Listen to your friends. They are able to see the situation more objectively. This man has had 9 extra years of life experience compared to you. At 20, that's a big deal. I'm not saying he intends to be a predator/creep/whatever, but if he knows you're only 20 and he's fine with continuing a serious relationship, yikes. Leave now while you're still on friendly terms.
As a bisexual woman I hate that mentality so much, because it feels like it invalidates and diminishes what sex is between two women (or woman and transman or NB person, which I’ve also seen mentioned as “not cheating”) – like it’s not real sex if another penis isn’t involved somewhere.
If he’s okay with her being with women but not other men, that’s fine; I’ve had friends in relationships like that (man and woman, both could have sex with their own sex but not the other). But to just not consider it on the same level as being fingered by a man just rubs me the wrong way (pun not originally intended).
Yes, it did, I also had an emotionally abusive ex encouraging mutual friends to, in effect, sexually harass me. It got really gross. My mom is the best. I am so lucky I got out on the other side of it.
Is it possible she has the wrong diagnosis or needs to try a new/switch medication?
You’re rebuilding trust. To do that you have to follow your word to the letter. You said you wouldn’t text her until Christmas. So don’t.
Maybe you can agree on a time limit or a quiet time – if it lasts later than 10 p.m. say, or on a weekend 11 p.m., then he has to shut the music down?
Don't do this during a party though, choose a neutral time.
Worst case scenario, you could go sit in a cafe until the quiet time, then calmly go to bed.
Listen to your friends. They are able to see the situation more objectively. This man has had 9 extra years of life experience compared to you. At 20, that's a big deal. I'm not saying he intends to be a predator/creep/whatever, but if he knows you're only 20 and he's fine with continuing a serious relationship, yikes. Leave now while you're still on friendly terms.
As a bisexual woman I hate that mentality so much, because it feels like it invalidates and diminishes what sex is between two women (or woman and transman or NB person, which I’ve also seen mentioned as “not cheating”) – like it’s not real sex if another penis isn’t involved somewhere.
If he’s okay with her being with women but not other men, that’s fine; I’ve had friends in relationships like that (man and woman, both could have sex with their own sex but not the other). But to just not consider it on the same level as being fingered by a man just rubs me the wrong way (pun not originally intended).
Yes, it did, I also had an emotionally abusive ex encouraging mutual friends to, in effect, sexually harass me. It got really gross. My mom is the best. I am so lucky I got out on the other side of it.
Is it possible she has the wrong diagnosis or needs to try a new/switch medication?
Yikes on a bike.
I don't blame your son for moving away. I would too.