I told her the same thing. I do feel guilty but only until I got caught. Red flag 100% I can admit that. She wants us to give each other space and to not make decisions so abruptly. I told her I don’t think we’re a good fit because not only did I do what I did. I also 100% tried to flip the switch and manipulate her into thinking she’s incorrect. I agree that possibly time could heal what we had. She does deserve better. She just wants me to try to be better. And talking as to her directly instead of avoiding the conversation helped a lot.
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That's awesome to hear! I think the therapy will help you to kinda sort through all these thoughts and emotions. One recommendation with therapy, go in with goals for yourself. And don't be afraid to look for a different therapist if the first one doesn't mesh right… It can take a bit of work sometimes to find a good one.
Honestly, he sounds like a good dude. Does he know exactly what you are dissatisfied with? Is there something you could have communicated or done sooner to have avoided feeling this way now?
I think the best route forward is to dig deep, examine your feelings, and communicate with him your appreciation for his support, talk up his good qualities for you, but that you are unsure this will work out and that therapy is going to help you process what you are going through and you can't guarantee that y'all will be together afterwards.
It's a difficult talk, but a respectful one. It lets him know where you are at, why you want to fight for the relationship, but allows him the opportunity to walk if this is not the parth he wants to take with you.
Your focus is going to have to be on yourself for awhile, and that can be hot for a partner to go through.
It's a reasonable feeling to worry about her, but not reasonable to pass on the burden of that worry onto her. If she wants to do it alone, that's what she should do.
Girlies, I think this is an obvious case of “i PreFer gIrLs wHo dOnT wEaR mAkE uP” * points at Kylie Jenner for reference* Let him find someone natural. Because he's naturally an idiot
I told her the same thing. I do feel guilty but only until I got caught. Red flag 100% I can admit that. She wants us to give each other space and to not make decisions so abruptly. I told her I don’t think we’re a good fit because not only did I do what I did. I also 100% tried to flip the switch and manipulate her into thinking she’s incorrect. I agree that possibly time could heal what we had. She does deserve better. She just wants me to try to be better. And talking as to her directly instead of avoiding the conversation helped a lot.
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In my exchange with the OP, I agree that there is a lot of things missing from the story
I saw Goodman Proctor with the devil!
That's awesome to hear! I think the therapy will help you to kinda sort through all these thoughts and emotions. One recommendation with therapy, go in with goals for yourself. And don't be afraid to look for a different therapist if the first one doesn't mesh right… It can take a bit of work sometimes to find a good one.
Honestly, he sounds like a good dude. Does he know exactly what you are dissatisfied with? Is there something you could have communicated or done sooner to have avoided feeling this way now?
I think the best route forward is to dig deep, examine your feelings, and communicate with him your appreciation for his support, talk up his good qualities for you, but that you are unsure this will work out and that therapy is going to help you process what you are going through and you can't guarantee that y'all will be together afterwards.
It's a difficult talk, but a respectful one. It lets him know where you are at, why you want to fight for the relationship, but allows him the opportunity to walk if this is not the parth he wants to take with you.
Your focus is going to have to be on yourself for awhile, and that can be hot for a partner to go through.
Hopefully this has helped a little!
You should break up immediately and file a restraining order.
It's a reasonable feeling to worry about her, but not reasonable to pass on the burden of that worry onto her. If she wants to do it alone, that's what she should do.
Girlies, I think this is an obvious case of “i PreFer gIrLs wHo dOnT wEaR mAkE uP” * points at Kylie Jenner for reference* Let him find someone natural. Because he's naturally an idiot
His response make him sound a bit like a “nice guy”. You did nothing wrong, OP.