I would state that whilst you appreciate his honesty, there’s no need to call you selfish for wanting (or at least keeping an open mind) to have children one day and also have a career that involves exploring other countries and cultures. That it doesn’t just mean instant bad experiences for the kids. It’s actually opening up their lives and experiences.
That you appreciate his honesty, if this is how he strongly feels, that’s ok. Not ok to crap on or put ultimatums up on you. That it is best to suss out big life decisions together and in gauge this stuff in advance because you do want to travel, you want to provide the experiences and lifestyle to your partner and kids also. Or at least be open to any opportunities if they arise. That your not ok with ultimatums or your life only being dictated by his wants and comforbility. Relationships are about compromise etc but sometimes if the plans for the future are too different, regardless of how well you to get along outside of that, it’s a sign that you probably won’t make it long term, which is good to find out now.
It was already physically when he started to Sexually Assault you.
It got to the point where I kept saying no and it ended up happening anyway. He even did it when I was sleeping and when I woke up and shouted at him he started crying so I comforted him. This happened multiple times.
I'm sorry, but what he did was Sexually coercion. It's a form of Rape. You could make a police report about it, if you want too but it's a long and tedious process that leaves no room for healing until after the court hearing is done. I'm so sorry you had to expirence it.
Turns out he’s still speaking to my ex actively even after he found out what he did to me.
You can't control who he doesn't or does talk to. If he's friends, then distance yourself from your brother as much as you can, but you told him relative information about why he is a bad person, unfortunately its up to your brother to decide if he believes you or not. There's really nothing you can do about it.
No
Eh he is 18, he gets horny when he sees a nude girl, not a big deal, could just watch porn tho..
I would state that whilst you appreciate his honesty, there’s no need to call you selfish for wanting (or at least keeping an open mind) to have children one day and also have a career that involves exploring other countries and cultures. That it doesn’t just mean instant bad experiences for the kids. It’s actually opening up their lives and experiences.
That you appreciate his honesty, if this is how he strongly feels, that’s ok. Not ok to crap on or put ultimatums up on you. That it is best to suss out big life decisions together and in gauge this stuff in advance because you do want to travel, you want to provide the experiences and lifestyle to your partner and kids also. Or at least be open to any opportunities if they arise. That your not ok with ultimatums or your life only being dictated by his wants and comforbility. Relationships are about compromise etc but sometimes if the plans for the future are too different, regardless of how well you to get along outside of that, it’s a sign that you probably won’t make it long term, which is good to find out now.
Soon this turned physical
It was already physically when he started to Sexually Assault you.
It got to the point where I kept saying no and it ended up happening anyway. He even did it when I was sleeping and when I woke up and shouted at him he started crying so I comforted him. This happened multiple times.
I'm sorry, but what he did was Sexually coercion. It's a form of Rape. You could make a police report about it, if you want too but it's a long and tedious process that leaves no room for healing until after the court hearing is done. I'm so sorry you had to expirence it.
Turns out he’s still speaking to my ex actively even after he found out what he did to me.
You can't control who he doesn't or does talk to. If he's friends, then distance yourself from your brother as much as you can, but you told him relative information about why he is a bad person, unfortunately its up to your brother to decide if he believes you or not. There's really nothing you can do about it.
She cheated on you. It's time for you to decide if this is a dealbreaker. If so, break up. There isn't an excuse that would make her cheating okay.
I'm sorry though, that really stings.