It would be fair to tell her that unless she gets into some therapy/counseling to better manage her stresses you won't stick around. For whatever reason you seem to be hanging back waiting for her to make all the decisions. That's not how it's supposed to work. You also get a vote in whether or not to continue this relationship.
If you haven't already, let her know how you feel. Discuss the entire situation with your friend until you feel that she has good grasp on the reality that this guy is actually awful.
You can still be a safe space for her to talk about it without loving their relationship or her behavior if you want. If she starts to get too invested or upset at how things are going just remind her that it was never great and she knew he was a waste of time from the start. Eventually, it will get old and it won't be fun for her anymore.
Sounds like she is going to do what she wants regardless of what people around her think. Encouraging her to leave him alone might only make her want to shut you out. It seems to be more a matter of if you want access to her personal life or not. If you would rather not know what she is getting into – just tell her you don't want to talk about him, wish her luck, and change the subject.
I don't disagree that's for sure.
It would be fair to tell her that unless she gets into some therapy/counseling to better manage her stresses you won't stick around. For whatever reason you seem to be hanging back waiting for her to make all the decisions. That's not how it's supposed to work. You also get a vote in whether or not to continue this relationship.
Well they aren't just friends. He's a liar, a serial cheater, lazy, and entitled.
I know I only have your side of the story, but that's the read I'm getting.
If you haven't already, let her know how you feel. Discuss the entire situation with your friend until you feel that she has good grasp on the reality that this guy is actually awful.
You can still be a safe space for her to talk about it without loving their relationship or her behavior if you want. If she starts to get too invested or upset at how things are going just remind her that it was never great and she knew he was a waste of time from the start. Eventually, it will get old and it won't be fun for her anymore.
Sounds like she is going to do what she wants regardless of what people around her think. Encouraging her to leave him alone might only make her want to shut you out. It seems to be more a matter of if you want access to her personal life or not. If you would rather not know what she is getting into – just tell her you don't want to talk about him, wish her luck, and change the subject.