Oh no. Yeah, that definitely sounds like something is up. Little to no expression of affection or love when there previously was expression is a definite sign. It honestly might be best to ask her what her feelings are and if it's best for you two to be separated. I know it's tough, especially since you've been together SO long, but that might be the best option here. It's not good if she's secretly pining after others while still having you. That would be cruel on her part, and you don't deserve that.
I'll start off by saying I'm genuinely sorry about your current financial situation and all, that sounds incredibly stressful and frustrating.
Just because you had an agreement that your boyfriend could have sex with you while you sleep doesn't mean he wasn't kind of an asshole for trying to do so when you obviously weren't in the mood; you had an awful night that you spent crying… I feel it would be common sense to not try having sex with you that night, but unfortunately, it wasn't.
Assuming you even want to keep the sleep sex agreement intact, tell him you don't want to wakeup to sex when you're having a bad night. Maybe establish a rule that sleep sex is only okay when all is well; when you don't have horrible days and fall asleep crying, for example.
Any parent who would hide their children is a gross human being.
Also, he's an irresponsible liar and manipulator. When he said this:
after the first kid, they started having more problems, and with family pressure they had 2 more. he had told me he had no control over the pregnancies because the mother would just keep the baby after saying that she didn't think she's pregnant.
That was a bunch of BS. If you don't want kids, you use birth control and condoms, or you do not have sex.
You need to start thinking logically and be honest with yourself. You are dating a morally bankrupt person. If he would treat his ex and his children, his flesh and blood, like they don't exist, imagine how he will treat you.
As dumb as this sounds, watch Supernanny with her; there’s plenty of episodes on YouTube. First step might be learning how to preform a proper time out when her daughter starts throwing a tantrum.
It’s the same. Try telling her you’ve been touching up work wife to test out new things, or work boyfriend if you think the same sec thing negates the cheating aspect, and watch her go off like a rocket and prove she sees you as a passive pussy she can do as she pleases with AND without
he enjoyed the benefits of having someone take care of the space
…except now he's realized you're not doing that, at least not to the level one would expect from an unemployed uneducated adult. He's working 8 hours a day. Are you cleaning an equal amount of time?
Not OP but have same view point on cosmetic surgery. If you feel the need to have that done, great, do you. I'm just not into it.
It's the lack of confidence in your personality that makes you have those sort of cosmetic surgeries, and I get it, but it's just not attractive to ME.
Everyone is going to have deal breakers. Some seem petty for sure, but it doesn't change how the person feels. It's fine. It's just incompatibility. Plenty of other people out there for both of you.
There is another possibility: fibromyalgia. Pressure is registered as pain. If you often feel tender to the touch, like how most people feel at a bruised location, the it could be this or some other medical issue.
If it's not that, then yes, I agree with everyone else, he is a sadist and is bullying you and you need to run before it gets worse.
There is another possibility: fibromyalgia. Pressure is registered as pain. If you often feel tender to the touch, like how most people feel at a bruised location, the it could be this or some other medical issue.
If it's not that, then yes, I agree with everyone else, he is a sadist and is bullying you and you need to run before it gets worse.
Okay idk where youre at but- i am a mom of 3 children and i could not bare to think this could be my daughters one day. If you dont have anywhere else to go, my loft is open to you. Im in Oregon, but if you can manage a way here, i will gladly house you and protect you until youve gotten back on your feet. Be that a month or 6 months, id gladly help out. Ive been in your shoes, it does not get better in that situation. It took me 3.5 years to get out, and now i have been with my amazing and wonderful husband for 5 years this year, someone who treats me the way i deserve. There is hope for you, but not with him unfortunately.
Anyway, my offer to you stands. Feel free to private message me if youd like. I do think itd be smart to contact your parents, being the Cheif of Police daughter, i feel that theyd be great help especially only 6 hours away from you.
i’ve had something similar happen to me very recently. except i was only seeing this guy for about a couple weeks and his ex creeped me out so much that i decided to cut ties with him. i felt very uncomfortable with the way she would copy me. my last straw was when she texted me that she would take my brains out because i took him away from her. crazy exes like those definitely exist. maybe i should’ve stuck with that guy but tbh i wasn’t that invested so it was easy for me to just run away from the trouble. although in your case it’s completely different. i hope you find out a solution.
