It's hot to tell you whether you're in the wrong or not without in-depth context.
Is he saying this because you're attention seeking while you're together, or are you directly demanding time?
It's your first relationship, how are your standards set in relation to the attention you seek? Do you have realistic expectations of him?
It could be he doesn't want the relationship and feels asphyxiated, or it could be that you have a romanticized idea of a relationship and he isn't vibing with it.
“My husband has been acting like a shitty person who routinely mocks people behind their backs infront of our kids, and I am actively encouraging it because I find mocking people funny infront of the kids. Now my kid is turning out to be a shitty person who bullies people. I DON'T KNOW HOW THIS COULD HAPPEN AND WHAT DO I DO?!”
Like seriously, what do you mean “I don't understand why he's doing all this”? He comes home, and he sees his father mocking people constantly, and he sees his mom encouraging it while laughing. What did you think was going to happen? That he would learn being a dick is wrong when his dad gets laughs from being a dick, and his mom encourages it?
Number one, you cut the shit. You accept you and your husband have played a significant role in turning your son into a bully. You and your husband need to stop being shitty and treat people with respect, both in general and ESPECIALLY when you are around your kids. Your kids are a mirror of yourself. If you don't like what you see in their behavior, that stems from you.
Number two, you clean his clock every time his bullying is reported. You take away his online access and other treats until he learns what he is doing is unacceptable. You need to clamp down, and clamp down very hot on his behavior. He thinks his bullying is funny because you encourage it in his father, so you need to show him it isn't right with punishment.
Number three, you make him write sincere apologies to the innocent kids he has bullied. They don't deserve to be caught in the crossfire because being shitty is funny to you.
Number four, you tell your husband that the whole “kids will be kids” thing is bullshit. I didn't bully people as a kid, it is just that fucking easy.
nah man what she did is kinda diabolical, and what your “friend” did was unforgivable. the literal 15 minutes you are out they run off and bone… nope nope nope. i mean what is she gonna do while you wait for her to walk down the aisle? I get why your trust is shattered and i think this one means you need to drop them both
It's hot to tell you whether you're in the wrong or not without in-depth context.
Is he saying this because you're attention seeking while you're together, or are you directly demanding time?
It's your first relationship, how are your standards set in relation to the attention you seek? Do you have realistic expectations of him?
It could be he doesn't want the relationship and feels asphyxiated, or it could be that you have a romanticized idea of a relationship and he isn't vibing with it.
“My husband has been acting like a shitty person who routinely mocks people behind their backs infront of our kids, and I am actively encouraging it because I find mocking people funny infront of the kids. Now my kid is turning out to be a shitty person who bullies people. I DON'T KNOW HOW THIS COULD HAPPEN AND WHAT DO I DO?!”
Like seriously, what do you mean “I don't understand why he's doing all this”? He comes home, and he sees his father mocking people constantly, and he sees his mom encouraging it while laughing. What did you think was going to happen? That he would learn being a dick is wrong when his dad gets laughs from being a dick, and his mom encourages it?
Number one, you cut the shit. You accept you and your husband have played a significant role in turning your son into a bully. You and your husband need to stop being shitty and treat people with respect, both in general and ESPECIALLY when you are around your kids. Your kids are a mirror of yourself. If you don't like what you see in their behavior, that stems from you.
Number two, you clean his clock every time his bullying is reported. You take away his online access and other treats until he learns what he is doing is unacceptable. You need to clamp down, and clamp down very hot on his behavior. He thinks his bullying is funny because you encourage it in his father, so you need to show him it isn't right with punishment.
Number three, you make him write sincere apologies to the innocent kids he has bullied. They don't deserve to be caught in the crossfire because being shitty is funny to you.
Number four, you tell your husband that the whole “kids will be kids” thing is bullshit. I didn't bully people as a kid, it is just that fucking easy.
nah man what she did is kinda diabolical, and what your “friend” did was unforgivable. the literal 15 minutes you are out they run off and bone… nope nope nope. i mean what is she gonna do while you wait for her to walk down the aisle? I get why your trust is shattered and i think this one means you need to drop them both
instead, I wound up cooking dinner for them
You lost me here. WTF did you cook dinner for them??? Why?
Why didn't YOU just get on the app or drive over to the restaurant and get what you wanted? They could make their own effing tacos.