will be okay with some communication and TLC.
You need to learn about sexual capability and how people’s sex drives can vary. Being sensitive to your partner’s needs is part of being in a relationship, but instead you made immature jokes. 🙁 Really unfortunate this happened but the break up is probably best. Learn, grow, do better next time.
You have lost attraction for your partner because you have already “nabbed him”. In fact the attraction is totally gone to the extent that you kissed an ex. You are a 23y old adult, and this is totally unforgiveable from his end. I applaud you for telling us about it, and admitting that it is a mistake. This is brave.
I have a feeling that you have a deeper issue that made you do it. You don't know it, we don't know it. Maybe a trained therapist can help find out if you have any trauma that is manifesting itself?
This marriage is not going to serve any purpose in your life. If you marry him, both of you will be miserable for many years. I strongly advise you call off the wedding, and do not put blame on him for this because he didn't do anything wrong.
Sounds like me except I've been in relationships. Each and every time though, they were unhealthy. As a result, I am a bit hesitant because I attract those who are bad for me. Unfortunately, those that would be good for me are never interested. Im ok with being alone as opposed to another bad experience. It's just not fair that I cannot find someone to compliment my life but can find plenty that would ruin it. My parents relationship was unhealthy so I guess that's why. Oh well, I tried and likely I am done.
Here’s a reminder: if you’re dealing with sexual harassment on a regular basis (because this quid pro quo crap IS sexual harassment) AND the boss doesn’t take you seriously, you are not working your dream job.
You’re young and fresh enough that it’s not uncommon for this behavior to seem somewhat normal or excusable- it’s not, it is sexual harassment. If you’re careful about evidence collection, you actually have grounds for a really solid legal case against your employer; get everything you possibly can in writing.
Find email or text threads in which your supervisor mentions going out together and other such inappropriate things, gather up as much proof as possible, and email screen caps and text logs to both your actual boss and whoever your HR person is (if you have an HR person). The ball is in the boss’ hands at that point; if he refuses to take you seriously, inform him you can settle it in front of a judge and find yourself a good lawyer. If he fires you after mentioning any of that, it’s a direct act of retaliation- get evidence for this too.
Now, this route will not make you popular- but you shouldn’t be concerned about that in the face of genuine sexual harassment. You might find that the entire office quickly finds out once you’ve gotten the ball rolling- that’s a breach of personal privacy on the part of your bosses, which adds yet more fuel to the legal bonfire you’re building.
I genuinely wish you luck- this kind of garbage has been “acceptable” in the work place, especially male dominated fields, for far too long. Your employer is legally required to ensure this kind of environment doesn’t develop because it has the potential to ruin your livelihood or career trajectory if not handled correctly; shut it down before they have a chance to really damage you. You might feel bad about doing it, but remember that they’re going to continue treating women as they treat you unless you demonstrate how they should be handled back.
which is defined as “obsessively strong love” so…
Is he otherwise avoidant in the relationship as well? (I recommend A. Levine's books on attachment types and why some combinations are horrible together, like avoidant and anxious.) He is willing to on-line with you, but not out a label on it because that would make him attached? That's kind of the point, after two years he should be attached. He even admits he wants to make you disposable.
I've been in a similar situation and really, I can only recommend leaving. Do you ever want to get married? Can you imagine ever getting him that far? Do you deserve to be treated like this? I doubt it. It's great to be with a guy when you're actually wanted and valued. Guess what, I don't stay up at night wondering what my relationship status is. I hug my SO and can trust him to stick around.
Oh, and that avoidant type that's now out of my life? He was known to hit on women even when official – and it took him years to become official. I don't know whether he really cheated, but his social group thought so, which I found out about later. He always keeps his options open.
The 1970’s was 50 years ago.
I only get a gift if I pick out the gift and buy the item. He will then reimburse me for the cost. If I don’t do this I won’t get a gift and he will say “ you didn’t tell me what you wanted”. This year I am purposefully not buying my own gift and I expect not to receive a thing.
Sometimes I have intentionally told people and he is embarrassed “love that sweater! Did hubs get that for you?” And I respond, “no he didn’t get me anything for Christmas.”
