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If this is not a red flag then what is?
It would be good to understand what triggered this behavior, but if he doesn't communicate that with you, I would pack my bags and run for the hike.
never cheated, we had been apart for months when it happened
Unfortunately it's a common side effect of anti depressives.
You can try to use another approach, try to change medication, or communicate with your wife and live! with the Ed until your depression gets better even without anti depressives.
(does happen for some. If you manage to get out of depression for long enough, it can start to reflect itself in your neural pathways.)
Consuming lions mane mushroom may or may not speed up that process.
Smaller studies at least indicate that it has neuro protective properties and helps with forming new pathways.
Plus, for people that enjoy mushrooms it's a delicacy.
I meant the bride strategically planning the bridal party stuff, not OP contributing to it because of distance. Obviously the rules are stupid, but people stress over it and often follow the blueprint. I just don’t think it should be taken too personally and maybe it’s something the bride wanted to broach in person (OP said the party was a surprise, but not necessarily the visit). I generally enjoy it more not being in the wedding party, and still typically attending the Bach party and other wedding events as a guest, without having to shell out extra money for the required matching bridesmaids dresses/ groomsmen suits, and god forbid if you have to do choreography for a wedding party dance, but obviously that’s just me. It goes both ways too for the equal numbers. One friend has dozens of “close” friends and sorority sisters from college, and is planning on having 15 bridesmaids, therefore my friend that she’s marrying is trying to figure out how the hell to get 15 of his friends to be in the wedding party as groomsmen. She really wants it to be equal in numbers… dumb sure, but it’s their wedding.
Then pick something else that you enjoy doing.
There is much more than boobs and ass. If it would be only to that we would be fd
If after 4 years you're not sure, she's not the one for you. Point blank.
That is definitely not a good law…
Tell her yeah I need to get used to how annoying your high energy will be, then get ready for the but it’s not the same
To be clear, I don’t want to move on from her and am willing to wait; but I can’t also just sit around and wait around forever, not knowing. I’m not looking for an out, in other words. That Waylon Jennings’s song Wurlitzer prize comes to mind.
Yes. This is what we do. My parents still gift me and my sibling something small and then a card with money and spend more on the grandkids. Totally okay with me. And as for me and my siblings we all have kids so we only buy stuff for the kids. Sometimes we might gift each other something small or handmade. Me, my sister and my sister in law are all very crafty so we like to find creative gifts that are in expensive.
MIL would get mad if we didn’t spend a certain amount on her. She used to get pissed at my husband if he spent more on me. You know. His wife. My mom gets upset if I spend money on her because she wants me to save my money. I usually buy her a scratch off card at the gas station though.
How messy was the big argument?
Pregnancy hormones are pretty hot and made me hate everyone all the time! Be pregnant was f****** horrible to me! It’s a torture thing! (I love ne mom but pregnancy is just horrible)
12 episodes later…
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ya you need to go nuclear on this my guy. Even the accusation of this can ruin your life.
Tell her. Did you save the txt exchange?
A sloth wouldn't eat as fast that's for sure lol
Have you considered proposing to him?
He was planning on cheating. Otherwise, he wouldn’t hide what he was doing. His excuses are bull crap.
You want to spend your life with someone who will be disloyal? What happens when times are actually tough, or he’s just slightly bored?
Well that’s a pretty specific circumstance, and I thought it would be obvious I’m not referring to situations like that. If you’re sick, injured, whatever, there are different rules.
You obviously also can’t help it.
Well that’s a pretty specific circumstance, and I thought it would be obvious I’m not referring to situations like that. If you’re sick, injured, whatever, there are different rules.
You obviously also can’t help it.
Well that’s a pretty specific circumstance, and I thought it would be obvious I’m not referring to situations like that. If you’re sick, injured, whatever, there are different rules.
You obviously also can’t help it.
I mean you both need to agree on a budget and then review monthly to make sure that parties abide to it. Nobody can be expected to run something by there partner whenever they buy anything, though.
Does she earn money of her own? Your accounts separate or joint?
What my wife and I do (been at this marriage thing for nearly 2 months, so still figuring it out), is keeping our individual accounts but moving money into a joint account that covers our living expenses weighted by our take-home pays.
Anything in our individual accounts we can use as we please. With you, seemingly, being the breadwinner, you two should likely figure out an allowance for luxury spending and define what constitutes that.
I'd attempt to figure out a system where she's limited by the money in an account and using a debit card.
Ultimately, though, you have to get her on board with the system. You can't force her to see reason if she doesn't want to.