Oh no. Yeah, that definitely sounds like something is up. Little to no expression of affection or love when there previously was expression is a definite sign. It honestly might be best to ask her what her feelings are and if it's best for you two to be separated. I know it's tough, especially since you've been together SO long, but that might be the best option here. It's not good if she's secretly pining after others while still having you. That would be cruel on her part, and you don't deserve that.
I'll start off by saying I'm genuinely sorry about your current financial situation and all, that sounds incredibly stressful and frustrating.
Just because you had an agreement that your boyfriend could have sex with you while you sleep doesn't mean he wasn't kind of an asshole for trying to do so when you obviously weren't in the mood; you had an awful night that you spent crying… I feel it would be common sense to not try having sex with you that night, but unfortunately, it wasn't.
Assuming you even want to keep the sleep sex agreement intact, tell him you don't want to wakeup to sex when you're having a bad night. Maybe establish a rule that sleep sex is only okay when all is well; when you don't have horrible days and fall asleep crying, for example.
Good thinking, good living
It is a huge deal.
Any parent who would hide their children is a gross human being.
Also, he's an irresponsible liar and manipulator. When he said this:
after the first kid, they started having more problems, and with family pressure they had 2 more. he had told me he had no control over the pregnancies because the mother would just keep the baby after saying that she didn't think she's pregnant.
That was a bunch of BS. If you don't want kids, you use birth control and condoms, or you do not have sex.
You need to start thinking logically and be honest with yourself. You are dating a morally bankrupt person. If he would treat his ex and his children, his flesh and blood, like they don't exist, imagine how he will treat you.
As dumb as this sounds, watch Supernanny with her; there’s plenty of episodes on YouTube. First step might be learning how to preform a proper time out when her daughter starts throwing a tantrum.
of course that makes sense thank you
I’d been over his two days in a row
It’s the same. Try telling her you’ve been touching up work wife to test out new things, or work boyfriend if you think the same sec thing negates the cheating aspect, and watch her go off like a rocket and prove she sees you as a passive pussy she can do as she pleases with AND without
he enjoyed the benefits of having someone take care of the space
…except now he's realized you're not doing that, at least not to the level one would expect from an unemployed uneducated adult. He's working 8 hours a day. Are you cleaning an equal amount of time?
I wish there was an award for stupidest comment. You'd have several.
There's nothing wrong with being a little scared about something new. Let it play out, if she mentions it again, tell her it's normal.
Not OP but have same view point on cosmetic surgery. If you feel the need to have that done, great, do you. I'm just not into it.
It's the lack of confidence in your personality that makes you have those sort of cosmetic surgeries, and I get it, but it's just not attractive to ME.
Everyone is going to have deal breakers. Some seem petty for sure, but it doesn't change how the person feels. It's fine. It's just incompatibility. Plenty of other people out there for both of you.
You’re not racist but She is
Leave the dumb b****
There is another possibility: fibromyalgia. Pressure is registered as pain. If you often feel tender to the touch, like how most people feel at a bruised location, the it could be this or some other medical issue.
If it's not that, then yes, I agree with everyone else, he is a sadist and is bullying you and you need to run before it gets worse.
There is another possibility: fibromyalgia. Pressure is registered as pain. If you often feel tender to the touch, like how most people feel at a bruised location, the it could be this or some other medical issue.
If it's not that, then yes, I agree with everyone else, he is a sadist and is bullying you and you need to run before it gets worse.
Okay idk where youre at but- i am a mom of 3 children and i could not bare to think this could be my daughters one day. If you dont have anywhere else to go, my loft is open to you. Im in Oregon, but if you can manage a way here, i will gladly house you and protect you until youve gotten back on your feet. Be that a month or 6 months, id gladly help out. Ive been in your shoes, it does not get better in that situation. It took me 3.5 years to get out, and now i have been with my amazing and wonderful husband for 5 years this year, someone who treats me the way i deserve. There is hope for you, but not with him unfortunately.
Anyway, my offer to you stands. Feel free to private message me if youd like. I do think itd be smart to contact your parents, being the Cheif of Police daughter, i feel that theyd be great help especially only 6 hours away from you.
i’ve had something similar happen to me very recently. except i was only seeing this guy for about a couple weeks and his ex creeped me out so much that i decided to cut ties with him. i felt very uncomfortable with the way she would copy me. my last straw was when she texted me that she would take my brains out because i took him away from her. crazy exes like those definitely exist. maybe i should’ve stuck with that guy but tbh i wasn’t that invested so it was easy for me to just run away from the trouble. although in your case it’s completely different. i hope you find out a solution.