No you did not say that to him. You clearly crushed his soul, any bit of manhood he had left you simply distinguished it. I am a woman and I don't think that is even repairable. Imagine if it were true and you suffered with the fact that you couldn't have a child and your husband clapped back with ” at least all my other girlfriend's could have a baby.” We as a couple should never hurt people by using a medical issues that is so private. To a man ED is very stressing, to them that is what makes man. I think you know this and you really really wanted to hurt him. And now that you have you are assuming that he is cheating on you. You just told them he has a ED problem, do you really think with that issue he is out their cheating. No he is in a deep dark place now trying his best to make it all go away by working out. Going to the gym is his way of letting the hurt subside. He needs to get to the doctor and make sure he doesn't have some health concern that is causing his ED. You are really in a bad place and i don't how tell you to recover the hurt caused. I've been married for 30 years, this want be easy. But I've also never used my husbands health concerns as a weapon. I'm not trying to belittle, you or call you a horrible person or make you feel bad in any way. Just own up to what you have done. Tell him you know what you said was incentive, demeaning and you only used it as way to hurt him, not thinking about how bad it was at the time. Tell him you realize now that is not something you would do or say to someone and you are sorry. And bring up the fact that ED IS a health concern, whether it is physical or mental and let's try to get through this together. Make a doc appointment and go together.
Please understand, I consider your stories valid and truthful, I don't think you did anything wrong, and I'm sorry about your run of poor luck.
Sadly there are risks involved when speaking ill an ex, no matter how richly they deserve it. You may be talking to someone with a past experience with someone who wore the mantle of victimhood, and used it to justify episodes of moody or toxic behavior. Or you may be revealing things about your ex which the person you're talking to has an expectation of privacy.
TBH I don't think these risks should silence you. If your idea of a healthy relationship involves openness and sharing – or if old wounds sometimes need a little TLC – then I wouldn't let this episode deny you those satisfactions with a future partner.
I advised her to look at the other puppies available but she insisted on the puppy we have now and promised she'd train him and take care of him and since she has a cat and a lizard I figured she would. But now that she's had him for a few months I guess she realizes he's not like a cat or lizard.
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I have ample evidence but it only spans this month. It’s more than enough. She is great mother though. I just don’t see how a dying marriage can recover. Affairs destroy solid relationships and this is anything but that
You can always choose to remain friends and end the friendship later if it's not working. Whatever choice you make, it doesn't have to be permanent if you find it's not working for you. Just make sure you're communicating your uncertainty with him so he isn't caught off guard if you change your mind.
I used to think like that before my first few relationships also. It’s alright
You're just an ATM for her. Someone who loves you would never use/treat you like this.
Mate, you're supposed to be partners. You say you want to support her, be empathetic and understanding. These are great things to do for a partner… so why isn't she doing that for you?
Because she's not being a partner, she's being a leech. You're the only one trying to be a loving partner here, and you deserve better than to stay in a relationship where you're the only one putting in effort.
Either she makes a total change and starts acting like a partner, or she loses the privilege of having you act like one. That's the only solution here.
It's just very odd to me that it's been years since this happened but all of the sudden she's not allowing you in the house at all….something else is going on here. Especially since I already thought this might be an overreaction but then other people saying they wouldn't react that way just confirms it.
If you're on the lease she cannot kick or lock you out. You have rights. She cannot just kick you out like that.
Thank you. I appreciate your response.
I really hate feeling like I am quiting or giving up on a friendship/love interest. This is because I know there is no way for me remain friends with her and not want more with her. You are right, I just needed to hear it.
My buddies were mainly just like “fuck her and get it out of your system, and move on” and not only did I not want to use her like that but I know if anything I would want to be with her even more because I just know me.
She was physically assaulted. That is a black and white issue. Doesn’t matter what it happened, she was assaulted and isn’t safe. No other context is necessary.
The only possible explanation I can think of is because the pillow came from a female friend? Maybe there’s some implication he’s got an unhealthy attachment to the friend…
Nope I’m still not sure this makes sense…
I'm 26F and for me if we haven't at least had some kind of sexual activity by date 4 then I'm going to assume the chemistry and passion that I look for with a partner isn't there.
I dunno the culture where you reside. But historically and in plains meaning. Red roses signify romantic interest and desire. So no i don’t think you’re going over the top like people here are saying. There’s plenty of other things a person can do to show appreciation.
Having said that this is why communication and comprehension is key.
Oh noes not a human body that we all havt
?????? me too son
You’re very right I need a bit of this attitude – I’ve just been hurt by a few guys in the past year and my approach is if he wants me hell chase me, but I guess he did a bit
Then don't believe me..I am not trying to convince you to believe me..
It seems like its time to cut ties with all of them!, what a joke blaming you. Have they thought that maybe if she hadn't stolen your boyfriend she wouldn't be in this situation. Not saying she deserves it but it's kinda like karma
Then you’ve got to try another way. Do you have to be in college right now? Maybe pause a semester so you can get more shifts. Any friends or family you can stay with for help? What bills can you get rid of?
You will never get him to change, you can’t focus on that as your solution.
Thank you for your positive and productive response. You really should give people advice for a living.
Never beg someone to like you, love you, or not cheat on you. If you have to do any of these three, you should NOT be with them. Love yourself and then one who really loves you will be drawn to YOU.
That's actually pretty reasonable. I'd buy that explanation…