Good point. He will still have to get a paternity test. Just to point out though. The other child/children are bi racial and don’t look like the so. Discussed. But ya. He does need to check all of them
I have a question for you. If you think you feel bad now, how bad do you think you'll feel if your boyfriend becomes so depressed he commits suicide? If things go that far, it'll be something you caused that you can never ever take back. You need to stop thinking about your own feelings and start thinking about his. Because right now you're being cruel and selfish.
A 30 yo girl?
NP. good luck 🙂
You didn’t fuck up. Communication just broke down. It’s the most important part of a relationship. Jeff needed to communicate and update you on his feelings. But I do see why he’s hurt because his actions were saying he had become serious even if his words didn’t.
I would have him do an STD when he gets back and then six weeks later – I think six weeks is how long it takes HIV to show up. In the interim, use condoms.
She lied to you about something that was promised in the relationship. That you cared about. Your marriage is over.
OK, get that in a text and then call 911, you've got your escape route.
you wanna be a partner or a dad? Don't try to be both.
Yeah and then block her
Seriously! This is textbook SA and people just flock to defend it. People are disgusting and horrible.
Dude he was twice your age when your started dating. He was probably really manipulative as it was in the beginning and you were just too young to understand what he was doing… I really think getting out sounds best…
It is absolutely disgusting seeing so many people defend and enable blatant SA.
Ive pretty much never have gotten angry at her, let alone for wanting to hang with friends. She even had an old friend sleep over at her house once and didnt want me there because it may be weird, awkward, or boring for me. I just made it known I dont want him sleeping on her floor and to have him sleep out on the couch, which I think she had him do.
Everytime I hang out with my friends ive tried to include her, and at least let her know.
colonizer is not a racist term. it represents the actions of the people. it’s like saying im not racist but.
just because you find it offensive does not mean it’s racist.
Walk (or run) away. What do you hope to salvage?
So, what should I do?
Trust your gut. If his family is so toxic, why does he meet them every fortnight? This is actually quite a lot. Where are his friends? He could be spinning lies about having to travel for work on holidays to everyone else in his life and spending it with you. There's a reason he's keeping you separate. If it's because they're truly terrible people, he needs to be open about why.
I fell in love with someone who told me they loved me and spent half the week at my house. He didn't introduce me to anyone in his life and I didn't push, despite him meeting all my people and attending an important family wedding with me. I figured it would happen when he was ready. After 6 months, I caught him in a lie, pulled the string and everything came unravelled. He was living a double life and was still involved with his “ex” wife. Despite what I thought, I didn't know him at all. I felt like a complete idiot. Turns out he was a skilled manipulator, extremely comfortable lying. I sincerely hope your situation is different. Either way, you really need to ask yourself if you want to be with someone that can't be open with you.
My guy, lots of people ragging on you, but from how you describe her reaction to when you need naps “too bad deal with it” your instructions to her in that context isn’t condescending it’s specific because she doesn’t respect it when you want to nap. And if you legit do the majority of the housework (that includes childcare) and she doesn’t work, your relationship doesn’t sound healthy at all. Probably time to go to couples therapy.
This isn't “drama”. Why are you downplaying it?
I don't know, I feel like there's something missing here, details you're leaving out.
You're more concerned with “forgetting” than the fact your relationship has been threatened and if your husband find out later, he'll probably leave you
Ignore it. It's a bot. And it's been months.
Tell him if he doesn’t stop condescending you it’s over. And if he continues you leave him.
You're just pissing me off and I'm going into self defense mode. I feel attacked and I'm lashing back. Isn't that obvious? Your comments shaming me won't make me self reflect because even her mother and my mother both see no issues in this relationship if it were to turn into something more. (Both our mom's are friends) I've asked several others in my life is this age difference is wrong and not one single person said that it's inappropriate. Likely because they know me more than randos on Reddit. I am not a bad person. I'm so lonely and I feel as I have no purpose in life. No one to love. I am too social anxious to even go to bars or places where people are. I work, come home and walk my dog, see my family then go back home and sleep alone. I don't even know how to meet people my age. And now I have this beautiful person who seems to enjoy being around me enough to say yes to going on “dates” with me. It gives me a sense of hope.
And I'm still the bad guy. Jesus. I just want to feel human.
There was a joke made because the entire time I was basically talking to her boobs so I'm trying to do better
It already gravely injured your senior dog and went after your kid, and you're here talking about it?
It is a matter of time before it goes after your child (again) or you. Stop expressing and start taking actions.
If his friends love the dog so much, perhaps it can be re-homed with one of them who has no children or other pets and he can visit it there.
In the meantime, do you have bear spray? If not, get some, learn how to use it, and keep it handy. Baby gates are not going to protect your other pets, your child or possibly you, from this beast when it next goes off.
