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Date: October 4, 2022
Yeah this is tough for her too. I know in an ideal world you would want to talk and work through it together but it will be a big shock for her too. But people are different in how they process things. That's OK and that's allowed as long as it's not being destructive
You've said it doesn't seem like the mother wants anything from you or even for the kid to know you are their dad by the sounds of it. You're gf will be having all these thoughts about you suddenly being a father, getting involved in her life, potential future connections with her. That if you have kids it won't be your first with her and she was never expecting that in her life.
She just needs some time. You'll never be in situation where your fiance just goes… “I've just found out I have an 11 year old.” Imagine how you'd fee though, if she was suddenly telling you she was a mother and gave up her kid when she was young, and now she someone found out the kid is nearby. They family don't see like the want anything from her but you've no idea if that might change, the kid might want to know her real mum, that might suddenly become a part of your life, your finances, your time.
I think you are giving yourself bad advice. If you want to be friends then you would be doing no contact. But you can't Because you have feelings for him. You already have bias.
OK so you don't want to cut him off. Then you need to stop using him as an outlet for support. Find a therapist or channel your need for support into other things like a hobby or some game. Find other friends. Really just try to occupy your time. If that stuff doesn't work then at least you'd be able to try other stuff.