I do agree with your sentiment, but I also don’t think we have enough information about previous occurrences.
We have a lot of information about this occurrence. Enough for me to see that there were extenuating circumstances, a lot of stress, and an effort on his part to try to connect with his wife prior to the outburst.
Then we have a vague sentence about how this isn’t the first or second time something has happened.
It’s possible that there have been 5 instances over the course of the entire multi-year relationship. It’s possible that the details of those situations would show that OP also contributed to those situations in an unhealthy manner.
Like you I grew up with some unhealthy behaviors going on and for my situation, both parties contributed. Person A would try to get something resolved in a reasonable manner for quite some time while Person B poked at them and dodged the problem until eventually person A hit their limit and overreacted and person B said “you have problems and need help and caused this whole problem”. At the end of the day both people were equally responsible. I’ve also experienced relationships where one person absolutely put their anger on others and did so all by themselves.
Without the details of the other situations and honestly without the other person’s side, i don’t think it’s possible to determine what is really going on here. I don’t mean to downplay the husband’s outburst or justify it, but I also don’t think “this isn’t the first time this has happened” is really enough info for us to be basing any conclusion on.
How honoured you are to be asked to speak, how happy you are for her and best wishes to the happy couple for a wonderful life together.
I do agree with your sentiment, but I also don’t think we have enough information about previous occurrences.
We have a lot of information about this occurrence. Enough for me to see that there were extenuating circumstances, a lot of stress, and an effort on his part to try to connect with his wife prior to the outburst.
Then we have a vague sentence about how this isn’t the first or second time something has happened.
It’s possible that there have been 5 instances over the course of the entire multi-year relationship. It’s possible that the details of those situations would show that OP also contributed to those situations in an unhealthy manner.
Like you I grew up with some unhealthy behaviors going on and for my situation, both parties contributed. Person A would try to get something resolved in a reasonable manner for quite some time while Person B poked at them and dodged the problem until eventually person A hit their limit and overreacted and person B said “you have problems and need help and caused this whole problem”. At the end of the day both people were equally responsible. I’ve also experienced relationships where one person absolutely put their anger on others and did so all by themselves.
Without the details of the other situations and honestly without the other person’s side, i don’t think it’s possible to determine what is really going on here. I don’t mean to downplay the husband’s outburst or justify it, but I also don’t think “this isn’t the first time this has happened” is really enough info for us to be basing any conclusion on.
Did you ask her if they actually had sex or are you just assuming? It seems like everything worked out do I’m not sure what’s going on
Do you plan on doing that shit again? Are you trying to lose everything you have, your home, your family, your friends, for some ass?
It’s maybe because of you taking drugs before. He seems like a control freak in general. Be happy that you are rid of him!