I am an animal lover but have witnessed too much preventable harm and loss when it comes to aggressive dogs. Do not dither around on this one.
A lot of non trans women are infertile. People can adopt.
Time for both of you to get the hell out. Don’t put yourselves through this. Life is too short.
No he does this. His friends literally decide what colours to wear. A group of them decided to wear blue and all of them wore blue
Why don't you just talk to him next time you see or talk to him?
It's easier to verbalize a “hey so what's the deal, my expectation was [___] but [___]” than it is to write a weird formal text.
its interesting that you basically equate being the breadwinner to “the household is yours.” Considering you're talking about a traditional marriage, would that not mean that she'd be responsible for everything within the household aside from payment and the childrearing? Does that not equate to being responsible for half (or more) of the functions within the family? Whether you're solely financially responsible or not, is marriage not still a partnership?
Honestly, it sounds like you dont truly want the same things but you're relenting to her desires and this whole name thing is just a way for you to stick it to her. You acknowledge that identity is important yet completely dismiss it.
Listen. Christians or at least real Christians are people who are forgiving and non-judgmental. If you messed around or had sex with your previous boyfriend that is not sinning that is being human. Any Christian would truly forgive you for just having a life I mean honestly. Forget this guy and try and expand your horizons.
I have a feeling your wife doesn’t call you a mama’s boy because you bring your mom flowers.
A kid makes this situation more difficult, but yeah, I’d be uncomfortable with my in-laws spending time with my boyfriend’s ex. When you get married, you enter into another family. Your best interests are your wife and son’s best interest. You can co-parent without being enmeshed with your exes current life.
People who rage in situations like that can get you seriously hurt with their idiocy. Even if it's a situation without a gun.
Like you guys could be driving somewhere and you get bumped and she gets out screaming and suddenly the driver who hit you is up in your face. That actual situation gets posted here pretty normally, about pointlessly heightened road rage type incidents.
So unlike what other people have said, I don't think you could even just keep her out of certain neighborhoods and avoid it that way.
He sounds like a terrible person, and a terrible friend.. who the heck invited their BEST FRIEND’s partner to a threesome, does the best friend even know???
This is 100% a dealbreaker imo.
He sexually assaulted you. It is sexual assault since you did not consent to anal sex, and he knew that.
You are NOT too loose. It is more likely that he has a “death grip” issue from too much masturbation while watching porn.
He’s gaslighting you by saying you aren’t tight enough to cover up his own sexual dysfunction. There is nothing wrong with you. And it is inexcusable that he assaulted you. Consent is an important part of a healthy sex life, and you should feel empowered to say no to any sex act that you don’t enjoy.
Uhhh, so this guy anal rapes you and gives you a crap excuse for it and you stay? Why?
Yes cancer free for 47 years. I'm sorry you went through that. A friend of mine was groomed and molested by one of her hs teachers. She reported him a few years afterwards. The whole process, even a few years later, was so hot for her. It's absolutely amazing what you both did.
This is gross. I’m early 30s and I view 19(teen) year olds as babies. She’s a predator IMO.
I’m not saying that it’s a certainty, but:
The baby trap is possible. Idk why the rule of three always seems to help sort things out, but here goes:
She’s already pregnant and she needs to “assign” an identity to the eventual father on the birth certificate.
She’s in a relationship and she wants a baby, but for some reason, conception has not occurred. Finding a pinch hitter is one of the oldest solutions out there.
She wants a baby and then wants you to get lost, or she wants a baby and then she will probably want you in the picture.
In both 2 and 3, finding a healthy younger man as a sperm donor is a quicker and less expensive method of conception.
That doesn’t mean that this is what’s going on, and I’m not judging anyone at all. If I’m not in their shoes, with their expectations and/or past experiences, I don’t dare do such a thing
We can't know her thoughts till you bump into her and ask. Only you know the true details of everything, just start ready and simple with a hi.
I think a couple of things will help to keep in mind here.
First, if he's the perfect guy but can't balance work and life enough to have a relationship with you, then he's not the perfect guy.
I'm not condemning him as a person – this kind of thing definitely happens, it's understandable. But the fact is this would be different if the thing taking up all his time and attention was out of his control – like being a parent, having a chronic illness, caring for an ailing family member, dealing with legal trouble, etc. All of that would understandably have to take precedence, and he'd have no choice but to deal with those things first, which could (but not always) leave no room for a relationship.
But this situation was his choice. He's the one making himself busy with this. There's nothing wrong with that if that's his lifelong dream, but it's still a choice. If he wanted a relationship right now, he could choose to pump the brakes a little bit, even just enough to make time to see you on the weekends. The fact that he has created a schedule in which there's no time for you, when he technically didn't have to, says that he prioritizes his work goals to the exclusion of other goals. It's absolutely his prerogative, but that's only one possible option out of many, and he chose it.
