This will be a problem for any romantic relationships you have in the future. If you want to settle down you need to understand that there is one non-negotiable for marriage.
Us against the world. This means that except for your children your life partner come before all others. Friends, parents, siblings. Until that’s the place you are in emotionally you will not have successful long term committed relationships.
(This comes from personal experience. One failed engagement due to not understanding that rule, and one 29 years and counting marriage due to living that rule every day)
So did the suggestion help? For me it was the first thing that came to mind! I think if there were multiple signs of cheating that is a very different story but you have been totally open with her and these things do happen
OP, people are going to downvote me, because this is reddit, but let me give you a different perspective.
Just to be clear, I never cheated in my life. That's an awful, egoistic thing to do. But when I hear your wife slept with 30 (!) men, the picture I have of her is of a lonely, desperate person. Was what she did right? Of course not. But if you've ever hit a low in your life, felt desperate, lonely, angry and all other feelings that come with a breakup, I'm sure you did things you're not proud of.
Man, breakups make people show their worst side.
I'm not saying you should forgive her. Only you know if you're even able to. Just saying that she probably was not having the time of her life with those guys.
All the best OP. I really hope you find happiness, be it with your wife or someone else.
This will be a problem for any romantic relationships you have in the future. If you want to settle down you need to understand that there is one non-negotiable for marriage.
Us against the world. This means that except for your children your life partner come before all others. Friends, parents, siblings. Until that’s the place you are in emotionally you will not have successful long term committed relationships.
(This comes from personal experience. One failed engagement due to not understanding that rule, and one 29 years and counting marriage due to living that rule every day)
So did the suggestion help? For me it was the first thing that came to mind! I think if there were multiple signs of cheating that is a very different story but you have been totally open with her and these things do happen
I mean.. there’s a NSFW option here so.. ?
Some people freeze up in stuff like this tbh
OP, people are going to downvote me, because this is reddit, but let me give you a different perspective.
Just to be clear, I never cheated in my life. That's an awful, egoistic thing to do. But when I hear your wife slept with 30 (!) men, the picture I have of her is of a lonely, desperate person. Was what she did right? Of course not. But if you've ever hit a low in your life, felt desperate, lonely, angry and all other feelings that come with a breakup, I'm sure you did things you're not proud of.
Man, breakups make people show their worst side.
I'm not saying you should forgive her. Only you know if you're even able to. Just saying that she probably was not having the time of her life with those guys.
All the best OP. I really hope you find happiness, be it with your wife or someone else.