So this went on for 3 yrs and you are still super nice guy
This is the very reason she probably did it and got away with it for so long.
You are far too nice and you need to become less tolerant of bad behaviour , for yourself and for your future.
I know you have a lawyer and divorce will be imminent but she needs to feel regret for the things she has done and the sheer amount of time she has done it.
This divorce needs to be a training ground for you.
Do you realize you might be straight?
So this went on for 3 yrs and you are still super nice guy
This is the very reason she probably did it and got away with it for so long.
You are far too nice and you need to become less tolerant of bad behaviour , for yourself and for your future.
I know you have a lawyer and divorce will be imminent but she needs to feel regret for the things she has done and the sheer amount of time she has done it.
This divorce needs to be a training ground for you.
Be stronger.