First off, you are not blowing up anything. She already did that the first time she cheated.
Secondly this whole “nobody gets to control me” is a bogus argument. She committed a massive breach of trust. That doesn't just go away because she said the words I'm sorry. You've done your part by choosing to trust her again. Her part was supposed to be choosing to act in a way that reinforced and validated your trust. She's not doing that. She's not holding up her end of the deal.
I know it feels like you're trying to fight for your home and your family. But the core of your family is you and your kids. She certainly isn't showing that they or you are her priority.
So don't control her choices. Control your own. Find the courage to leave.
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First off, you are not blowing up anything. She already did that the first time she cheated.
Secondly this whole “nobody gets to control me” is a bogus argument. She committed a massive breach of trust. That doesn't just go away because she said the words I'm sorry. You've done your part by choosing to trust her again. Her part was supposed to be choosing to act in a way that reinforced and validated your trust. She's not doing that. She's not holding up her end of the deal.
I know it feels like you're trying to fight for your home and your family. But the core of your family is you and your kids. She certainly isn't showing that they or you are her priority.
So don't control her choices. Control your own. Find the courage to leave.