What would it be like, realistically, to be in a relationship long-term wiith somebody like that? What if his business fell through and he decided to try all over again, when you two were already married? What if you decided to have a family, and then he saw an opportunity to make big career moves right when you were having a kid? It sounds like he's the kind of guy who can't multitask – by his own admission, he's all or nothing. That means that when you're priority 1, you get all – and when you're priority 2, you get nothing.
I'm not saying he's a bad person for this. And maybe it wouldn't be like this forever, and that this time in his life is just a fluke. But he's 31. That's old enough to establish patterns, and understand your own habits and priorities. I wouldn't bet on him changing. So I'd think very hot about whether you can manage to be with someone who can't make time for his loved ones, at all, when he's focused on any other goal. Because you won't always be the goal.
With that said: I don't think you should wait around for this guy. Consider his little talk with you to be an answer given: he's made his choice. That doesn't mean you have to shut him out completely, or that trying again in the future is off the table entirely. But assume for now that it isn't going to happen, and pursue what makes you happy. Your life won't wait for anyone else. It will happen to you whether or not he's there.
How would not going on one trip make you lose “who you are”? Lol you sound incredibly selfish.
Besides, sounds like you’re going on some “white saviour” trip and I can promise you, your presence down there is less welcomed than you think.
Only time will grant you clarity in this matter…. and another woman. Please don't take that ad me saying “you just gotta get laid bro” as it's not at all what I mean… what I DO mean is, the emotional mending of another woman's compassion can work wonders when experiencing what it is you are. For what it's worth I think you made the best move for now because you'd be stuck in emotional limbo otherwise. Give it a week or two, talk to some more girls and then maybe reassess, get back jn touch with her when your heart is strong and say “hey, I just couldn't handle that then but I don't want you to view me as inaccessible to you as a friend. I just needed the space to move on in my heart and mind”.
She'll have the same rights as living under any other landlord that can kick you out at their own whim.
Break up, but don't go into too much detail. Just tell him you're not feeling it.
Guess I read it wrong, I'll see myself out.
Well after reading all of that… I can't help but wonder if there's someone else behind the scenes. A lot of the signs are there: the reduction of sex, going from being adversarial to super clingy emotionally in short periods of time, distancing herself and blaming you for all these things that weren't issues before on top of the sudden breakup.
You really need to find out more about the specifics of what he likes.
Does he like touching your feet? Licking your feet? Does he like your feet against his cock? Does he like when you touch and lick his feet? Does he like clean feet or dirty feet? Does he like socks on feet? Does he like certain kinds of shoes on feet? Does he like the idea of taking the shoes and socks off and then revealing the feet underneath? Does he like washing your feet? Does he like getting his tongue between your toes? Does he want to use his feet to play with your clit? Does he want to feel your feet as you walk on him? Does he want a foot massage? Etc.
Yes, you are.
Ignore it
Your sexual needs are legitimate. You should talk to her about how you can fulfill them. If that’s not going to happen in your marriage, which is what your wife seems to have said, you have two options: fulfill them outside the marriage, or don’t fulfill them. Not fulfilling your needs is a bad idea – it’s unsustainable and unpleasant. So talk to your wife. Ask her if she’d prefer you step outside the marriage, with her blessing, or divorce. Since she clearly doesn’t have much empathy for you, she’ll pick whatever’s best for her.
When I was younger, I always thought the idea of a prenup was unromantic and it was saying you thought the marriage would end. Now that I’m older and have my own assets, I’m more realistic. I don’t even think I’d merge finances, I’d do his, mine, and ours.
People used to get married when they were younger and hadn’t established any assets. My folks were in their early 20s and built everything together. A friend of mine bought a house while living with his girlfriend who wasn’t able to contribute much financially. She was given a small amount of equity in the home that grew on a schedule. When they broke up she was given a small equity payout. Both of them found this to be fair for what they each contributed to the household. He protected the majority of his asset, she was paid for her sweat equity and was given something to start over with.
I think it’s fine to put a pin where you are now and say what you earn going forward is a marital asset. If you love each other and want to build a life together, discuss it in a way that works out best for you.
I know he does. I do. I just need to be in the right headspace for this. It’s going to be a nasty argument. I can just tell.
go round tell the friends wife her husband cheated…….soon will all come out in the wash. truth be told his friend probably cheated too.
Yuck.
I saw your update – you are doing the right thing!
I wouldn’t. Isn’t the point of dating older men financial stability?